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Wrapped in a Riddle

Mystery Blogger Award

I would like to thank my fellow tea-lover Dr Tanya of Salted Caramel for this award. Tanya has an interesting and informative blog, and I’m very happy she thought of me. 😻

Now, what’s the Mystery Blogger Award?

“It’s an award for amazing bloggers with ingenious posts. Their blog not only captivates; it inspires and motivates. They are one of the best out there, and they deserve every recognition they get. This award is also for bloggers who find fun and inspiration in blogging, and they do it with so much love and passion.” ~ Okoto Enigma

Wow! Thank you again, Tanya! 🌺

Now I am to answer Tanya’s 5 questions and then tell 3 things about myself. At that point, I will end this award ceremony without doing my own tags or questions, as is my preference. 🦋

Five Questions For The Nominees Of This Award

1. How old is your blog now?

– My first post on Light Motifs II was March 25, 2011, so almost 8.5 years at the time of this posting. 🥳

2. What do you enjoy most about blogging?

– Currently, I appreciate the opportunity to have an audience for my fiction and poetry.

3. How important do you think Social Media is for the success of a blog?

– I consider the WP blogging community to be social media. My entries autopost to Twitter, but that doesn’t help much. When I had a Facebook account, I autoposted there too and did receive a bit more traffic and comments, but it wasn’t that significant. Most FB’ers posted their comments on the FB side. Annoying! 😡

4. How would you define a sucessful blog? In other words, what do think a successful blog looks like?

– A site that updates frequently with engaging content. Since it’s a blog, I usually expect some mutual following/commenting unless the writing is so utterly fabulous that I don’t care. Almost always, this is not the case. Except for you, of course! 🤣

5. Funny/Weird Question: if you were a superhero, what superpower would you like to have and what would you do with it?

– I would choose invisibility, and I’d use it for evil. 😈

Here are 3 things about me:

1. I use butterfly imagery a lot in my writing, but in reality the butterfly life cycle isn’t very poetic or romantic.

2. My fiction is really fiction; it just seems real sometimes because I’m a good writer.

3. The female characters in my stories are not me, though perhaps some of them do things I wish I could have done. ❤️

~*~

© 2019 Paula Light and Light Motifs II. No unauthorized use permitted. Please check out Paula’s books for sale on Amazon.

Mental Health ~ Social Media

Thinking

Beckie has been providing a great series of prompts about various topics related to mental health. I haven’t been chiming in, but I made some time for this one. [My bad, I originally credited it to Ashley, and I’ll leave her link below, since it’s where I found the post to use.]

This week’s topic is social media.

Prompt #1 Questions: 

1. Does social media affect your overall mental health?  If so, please describe how it does affect you? 

– Yes, blogging affects my mental health in a positive way because I have control over my blog and can vet the comments (when necessary). Twitter can go both ways. I read good poetry there, which is inspiring; but sometimes I end up reading too much of the political garbage, which is a downer.

2. How does it make you feel when you see family/friends posting pictures of them living their life happily?  

– This is mostly irrelevant to me because I am not on Facebook or Instagram. When I see bloggers posting happy photos, I smile with them.

3. Do the following people make you feel inadequate in any way due to your mental health?    

– Is the question about envy? Am I sad when I see people in couples? No. I know what it would take for me to be in a relationship and am not willing to make those sacrifices (again). As far as family photos, I have lots of those myself, but I don’t post many out of respect for their privacy.

4. What has been your overall experience with social media?  And, what sites do you follow?  

– As I said, blogging has been a wonderful and positive experience. The writing community here on WP is full of kind and supportive people. Twitter is somewhat positive. Facebook was a net negative and I let it go. Instagram too.

5. Have you considered not being on social media?  

– Sometimes, when I feel time-pressured and discouraged by zero book sales. Like, why am I bothering? I could just read and watch TV. But it’s fun regardless.

6. If you have quit social media sites, has it improved your mental health and stability?  

– Quitting Facebook was one of the best decisions I’ve made. Not only did it suck me into the most pointless arguments about the SOS, but it gave me the false impression I had all these “friends,” which of course was bullshit. Most of them couldn’t even be bothered to visit me here after there was no link in their facefeed. Bookmark? Huh?

7. Has social media ever triggered you in a negative way?  Explain how?  

– Yes. There is a problem with some of the sites in that they are relentless in showing you people (“suggestions”) you would rather never see again. Forex, I can’t log on to LinkedIn without them suggesting I connect with the man who broke my heart. There’s no way to block him or whatever. It’s been long enough now, and my heart has been smashed up worse, for his face not to matter to me any longer. But there were a few years I could not touch the site.

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Prompt #2  We are all familiar with “Selfies”  Describe for us, what is the first thing you think of when you see your family/friends keep sending and/or posting selfies?

– This is no longer an issue for me, since I’m off FB. I love seeing any/all pics of my family, and my friends aren’t into selfies. I’ve never perfected the art of the selfie. Back on FB, there were some women who took a lot of selfies and it always appeared like a desperate attention-seeking ploy.

Then again, aren’t we all on social media to get attention of one kind or another?

~*~

© 2019 Paula Light and Light Motifs II. No unauthorized use permitted. Please check out Paula’s books for sale on Amazon.

FPQ28: Ughhh him again 🤮

Fandango provocatively asks…

“Do you believe that Donald Trump is an effective American president who should remain in office despite having accepted aid from a foreign adversary (Russia) and having committed obstruction of justice into the investigation of Russian interference in the 2016 Presidential elections? Do you believe that Trump should or should not be impeached for his actions? Why?”

I’m commanded to have “fun” with this question! 😳 First, beyond the way the question seems to be directing an answer by the way it’s framed, there was a long set-up to it that I didn’t copypasta. But this isn’t a criticism ~ Fandango can word his FPQ’s any way he wants. I’m just observing.

Second, there’s a lot to unpack here. I think I should take the whole thing apart, which will take a while. I can’t come up with a quick answer to this one.

Donald Trump is not an effective POTUS. He’s a lying, obnoxious, self-aggrandizing, disgusting, egotistical jerk. He’s rude, crude, and divisive. He indulges in racism and misogyny when it suits him. He doesn’t believe laws apply to him, though he’s quick to hug the flag, and though he ran on “drain the swamp,” his admin is full of swamp creatures pandering to him 24/7. He cares nothing for the American people, only for enriching himself and his family, and plastering his name everywhere.

I do not think Trump “should” remain in office. He’s bad for us and for the planet. It would be great if he and Pence would both immediately resign due to maybe God demanding it (or whatever works) and then Nancy P takes over until the 2020 election.

But do I think Trump should be impeached for the stuff Fandango describes? No.

Why not? Impeachment means bringing charges. First, the charges have to be agreed upon. That will involve a shit ton of arguing and tweeting among Democrats at a time when Democrats should be coming together with a unifying message to defeat Trump, along with other Republicans, in 2020.

I know this is a silly dream, that Democrats can get themselves organized again with a unifying message to inspire their base to vote, but yet I haz hope. 🦋

Say impeachment charges are brought and voted on by the House… then what? Nothing. A big fat zero. The Senate won’t agree to remove Trump from office. So, now we’ve wasted all this time, when Dems could have been campaigning (and you’d better believe Trump will be campaigning like mad through it all, portraying himself as a victim like none other), only to LOSE.

Trump will crow about his “win” and Dems will be scrambling in 2020 to come up with some way to beat him, along with other Republicans too, in the looming election after losing the dumb impeachment fight.

Bleh. 🤮

We Don’t Want Him

Nicholas Sparks is trending because he refused to accept an LGBTQ 🏳️‍🌈 club in the Christian school he founded and there’s some ongoing litigation yada. Apparently part of the case has been settled, and he has the legal right to be intolerant, so that’s cool. I more or less support keeping it legal for private clubs to arbitrarily let in and keep out whom they please, as opposed to landlords, employers, public schools, etc. (Whether they should get tax breaks is a different issue.)

Just because something is legal however doesn’t make it good or right. It’s also legal to cheat on your wife. But that’s not what I came here to discuss today. If you don’t already know, Nicholas Sparks is a writer, a hugely bestselling writer. His books have been made into movies. You’ve surely heard of The Notebook? Well, there you go.

In the frenzy to bash Sparks, people have been conflating his books with romance novels and dumping on the whole genre. Now, I don’t mind bashing Sparks ~ I made a yucky 🤮 face on Twitter myself. I can’t stand his sterile prose ~ and that was before I knew he was super religious. Now my review of Safe Haven from 2013 makes a lot more sense.

But let’s be clear: Nicholas Sparks is not a romance novelist. He says himself he isn’t one, and he is correct. He writes general fiction (“love stories”) with romantic elements. It’s an important distinction, peeps! To be a romance novel, a story must have a Happily Ever After ending. If you want to bash the genre, go ahead. If you want to rag on Sparks, for his politics or his writing or both, have at it.

But please don’t lump Nicholas Sparks in with romance novelists. Cuz that just pisses me right off. 😡💥🔥 He’s not welcome in our club. On the whole, you will find the protags in romance novels to be a tolerant lot, or they become tolerant as the story progresses.

I note that in The Daily Beast article I linked in my first sentence, Sparks bags on the whole romance novel genre because he’s a stupid ass who has read none of the books he’s criticizing. Romance novels are not about “the taming of a man” ~ if anything, they err on the side of misogyny, even though they are written largely by women and mostly from the POVs of the female protagonists. What they are, are fantasies of what it would be like if an alpha hero fell in love with you and wanted you more than anything on this earth, and indeed would do anything on this earth to make you his own. And he succeeds. That is what romance novels are and why those of us who love them, love them. ❤️❤️❤️

Sparks can stick with his yawningly vanilla pudding Ken-doll heroes because there is obviously a market for bland safe smooth love too.

^^^ The sexual excitement level in a Sparks’ novel goes from zero to pudding.

Surprised by Stats

As I’ve said, I don’t obsess over stats, here or on Twitter. If I did, I’d drive myself (more) bonkers. But I do find certain things peculiar.

Forex, I’ve been steadily and slowly gaining blog followers, which is nice (waves to new peeps, who probably aren’t reading), but yet my views have decreased. Is that not odd? I find that odd. More followers should mean more views, one would think. Luckily, I do not monetize my blog, so I won’t be losing any advertising pennies over this. Hurrah!

I never go granular and try to figure out when the best time is to post to get the most views because… I simply can’t be bothered. I try to remember to spread out my posts a little, except when I forget and just hit publish instead of schedule for later. Oopsy.

Some posts get 20 likes and others get 50. Why? Who knows! Is it because a post is especially “good” that it gets more likes, or has a more eye-catching photo attached? Idk. I’m as surprised as what people like and don’t like here in Blogville as I was back in the murky, scaryland of dating sites.

But, as has been noted many times by me and others, liking often has little to do with the content of a post, amirite? Bloggers power through their feeds when the mood strikes, mass-liking stuff without reading any of it. We can tell, can’t we? It’s only a group of us who regularly read each other’s work, plus some occasional drop-ins.

Monday I wrote a poem on Twitter that now has 42 likes, which is nothing for that place, but a lot for me. Usually my poems there are lucky to get 4-5 likes. Why did that one get 10x more? Who knows?!

My Social Media Ranked

Although this reminds me of a game of pool, it’s actually a fun prompt from John Holton: rank your social media from most to least favorite.

(I was going to do them all, including ones I never had, by saying something funny. But then I realized my funny things weren’t funny, so now I’m just doing ones I know.)

1. WordPress, best SM site by far. I love to blog, simple as that. Love to write stories and poems and also jabber on about whatever at any length. Love that it’s easy to delete stuff as well, find other bloggers, comment, block commenters, and have a way of tracking comments elsewhere. Love the supportive camaraderie here and the vast variety of interests. Love how easy it is to create a new blog and keep it private, as I did for NaNoWriMo.

2. Blogger. Welp, if I didn’t have WP, I’d use Blogger, as I used to, and it would be fine, though not as fabulous. I’d still get to blog though, which is the main thing. The nice thing about Blogger is it’s connected to my Gmail and other Google products. It never seemed as glitchy as WP, but to be fair, WP has more features.

3. Twitter. I like Twitter for the poets and the poetry prompts. I get inspired there at times to write different sorts of poems from here. I’ll read some news too, but I stay out of the flames. It’s all the same crap I’ve seen forever on the internets. 🔥

4. Yahoo. Talking about the “old” Yahoo now. I deleted my accounts, including my Flickr, after their massive hack. But I have fond memories of the old Yahoo, where you could find new people to chat with in their groups and on their Messenger service. It wasn’t all hookers and spam then. Please excuse the nostalgia moment.

5. YouTube. This is a good free service for music and music vids. I don’t use it to listen to hideously annoying speeches or self-help garbage promo or political ranting. Gahhh! But I use their app several times per week to link to vids for music prompts and such.

6. G+. RIP. It was a good idea that never took off. I tried to participate off and on, but peeps couldn’t tear themselves away from the FB monster. One feature I lurved there was their filtering ability ~ you could easily make some posts and photos private to family or certain friends without others knowing they were excluded. 😢

7. Messenger. More FB nonsense. I have to keep it in order to chat with certain people who don’t like texting. It annoys me hugely, but wheee see Paula compromise. At least it can stay hidden, unlike FB itself, where every time you comment to a friend, one of their idiot friends picks a fight with you. 😡

8. Instagram. For me, IG was a relatively harmless time-suck. I only posted photos of Gatsby, food, sunsets, etc. But it’s connected to FB (see below), and more importantly you’re contributing to the insane consumer body image culture just by being on there. I deleted it with FB in March of 2018.

9. SnapChat. When I was on, it was indeed snappy. Now, I guess it too has been hacked and people are saving photos they should not. But I didn’t send risqué photos; I was using it for fun, not for flirting. I found it stupid and pointless though and deleted it after a couple weeks. 💤

10. DropBox. I found this annoying. Maybe I wasn’t using it right, or maybe you have to pay to unlock the best features. But I didn’t see the point. I can use Google docs or just text/email stuff. Do people chat on here? Not sure why it’s in the “social” pile.

11. WhatsApp. Another FB product, one that allegedly doesn’t compromise your privacy. Lol! Hey, I have a bridge for sale, interested? I used this for a while, meh. It wasn’t as convenient as Messenger, and now I have negative feelings toward it cuz of this one dickhead I was on last with.

12. Facebook. Horrible place that sucks out your soul while stealing all your data. Then they apologize and do more of it. Again and again. So glad I’m out of there permanently. Yes, I miss the handful of nice people I used to interact with, but hello I am right here. They have my email and phone too. It’s their choice to become strangers to me. 😛

Mystery Blogger Award

Rory, of A Guy Called Bloke, has gifted me with this wonderful award to brighten up my morning. Thank you, Rory! I must say that Rory is among my favorite bloggers ~ he really makes an effort to draw our little community together by posting a variety of super fun interactive games, stories, and linked events. He also makes the rounds of his followed favorites regularly, and not merely to drop likes (guilty) but to leave meaningful and funny comments. I’ve found many other great bloggers via his links and games too because he makes an effort to introduce us to one another. Not least, Rory is a fantastic storyteller! I love his poems and his creativity. I don’t know how he finds the time for so much writing; and today I learned he plays WoW too? My gosh. He must never sleep! 😂

Award Guidance

Thank whoever gifted you and include a link to their blog. ✅

Mention the creator of the award and provide a link as well. ✅

Tell your readers 3 things about yourself.

1. I put my novel Ghosted on hold, since it made me too stressed to keep failing to progress on it. Not to mention that once it’s done… so what? It’ll sell about 10 copies like all my other books, so why bother?

2. I’m in chronic pain, which gets me down at times. Not everyone has the cheery TV pain personality and focuses on their “blessings” every minute.

3. I suppose I should write something upbeat so I don’t sound like a horrible crab… errr, my cat was healthy at his last checkup, yayyy! 🐱💖

Answer the questions from the person who gifted you the Award.

Rory posted a video of skeletons and things dancing in a graveyard and asked…

Would you do the above dance naked on the rooftop for a cookie?

No.

Why Not?

Because I don’t want to get arrested.

You would? Really? Why?

N/A.

Ok, how about for 1000 in your currency?

Still no.

Ok, how about for a 100,000 in your currency?

Okay. I’ll pick the rooftop and let you know when I find one sufficiently deserted.

Choose 3 bloggers that you wish to gift the Award to.

I choose all bloggers who haven’t yet received a mystery award. YOU ARE TAGGED!

Ask 5 questions of your choice with one weird or funny one.

1. Are you still using Facebook?

2. Why or why not?

3. What about Twitter?

4. Add me on Twitter? @lightm0tifs

5. Why do we have to take all the tea in China and dump it in the deep blue sea just because “she” is as sweet as Tupelo honey???

Notify those you gift the Award to.

YOU KNOW WHO YOU ARE! 😛

First World Problem

So, I stayed in bed extra long this morning because it was around 27 degrees in my apartment and I didn’t want to brave the frozen air. My cat seems to be super energized by the cold though. He’s so weird. Anyway, my phone battery finally lost all charge, at which point I got up.

Took a hot shower, had hot tea, yada. Now my phone was charged a bunch, so I sat down to deal with things again, but half my apps didn’t know me including WP. Fine whatever. Logged in, etc.

But when you re-log-in to the WP app, it doesn’t behave like other apps. The Gmail app, forex, will have your draft emails. The Twitter app keeps your saved stuff. But WP? Nope. All my saved searches and posts were wiped out. This is why I have no FOWC, WOTD, RDP, etc. Sure, I could go find them again, but meh.

I also read an article today about detoxing from your phone. I thought, welp, this is a good start, since I lost my prompts and am now forced to work on my to-do list. I got a lot done. There’s always more though. So much more.

I’ve also been reading depressing articles about selling books via Amazon. Might have to rethink where I want to sell my next one. Every good thing gets ruined by greed and scammers. 😢

Hope everyone is having a good Saturday. I’m going to continue to slog away. Posts have been scheduled ~ enjoy! 🎶

Tuesday Noodles

From Rory and Doodle Pip…

Is Social Media Ruining Genuine Friendship & Encouraging More Loneliness?

Actually, I think it is and isn’t, depending on the person and circumstances. Genuine friendships can be ruined by lies and gossip getting out of control on social media in ways that didn’t use to happen. By the time you have a chance to catch your breath, everyone and his brother have weighed in on your personal situation. It’s crazy! And it can make apologizing and one-on-one conversation nearly impossible after things have spiraled into the public or even semi-public arena. Sometimes it feels easier just to walk away from a friendship than to deal with an entire tree of Facebook harpies on top of the original problem.

On the other hand, some of us who have felt isolated and relatively friendless because of whatever reason have found communities of like oddballs online (or even one or two others who grok our special weirdness), and this has been such a blessing, for lack of a less loaded term. What a freaking relief after all these years to “meet,” even if only on a screen, another human who has experienced some of the same shitty things we have. Someone who gets our strange sense of humor. Someone who aligns with us politically. Who collects blue crystal spiders. Or believes life began on Neptune. Whatever! There’s someone somewhere who we can discuss this with, and odds are good it won’t be our next door neighbor or someone at work, but probably someone in another state or country.

With our one weird friend in our pocket, we can now go about our daily life faking normalcy without feeling so all alone.

But! Because we have the weird friend or two, and the ability to find more tailored friends online, it’s so seductive to ignore meatspace people who don’t get us, which is pretty much everyone. And since online friends tend to ghost or take breaks sans explanation, sometimes you’re left feeling even emptier than before.

Why Do People Bully Others?

Insecurity. Yep. This is textbook bullying, mostly by men who are “losers” according to cultural standards, but online they have the ability to hurt others, especially when they clump together in a bropod.

Avoid Own Problems. For sure. I think many of us Usenet “combat prose warriors” were in avoidance mode. I was. It was an escape from my home life, and I’m sure I wasn’t alone in that. We were all spending waaay too much time there to have healthy offline relationships.

Look Cool. Maybe. I guess in partisan politics anyone who bashes a Trump supporter looks cool to other Trump haters and the same goes for the other side, but I’m sick of it all.

For Fun. Absolutely. There’s this thing on Twitter called “hate-following.” Like if you hate Trump, you don’t block him or mute him, but instead you follow him and mock his tweets and anyone who supports him. He doesn’t read the comments or engage, so it just makes him appear to have more followers. Counterproductive! Also, why would anyone waste their time doing this? It must be fun!

Which Stigma/Taboo Is Worse?

Mental Health. Is this even a stigma? Seems like everyone is claiming to have a disorder nowadays from being “on the spectrum” to OCD (guilty) to whatever else.

Self Harm. This is sad and scary, but so many have fessed up to it that it doesn’t seem like a stigma either.

Suicidality. This is scary to me, such that I would constantly worry about being close friends with someone who had these thoughts, since I’d feel like I would need to be on high alert. Maybe that turns it into a taboo, if people are scared of it. But you have to be. How can you not be, if you care about someone?

Bullying. People who bully are assholes and should be shunned. This should be a taboo. It isn’t though. The POTUS is a bully and enjoys a solid chunk of support from his base. Same with other politicians and celebs. We secretly like them, don’t we? Maybe we’re genetically programmed to because we want a bully to protect us from the terrors outside the cave. Even those of us who can’t stand Trump want someone tough and mean enough to beat him, don’t we? Cuz if we choose Molly Milquetoast, she will lose.

Do You NEED People In Your Life? How Many People Do You Meet With & Talk

1-3 per Day

4-9 Per Day

10-17 Per Day

18+ Per Day

I laugh at those numbers, especially the last one. 😂😂😂 Mine is zero, as in none. Depending on the day, I have 1-3 coworkers I talk to, but I don’t think that counts, since it’s work-related. Maybe twice a month I attend a social event with around a dozen people. I see my daughter and her husband and baby once a month. I try to have one weekend day every weekend where I don’t leave my apartment at all, and one weekend a month that’s completely for me/no events or plans with others.

That said, I don’t feel alone. There are people I talk with almost daily; I just don’t see them in person. This doesn’t bother me at all. I try to imagine if I would be happier seeing more people and the answer is no, always. The opportunities are there if I want them. I used to think I needed to explain why I am this way, but I don’t. Nor do people who like to go to parties and interact with others frequently need to explain. It’s simply how we’re hardwired.

Apology please, with a cupcake 🧁 [rant! bothsidesy! ackkk]

Like many, I often judge hastily, when I should know better by now. I was noodling around on Twitter this past Saturday when everyone began freaking out about the MAGA hat kids vs the drummer guy. Since I dislike the President and MAGA apparel, my sympathies went immediately to the drummer.

After a while I learned that the drummer is a known activist, not that there’s anything wrong with that ~ he’s a peaceful activist, as far as I can tell ~ but someone who’s used to confrontation nonetheless. He seeks out attention for his causes, as do all marchers and activists.

The MAGA boys were in town for a pro-life rally. Is there anything more uplifting than to witness a bunch of rowdy privileged prep school boys telling grown women what their healthcare options should be? Here’s my thought about what to tell teen boys who are opposed to abortion: never have sex with a female. That way, no unwanted fetus creation can be directly attributed to you.

Next I learned that the people who actually sparked this entire kerfuffle belonged to a third group, Black Israelites. I had to google them to find out what their dealio is. They were apparently insulting the MAGA kids, who responded by going into their tribal Catholic school dance, as you do, and the Native American group, headed by the drummer, felt like getting in on this action.

So, my new view of this incident is a big eff them all. No one deserves an apology except for me. Why me? I shall explain. 😀

During this craziness, lunatics on the left decided that the MAGA hat boys were the most evil things on this earth and should be doxxed and destroyed because they were smirking. Omg smirking! Nothing was off-limits… people began sifting through every scrap of info they could find and leaping to conclusions about identities.

Naturally the school principal and all the teachers’ names were made public. They’re all white and certainly horrible racists ~ we must obviously assume. I mean, Kentucky, eh? If it seemed like a student’s name was found, good enough! Go ahead and blast it all over, hit the parents, siblings, any colleges that accepted said monster, workplaces, etc. Kids were smirking at a Vietnam vet, so fair game, amirite? You know the left luvs them some Vietnam vets.

Except for one teensy thing. The lunatics misidentified at least one person and made his life hell. This is where your apology to me comes in (you know who you are). If it wasn’t for the insane proliferation of anonymous online accounts all over Twitter and FB, it wouldn’t be so easy to dox and destroy people with an army of trolls. If everyone had to use their real name when acting like a self-righteous jerk online to “out” strangers for smirking in a video, and whatever else, things would be way different (better), imo.

I’ll take my apology cupcake in the form of lemon cake with coconut frosting, thanks!