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Uh Oh It’s Magic!

Questions from Melanie/Sparks…

In your opinion, what’s the closest thing to real magic?

Love ❤️

Where is the worst smelling place you’ve been?

Anywhere they’re doing tar (roofs or roads). The noxious fumes give me an instant migraine and make me sick to my stomach.

What are some things that you’ve heard in your own life, which sounded like compliments but were actually insults?

“You’re fairly intelligent.” (But)

“You’re an attractive woman.” (But)

What incredibly common thing have you never done?

Camping, skiing, surfing (all common in California).

Please feel free to share some gratitude that you experienced during the past week!  🙂

Grateful the 4th is over and hoping the selfish people will quit setting off booms for a while.

Zen bitmoji

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Images from Melanie and Bitmoji.

Philosophical Share

Melanie gives us some brain-crunchy Q’s this week…

1. Must we have evidence to know the truth?

I do, but lots of other people just go with “faith.” If I don’t have tangible evidence of X, or a collection of behaviors/events (including emotional states) to make X obvious, the truth of X remains an open question. I may still take action though. Sometimes you have to.

2. How much control does a person have over their life?

None. Isn’t that freeing? I just read about this in Mark Manson’s book too. Control is an illusion, but you are responsible for all your choices, including your emotional reactions.

3. What is gravity and how does it work?

It’s the irresistible attraction of a pen to a kitty, who must knock it off the table to see if it will fall to the center of the earth.

4. Can a person be happy if they have never experienced sadness?  How about vice versa?

No. You need opposing states to compare, which is why I quit dating.

Gratitude:
Please feel free to share a song, a poem, a quote or an image or photo to show what you were grateful for during this past week.  (Optional as always).

This seems appropriate for these times… so grateful for friends who hook me up with interesting music!

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Flavorful Share

Share Your World

Starting my Tuesday with questions from Melanie! 🙂

1. What do you think of professional motivational speakers?  Do you think they motivate?

I don’t like to listen to jabber, period. I don’t seek out speakers and in fact avoid audio like the… you know. Videos are for music. 🎶 That said, I don’t mind reading some motivational jibber, depending on my mood. I enjoy short, profound philosophy that can make me go ahhhh and leave me thoughtful and/or calm. And I enjoy humor mixed with inspiration, a la Mark Manson. I don’t find motivation in everything he writes because a lot of it is geared toward much younger folks beginning careers and relationships. But there is still some stuff applicable to me. I don’t know if these speakers motivate people in general, but I’ve gotten value from reading other ideas, especially MM’s.

2. Do you have a favorite flavor?

Yes, several… coconut, cinnamon, lemon, and vanilla.

3. While out walking, you hear a rustling in some bushes.  What do you think of?

Kitty!

Jaguar

4. What’s your ideal temperature (nature-wise)?   Hot, cold, temperate and mild, humid or bone dry?

I like it pretty warm, 80ish. But I prefer an overcast day, as bright sun is a migraine trigger. Rain is also a trigger, as are any big changes in weather or extremes generally. Hate wind!

Alrighty! Got a post done and now on with the day… 🎉

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Images from Melanie and Pexels.

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Silly Sharing

Share your world

I was thinking about switching to the new SYW pic Melanie has up for this week’s post, but I love this old one too much to give it up. Let’s get to the questions, shall we? 😀

1. How comfortable are you speaking in front of large groups of people?

I’m not comfortable with large groups of people period. (This predates the virus.) Sometimes I don’t even want to be in small groups either! But I can speak if I have to. I did a couple rounds of open mic stand-up comedy in front of 50 folks or so to prove I could. I also gave a speech at my daughter’s wedding in front of around 75 people. But I’d rather not do those types of things ever again.😝

2. What would be the best thing you could reasonably expect to find in a cave?

My common sense after peering in to tell me to turn right around and get the hell out of there. 🦇

3. What did you think was going to be amazing but turned out to be horrible?

My last romance (2016). 💔

4. What’s the silliest thing you’ve observed someone get upset about?

I observed the entire internet collectively freak out over an unsatisfactory ending to a TV show we’d all been watching for some time. People were very angry because the wrong character killed the bad guy and the beautiful queen destroyed a city and on and on. Folks are still complaining about it over a year later. 🙄

Gratitude:
Please feel free to share something that gave you an uplifted spirit during this past week.  (Optional)

Well… I already shared how thrilled I was to see my family last Tuesday (yikes, was that a week ago already?)… just talking to them over FaceTime since then, I guess. I’m very grateful for that technology especially now with my little granddaughter so we can see each other. 😍 It’s great when my eldest can join in too.

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No clue where this image is from, but it’s not mine.

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Memorial Day Sharing

Bitmoji USA flag pledge

Melanie asks some topical questions for today’s SYW…

1. In your opinion, does patriotism require the belief that one’s country is the greatest on earth?

Absolutely not. That’s jingoism. Patriotism is supporting your country to help all of its citizens live good lives with quality education, healthcare, and employment opportunities. It also means helping to protect your country’s natural resources and wildlife. You can love something without denigrating everything else. You can also love something despite its flaws, while hoping they will be repaired.

2. Why is patriotism considered by some to be the highest of virtues? What is so important about love of country? Shouldn’t we be more concerned about humankind, or the planet as a whole, rather than a single country?

I don’t know why some people think that. I’m not gonna get into the weeds with a big lecture on what other people should do. Personally, my values are to first support my family and myself, pay my bills, take care of my pets, and just generally not be a jerk or a burden to others.

3. What is the relationship between decisions and consequences?

It depends on the context. Bad decisions often have bad consequences, but good decisions don’t always show good results, at least not immediately. For example, I could spend the weekend overeating and see an immediate gain of three pounds on my scale, plus feel bloated and gross on Tuesday. Bad decision = bad result. But I might spend the weekend eating only nutritious foods and taking walks, yet three days later nothing changes because good results take so long to show up. Bleh!

Bitmoji nachos yummy

4. What is social justice?

Well, my knee-jerk response was to say that this is a term used on social media to mock people who earnestly stand up for things such as gay rights by calling out those who violate the earnest peeps’ principles. But apparently there is an actual definition, or a few variations thereof, which is the movement toward a society where the distribution of resources is more equitable and all people have the the right to live in physical and psychological safety. Sounds nice, in theory…

5. What’s one body part you wouldn’t mind losing? (told you.  Silly).

I don’t need my uterus any longer, lol…

6. What is something that made you smile during the past week?

Pictures of my adorable granddaughter! 💖

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Images from Bitmoji.

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I So Lay Ted World

Share your world

Melanie has gifted us with some Q’s…

What do you do to get rid of stress?

I’ve been working on avoiding stress because once invited in, it’s tough to boot out the door. As I’ve said many times, I gave up a huge source of stress by quitting dating sites in 2016. I’m also more careful to avoid other activities and events that create anxiety, such as last minute travel, big concerts, loud parties, etc. And I know it sounds silly, but I also get easily stressed out from unfamiliar locations and parking problems, so I’m cautious of those as well.

But what if all that fails and I get stressed? Welp. I would want to be home or get home ASAP. Familiar surroundings are important to calm me down. I’d want to change into comfy warm clothes, make tea, lock the door, and be in silence to decompress. I’d probably play some word and card games on my phone to have something soothing to do. Then I might “self-talk” through the situation, pace, cry, rant, call a daughter, rinse, repeat as necessary. Hopefully, I’d have a day to myself to process whatever thing this was.

Bitmoji meditation

In the past people were buried with the items they would need in the afterlife, what would you want buried with you so you could use it in the afterlife?

Pierce Brosnan. ❤️

What’s the opposite of a koala?  (this is strictly for fun.  I know what I came up with as an answer, but it was nonsensical.   Alaok.  See?   It’s okay to pass on this one too if you want)

Well… a koala is a gentle tree-dwelling vegetarian, so the opposite of that would be a vicious water-dwelling carnivore… I’ll say shark. There are others though, if anyone is offended that sharks are unfairly singled out. We can go with barracuda then. They both have songs about them, which is nice. Idk if there’s a song about a koala, but I bet Jim would know! 🙂

What’s the creepiest tech out there?  (My interpretation of “tech” is app or program.  If you know what “tech” is supposed to mean, hey!  Great!   Educate us.

Facebook. It has all the creepies ~ trackers to know where you are and what you’re doing, ads shoveled at you every second, face recognition software, conversation recording, “oopsie we stole/sold all your data & promise never to again” my bads, fake news, fake profiles, conspiracy groups, scammers allowed to flourish, hackers, trolls, etc. But you have to be on, I know, or how else would you know what your third cousin twice removed is up to?

Keyboard

What method are you using to find your smile right now?   Please explain in detail so others might utilize the same ideas.   Some bloggers have shared a daily (weekly sometimes) method that they are using to keep their spirits up right now.   I’d love to hear from anyone who does and is successful at it!    Have a great week and stay safe!

My spirits are not “up.” I find this whole ordeal scary and unpleasant, though I totally understand the necessity of doing isolation until this thing is more under control. The best I can hope for on any given day is to keep up with the chores and writing goals I’ve set for myself, stick with good habits, and try to avoid stress (such as arguing with anyone). Neutral days are fine for now. Good days will come again later when I can visit my family again.

Personally, I find it helpful to read small bits of news when I’m in the mood for an update, and not just about :the thing: but also cute aminal stories too. I avoid live news, most especially any clips of babbling politicians. Listening to a press conference would spin me into an insta depression. 🤮

Paper dolls

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Images credited to Bitmoji, Pexels, and idk.

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The Infinity March Share

Surely this is the kazillionth Monday this month? Melanie is a trooper for coming up with yet another set of questions for us!

Pancakes, waffles or French Toast as your breakfast favorite?

Toughie! I adore French Toast with butter and maple syrup, but also blueberry pancakes with butter and blueberry syrup. Look at this French Toast I had at Mother’s with my friend Jenny back when things were normal…

(Why does my silly phone want me to type President after French?)

French Toast

Do you think a person’s name influences the person they become?

Absolutely! Look at all the horrible men named Michael I dated. Barf! 🤮

Just kidding. I know there are a lot of nice Michaels I haven’t dated.

Would things get better or worse if humans focused on what was going well rather than what’s going wrong?

Things will do as they will.

Is math(s) something that humans created or something we discovered? Is looking at reality mathematically an accurate representation of how things work?

It depends what kind of math. The lower math (addition, etc.) we discovered. It’s true whether we exist or not and it does represent “reality,” I guess. I mean, I can only know human reality. I think though they’ve taught some animals simple math. But then there’s higher math…

Matter and energy

What are you grateful for right now?   I realize it’s difficult to be very positive right now, unless one is being positive that things are pretty awful.   Let’s spread the joy in gratitude!! 

It’s a terrible time and I am aware that many people are suffering greatly. I’ve been depressed off and on for various reasons, though I am doing okay as far as physical health (besides the usual). So far. I’m constantly worried about my loved ones and myself too. This morning I got lucky and found everything on my list at my regular grocery store, after not being allowed to place an online order over the weekend. So, I am grateful for that.

Stay safe and well, my peeps. 🌷

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Images from Pexels and Spreadshirts and me.

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The March S/hare 🐰

Here are some interesting questions from Melanie for the first Monday in March…

Can you bake a cake? 

I assume you mean from scratch, since any dingdong can follow a box mix directions. Yes, of course. I’ve made lots of cakes from scratch, but I gotta say… I prefer a box mix. If you use butter instead of oil, they’re just as yummy, more precise, and less messy. I like box brownies too with extra noms in them, like chips or PB. Love to take a spice cake mix and fancy it up with things too. All good. And canned frosting is delicious as long as it’s buttercream. Do not buy that nasty whipped stuff (gross).🤮

A yummy carrotty cake I made a long time ago…

Mmm cake

Cookies though? Sorry, they must be from real cookie dough mixed by hand. No box mixes or goo squoozed from tubes or some frozen pre-cookies plopped on a sheet. Idk why, but it is so.

What’s one thing that can instantly make your day better?

A kitty saying hi. 🐱

When you were a kid, did you eat the crusts on your sandwich or not?

I ate them. What’s weird though is that I hated PB&J until I was around 12. Wouldn’t touch the stuff. But now I love it!

What’s something your family would be surprised to learn about you?

My family consists of just my daughters and there is nothing they don’t know about me. But if there was something I wanted to keep secret, from them or anyone, I sure as hell wouldn’t blab it here. 🤣

AND (of course)
GRATITUDE IS AN ATTITUDE!
Please feel free to share some gratitude from this past week (or month or year).  This is purely optional of course, but it does tend to uplift everyone (I happen to think) to read some happy and/or joyful thoughts or view some uplifting pictures.    Thank you if you do so! 

I’m super grateful to my friend Doug for motivating me to write Switching Positions. We’ve been writing buddies for ages, but he’s much more prolific than I am. In fact, I was in a slump after putting out my last few poetry books, which barely counted in my mind anyway because they were borne of pain from a relationship. I don’t consider them creative art really. And other than bits and pieces of twittery and bloggery, I hadn’t been creating anything for a while.

So, Doug and I were chatting about politics in December and that whole “wine cave” business came up. We were riffing on it, and I said it would be a great place for a meet cute. He told me to write it ~ a short story. Well, it turned into a longer story, a novella. Every time he asked me if I was finished, I’d say no, I have more funny stuff to say. I tried to zing all the candidates, but there were too many. Not so many now…

Anyway, I’m really happy with the book, and the fact that it’s sold a bunch. Woo hoo! Thank you to everyone who’s bought a copy of Switching Positions. I even have a 5-star review, woohoo! Love reviews. 😍 And now I’m motivated to get back to my other WIPs and finish them up too. All thanks to Doug and his pep talks… much gratitude. 💙❤️💙❤️💙

Switching Positions by Paula Light

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Images from Mel & me.

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Sharing is Scaring!

Share your world Halloween

I haven’t done a Melanie SYW post in a while, in keeping with my plan to jabber less about my boringness and simply write more fiction (and poetry). However! I could not resist this awesome spooky pic.

Without further ado…

Questions Of The Day

1. Had any good conversations with yourself lately? Did you listen to yourself? And how’d that work out for you?   (Credit Allie Bean   https://thespectacledbean)

I’m always jabbering on and on so much I have to tell myself to STFU so I can get stuff done. Honestly! The problem with me is that I can’t just have a normal convo with myself, no… I have to scamper down all the rabbit trails until I end up at the big bang. So to speak. Mostly they weren’t all that big, if you know what I mean (and I think you do). See? 🙄

Do I listen to myself? Well, I try not to cuz of all the stupid jokes and whatnot, but sometimes I’m so bored I do pay attention to my own gibberish and then ugh I have to disentangle myself from the drama and illogic like 87 strands of Christmas lights that are all plugged in at once without electrocuting myself.

Christmas lights tangled

2. What is gravity and how does it work?

Jesse Pinkman magnets bitches

3. What is more real – Mind or Matter?

I’m a materialist, so I say matter. This is not to be confused with being materialistic. I simply believe that physical reality is all there is… no souls, ghosts, gods, vampires, genies, fairies, demons, etc. Feelings are real ~ they are our brain’s reactions to the minute changes of chemicals in our blood. I know this is all terribly unromantic. I am sorry. It’s okay to write fiction and poetry about things that don’t exist though! 💖

4. Should a vegetarian (or vegan) eat animal crackers? 

No one should eat them; they’re just empty carbs. I guess you could put peanut butter on them though and that would be okay.

Lastly
Halloween Question:
(Gratitude questions will resume after Halloween is past)
Name (describe) something you wouldn’t want to run into in a dark and deserted wood or alley.   Politicians are a given, so skip those please.  Thanks!
 

These are places I avoid, but occasionally I come home late and my parking lot is dark, deserted, and a bit scary. Sometimes there are people poking in the garbage bins, and I go the other way (the long way around) to avoid them, if it’s dark. I’m sure they’re fine, but why take a chance? 👻

But mostly I’m wary of coyotes. People around Orange County are constantly going on about “the coyote problem” and that audacious coyotes are taking over our neighborhoods. I’ve seen photos of these handsome creatures lounging in parks and strolling down our sidewalks and streets, apparently unconcerned about humans nearby. They grab kitties and doggies and nom them up! (Keep pets inside!) Well… I have lived here since 1983 and have never seen a coyote, but I fully expect to. And I am on the lookout.

Roadrunner coyote meep meep

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Show & Tell

Warning: this turned into a rambling pointless bunch of jabbering. More than usual. 😂

Melanie haz questions:

1. Was the last thing you read digital or print?

I’m not counting online “news,” since that’s like reading cereal boxes. Actually, it would probably be more informative to read cereal boxes (note to self: buy some Cap’n Crunch). The last book I read on my Kindle was Not Quite Dating, which I already reviewed for the alphablog and am now done with all those posts, yay! So, that leaves Us Magazine, which hits my mailbox every Saturday. Why? I dunno! I’m certainly not paying for it. Somehow, a free subscription has been gifted to me and it shows up every week. I spend a couple minutes paging through and then toss it. Can’t remember anything much about this one except the spread of celebs in their wine colored dresses. Every issue has two pages near the front with a clothing theme. I do like themes. Oh, Kate Hudson was in this issue too. She’s 40 and happy. I’m happy she’s happy cuz I like her.

2. Are you more an extrovert or introvert?

According to the definition, I’m an introvert. My friends also call themselves introverts, but they always want to get together, which I find curious. Shouldn’t they need to spend lots of time alone, as I do? Granted, I have been more social than normal lately due to Game of Thrones, but that’s temporary. It’ll be over in a month. There is something particularly compelling about the ending to this dramatic and complex show that makes it fun to watch and discuss with others. Most of the time however I have no need for that and prefer to watch things alone. I crave alone time to think and read and write in peace and quiet. It recharges me. Too much peopling makes me literally crazy and I feel the air getting so heavy with noise and vibration and other people talking moving breathing that my body will crush and implode if I don’t get away.

3. How is your life different from what you imagined as a younger person?

When I was a teenager, I imagined myself becoming a career-focused professional, possibly a scientist. I wasn’t dreaming of marriage and children, but that is what I did. Next, I assumed I’d be married for the rest of my life; when I divorced, I thought I should find someone else. It didn’t occur to me until relatively recently that I would spend my life alone, but now that I’ve accepted it, I’m fine. It might be the ideal state for me, even.

4. Do you think about dying?   Does death scare you?  Why or why not?

I think about it a lot. It used to terrify me ~ when it first hit me that I would die and be erased, I freaked out. I was 12 and in a car with my parents coming back to NJ after visiting peeps in Ohio. I knew earlier that I would die, of course, but the impact of the erasure didn’t affect me until that moment. I mentioned I was upset and my parents dismissed my concerns. For a long time, I was angry at them over this, but I’ve come to understand they did the best they could.

I didn’t sleep for a year ~ at least, this is how I remember it. I stumbled through the days, exhausted but somehow not letting on I had this enormous burden. And I must have slept some or I would have died or become ill, but I remember all that year lying awake utterly terrified, making words out of words in my head. My schoolwork wasn’t affected, so no one knew or cared.

Eventually, I grew to live with the bleak erasure knowledge. It’s what keeps me sympathetic to religious believers. Of course you would take the comfort of an afterlife option if it were intellectually available to you! You’d have to be nuts not to grab onto that if there were any way to make sense of it. Unfortunately, I can’t make it fit into my logical brainspace. I wish I could.

Lately though, I’m not so afraid any longer. Maybe it’s because I am just so damn tired of being in pain every day. At least that will stop, which is something to look forward to, blissful non-awareness of aches and migraines. I also won’t have to think about all the things I’ve failed to accomplish, what a freaking relief. Not to mention all the mistakes I’ve made, gahhh. All erased from MY mind, since there won’t be any more “my mind.” And if others criticize or gossip, I won’t know, so I won’t care. Nice!

Plus, things are getting old as I’m getting old. Samey same same same. Sure, I still enjoy stuff, but meh. As someone I once loved said: “Do I really care about seeing the millionth issue of the New York Times?”

It’s his birthday today, btw. Happy birthday to the man who broke my heart. Still much older than I am. Still living in a big lonely house with his wife and their money. Now we’re all unhappy, great.

5. Gratitude challenge: find something you are thankful for in nature.

California mountains and beaches and sunsets and flowers, of course…