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The Monday Peeve 41

The Monday Peeve

Smiles and positive posts are all well and good, but sometimes I need to vent a bit. How about you? That’s what The Monday Peeve is all about, a chance to blow off a little steam at the beginning of the week, so then we can go merrily on our way once again (hah). I’ll pick a topic that’s on my mind, but you can vent about whatever you please, here in comments or on your own blog. Grab the photo, use the #TMP tag, link back to me (or not), and Bob’s yer uncle. I do reserve the right to delete any links that offend my delicate sensibilities. So far, none have, but it could happen. I have feelings!

Look, I know we all have FEELS about things that are going on and not only that, but we are 100% convinced that our feelings/reactions/values are the true and correct ones. This isn’t something new, but it seems new. More intense because we’re online with everyone’s opinion amplified… mostly just two opinions on every topic though, not much nuance. “This is the worst thing ever!” “No, this is!” It appears that we are more dug in, more polarized, more sure that WE are right and YOU are wrong. But I assure you, this isn’t new. I was 11 years old when Nixon was up for re-election, and things were exactly like this, except no internet. People HATED him. Or they HATED his opponent. If you didn’t agree with someone’s opinion, you were an idiot. Just like now. In the 1980s, those who supported Carter were savaged by Carter haters. His daughter was cruelly mocked for her appearance. Nastiness does not have a decade; human nature is eternal. It’s just sh!t coming around once again.

What’s my peeve then? People screaming every hour of every day that nothing has ever happened like this before. Uh sorry, but read a book. We’ve had nasty neighbors, racist family members, jerks complaining over nothing, and marches and protests and riots and looting and arson and terrible, horrible, no good, corrupt politicians all along. Chill out for five freaking minutes, willya?


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First, I give big thanks to both Rory and Sadje for thinking of me for this award! 😍❤️😘 I really appreciate it. Next, like many here, I do not follow the rules of these award posts. I’m not posting the rules and I’m not tagging peeps or writing new questions. If you want to grab these (some or all, feel free). I consider all my readers worthy of an award for spending time on my posts. Finally, I’m not linking back to the site where this award originated because that’s just giving someone blog views when they haven’t done anything. Also, I don’t see this image anywhere on their site, so idk where it came from.

Questions from Rory:

1. Did you live an adventurous young adult life as in between your later teens to you early thirties and if you did what was your life style like …


2. …… if you didn’t what was your lifestyle like?

I was boring, like now. I’ve never been particularly adventurous. My lifestyle was about working, finishing college, getting married, starting a family. Back then, I watched a lot more TV.

3. What was the riskiest date you ever went on and why?

Probably driving up to Hollywood from Irvine in freaking rush hour to meet this gross man who liked my writing and was allegedly in “the biz” and said he would help me. When he realized I wasn’t attracted to him, he became angry.

4. How big a child are you still?

Not much, though I can be silly with kids and they like me. I’m a serious person though and not very spontaneous.

5. What will you simply not do for money OR is that question easier to answer favourably reflective upon the sum of actual money offered?

How much are we talking about? 🤣

Bitmoji with cash

Questions from Sadje:

A. Which is your favorite dish to cook?

I like making a big mishmash of sautéed veggies with pasta.

B. What new skills you have acquired in last three months?

FaceTime and Zoom 😜

C. What scares you the most, (person or thing)?

Other drivers.

D. Are you able to fix technical problems on you devices?

Not if they go beyond restarting.

E. What is your preferred way of traveling?


F. If you are asked to donate on of your five senses, which one would you choose?


G. How do you like to dress, trendy or comfy?

Like my Bitmoji!

Bitmoji in comfy chair with book


Images from Bitmoji.

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PFF49: Mom

Flashback Friday

Welcome to Paula’s Friday Flashback! This is a challenge begun by Fandango and it’s fun to see what we posted back when (as well as the comments). The post below is a reblog of a post I made exactly 7 years ago. A little caveat ~ the post sounds negative, but I miss and love my mother immensely.

Hello Mother

I had a dream about Mom the other night. She had made a Great Gatsby tee shirt for me ~ it was dark blue, short sleeved, with white paint squiggles all over that were supposed to be fluffy clouds. Don’t ask me. In the dream, it looked right.

I had shown someone one of my scrapbook photo albums last week and was thinking about my long ago days of arts & crafts. Not sure if this prompted the dream, or what.

A little while ago I opened my Chrome browser (I’ve been using Firefox mostly) and noticed that my old bookmarks were still there, including Baggage Reclaim, my favorite relationship site. The first article was about how some of us struggle to please certain people who have impossible demands and how that’s a never-ending spiral of futility.

The first Unpleasable in your life tends to be that exacting and critical parent or caregiver and if your perspective on their behaviour and how you respond to it hasn’t changed in adulthood, you’re likely to have felt tormented by a similar boss, ‘friend’ or romantic partner. [link]

As always, very interesting bloggery from Natalie, and just in time for Mother’s Day too.

/end reblog


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The Newlywed Game [A-Z Games]

The Newlywed Game Note: I’m doing the April A-to-Z challenge without signing up or linking back to the main site.

The Newlywed Game was just cute! And Bob Eubanks was so funny, owning that sweet spot right between wholesome and risqué. I don’t know if he coined the phrase “making whoopee,” but we’ll always associate it with him and with the show.

TNG debuted back in 1966, the last series to premiere in black and white (converting to color by the end of the year). It was a big hit, dethroning Password, and ran for 8 years. Until Family Feud had a 9 year run in 1985, TNG was the longest running game show in ABC’s daytime history. Another first ~ Bob Eubanks was only 28 when he became master of ceremonies of the Newlywed Game, the youngest emcee to host a show. To learn more about the hosts and versions of the show, click here.

The important thing to know is that TNG was canceled in 1980 because its producer at the time, Chuck Barris, debuted a spin-off game show called 3’s a Crowd, where a man, his wife, and his secretary would compete. People clutched their pearls at the implications, and Chuck’s shows were all shuttered ~ that one, TNG, The Dating Game, and The Gong Show. But TNG returned for a week for Valentine’s Day 1984, and in 1985, a New Newlywed Game began.

The basic premise of the Newlywed Game is for husbands and wives to try to match each other’s answers to a variety of silly questions. I always enjoyed it because the couples seemed like real people and the answers didn’t feel coached or rehearsed. There was no element of luck as far as rolling dice or studying up on ancient philosophy to ace some category; you just had to hope you knew the person you married as well as you thought you did.

Please tune in tomorrow when I will blog about Old Maid.


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Kismet [A-Z Games]


Note: I’m doing the April A-to-Z challenge without signing up or linking back to the main site.

Kismet with Kate! That may sound like the title of a romance novel, but it was in fact a game I played with my high school friend pretty much every day after school for a long time. I think it was junior year, but time is a bit blurry now. It could have been senior year. All I know is this: we would first stop at the store for our favorite snack, which was a big bag of Flings and diet cream soda.


Then we’d go to my house, where nobody was home. Party! Time to crank up the tunes! We liked my parents’ old Woodstock album and a crazy Dr. Demento record I had bought off the teevee. Munching our flings and slurping our sodas, we would proceed to play a few games of Kismet before starting our homework.

It’s a pretty simple game for two players and you can figure out the entire thing from the image. Five dice, rolled up to three times per turn. You decide which square to use for that move ~ obviously use the lower odds squares first, when you can. If you get nothing, you decide where to put a zero. Usually it makes sense to zero out a square with low odds like the Kismet. Here is a full description of the rules.

Please tune in tomorrow when I will blog about Laser Tag.


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FPQ64: The Real Me

Fandango’s provocative question

Oops, almost forgot about this post! 😱

Fandango provocatively asks…

Are you the same person on your blog as you are in real life? Do you like yourself more in the virtual world than you do in the real world?

Now, I’m pretty much the same person, but I wasn’t always. Waaay back when, when I first began blogging and socializing online in general, I tried to be one of those happy yet sarcastic wives and moms. You know what I mean. You see them everywhere. So boring! I wasn’t happy at all… my marriage was crashing on the rocks and I was depressed over many issues… but I was fake because I thought the worst thing you could do was to reveal to the world that you had failed to create a happy life for yourself. I think (I know) a lot of people are fake, which is why it’s hard for me to trust people now. Plus the fact that so many are outright liars and con artists…

But I actually began this blog while I was in the middle of a crisis, before I even thought about building up a readership again. I just needed an outlet. I posted too much real stuff, in fact. It got pretty crazy sometimes. I’ve made several passes through here to take down posts that were too personal in various ways. I think I’ve reached some sort of equilibrium I am comfortable with most of the time.

I used to love having virtual personas ~ so much fun to be a new character without real life baggage! For years, I created new characters to slip into and sometimes they would become part of my real life in some ways too, helping me cope with certain problems. But ya know… that became work too… eventually I ghosted them. Back then, I would have said I liked the virtual me more than the real me. Now, I don’t keep them separate.

This is all very interesting to me because it tends to coincide with the end of my dating days. I guess I always felt I had to be a little bit of “someone else” when dating and even in a long-term relationship. That’s a lot of work. It’s tedious and exhausting. But the real me isn’t someone anyone wants to date (in my mind) bla bla bla. It’s just so much easier to do what I want, rather than to endlessly “compromise” (aka “give in”) to someone else’s wants/needs. I was never good at standing up for myself and I don’t have to worry about that any longer. 🙂

I guess I went a little off the rails with this question… ha ha!


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Gin Rummy [A-Z Games]

Note: I’m doing the April A-to-Z challenge without signing up or linking back to the main site.

Gin Rummy is a super fun and easy card game for two people. There are several ways to play as you can see by visiting the link. The players decide if the game will end at 100 points or whenever. You go with your best shot at sets, based on the cards you hold at the start. The idea is to make complete sets within your 10 cards, before your opponent does, and have no cards outside a set. You can go for 3 or 4 of a kind, or runs in the same suit. Aces are low in gin. ♦️

I like playing straight gin because that’s how I played with my mom growing up. It’s simple and uncomplicated. You can have a conversation during the game without losing focus because after a few draws and tosses you’re usually only waiting for one or two specific cards to finish up. I have fond memories of playing gin rummy with Mom, along with Chinese Checkers, which we also played a lot ~ 3 triangles each, using up the whole pie. This makes a long game and is not for lightweights. I hardly ever play cards now because there are so many board games people prefer. ♟

Please tune in tomorrow when I will blog about Hangman.


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Field Hockey [A-Z Games]

Field Hockey

Note: I’m doing the April A-to-Z challenge without signing up or linking back to the main site.

I don’t know anything about Field Hockey. I assume the pic shows correct equipment, which I googled. What I do know is when I googled it, lots of photos appeared. Some were men playing together and some were women playing together. As best I could tell (though nowadays who the hell knows, amirite?), there were no pics of mixed gender field hockey play.

Interesting! I find that very interesting. The reason is because back in 1978, in Illinois, when I was a senior in high school, some group of total farking idiots thought it would be a fantastic idea to have boys and girls play field hockey together. At the same time. Little girls like me with big guys over 6 feet tall and 200+ pounds. Sounds great, right? The total farking idiots congratulated themselves for promoting gender equality. What could go wrong with this brilliant plan? After all, boys and girls played ping pong together. Samesies, yes? 🙄

So, I was standing there in the end zone, or whatever it was, eating caramels from the vending machine and filing my nails… the things I normally did in gym class… when this huge gigantic boy crashed into me. Wtfff? I was knocked on the ground and couldn’t move my arm. The teacher called an ambulance. 😱

Turned out I “only” had a broken clavicle (right side). It could have been much worse. The doctor thought it was nuts we were playing field hockey with boys. My parents had to leave work and come get me. What I didn’t know until later is that I had my 15 minutes of fame in school. As they took me out in a wheelchair, my eyes were closed and I’d bitten my lip, so there was a trickle of blood from my mouth. Peeps wondered if I was dead! It was very exciting!

Anyway, I had to wear this sling/cast thing for weeks, but I removed it early and my bone never healed properly. Or maybe I’d always have a lump there, idk. That’s the side of my neck/shoulder which hurts the most now, but they say it’s unrelated. In X-rays, my neck itself is all crooked. The boy did apologize to me in the hall later on, but you know… it wasn’t his fault. He was just a big ox. It was totally the fault of the farking idiots who wanted to integrate the sports. Morons!!! 😡😡😡

Please tune in tomorrow when I will blog about Gin Rummy.


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Now That’s Deep

Deep dish pizza

Continuing my discussion with John regarding Chicago pizza… because can one ever really be finished talking about this glorious food? I think not.

Perhaps the first time I had deep dish pizza was with my friend Kathy shortly after I moved to the city, but please don’t quote me on that. Before the move, when I still lived in the ‘burbs, we had “normal” pizza, which was Domino’s and such. I believe I have a post coming up about Dominoes, but that would be the game, for my A-Z thingie. What were we talking about again?

Pizza! I think, right after we moved to the city itself, Kathy and I went to Giordano’s. Omg, best pizza ever! So luscious! Deep dish crust, stuffed with any noms of your choice (I liked spinach and mushrooms), dripping with sauce, oozing with cheese. So delicious! Obviously this pizza is eaten with a knife and fork on a plate; no rushing out the door with a slice folded in your hand.

But then I went away to college, the U of I in Champaign (not to be confused with champagne)… they had Garcia’s Pizza, which we all liked. But even though it began with the same letter, it was no Giordano’s. So, I dropped out after one semester, moved back home with my parents, and got a job at an insurance company in the Loop.

I dated and took classes, made various friends yada yada, and everyone knew my favorite thing to do was to go for pizza at Giordano’s. Mm hmm. So good! Everyone says they love pizza, but I sacrificed a lot more than most people to keep going to my favorite restaurant.

But then one day my dad said he got a job in California because Mom was tired of blizzards and stuff. I told them I wasn’t leaving Giordano’s. He said he’d buy me a car.

I miss that place.


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A Bunch Of Nonsense

To distract myself from myself, I’m going to answer these super intrusive questions about myself from Melanie

1. Tell us how you met your partner. Please be specific in telling your tale.

I don’t have a “partner.” I’ve been divorced since 2011 and all my attempts at dating were documented disasters. Right now, it might be nice to have someone to be cooped up with though. Or maybe not.

2. What is your most romantic experience, again with details?

I have a post in drafts called Skyloft. It’s about the best first date I ever had ~ my last first date. I had a couple more first meetings since, but they don’t count as first dates. This man was also a disaster, like the others, but worse because I’d finally begun to trust again, and after him everything was impossibly shattered. The date itself was incredible. It was the hottest day of the year, and I was sick, had been sick for a month, which made the whole experience surreal. I felt I was in a painting, with all the colors and sounds and tastes and smells so exquisitely bright. When he touched me, I felt transported to another plane. Nothing was the same again… it still isn’t. He kissed me at the beach, with the turquoise waves crashing in, just like a dream. I will never forget this, no matter what he did later.

3. What is the most extravagant purchase you’ve ever made, and why did you buy it?

I have not bought anything extravagant for a really long time. I’m super careful. I’ve spent money, sometimes a lot, but on stuff that’s necessary, such as a car (a sensible one). I simply can’t think of anything. Oh! I know. My daughter went to Costa Rica several years ago and brought me some very cool artwork. I spent $400 to have it framed. But I love it. ❤️

4. What is your favorite swear word or expression, and when are you most likely to use it?

I’m an equal opportunity swearer. I try to give all the bad words a good workout daily, but I must admit that since I haven’t been driving they’ve been sitting in a sad heap on the sofa watching reruns of Gilligan’s Island and munching potato chips. 😢

5. What is your favorite kind of pie? With or without ice cream?

Ooh pie! I had the best pie up in Northern California ~ key lime with whipped cream and a thick graham cracker crust. That is my fave, followed closely by lemon cream and then cherry. No ice cream necessary.

6. While we’re on the subject, what is your favorite ice cream, and where did you last eat it?

Cookie dough! I don’t remember when or where I ate it last. I don’t eat ice cream often because I’m always freezing. 🥶

7. Who is your most unique friend and why? (May be someone from the past.)

My daughters are both brilliant and hilarious and totally unique. I love them to bits! My besties! 💖💖 (Why? Because I raised them! Duh.)

8. What is your most irritating habit?

Yelling at my cat to quit yelling. 🐱

9. Who was your favorite teacher and why?

I loved many of my philosophy and writing professors at CSUN.

10. Do you like being alone and if so, what would you probably be doing?

I enjoy choosing to be alone; I don’t enjoy this forced isolation and not being allowed to go to work. It’s super depressing. When alone, I read, write, play phone games, chat with peeps online, etc.

11. What is the most outlandish thing you’ve ever done?

Probably picked up hitchhikers and taken rides from strange men back in Illinois. Nothing bad ever happened even though this is a terribly stupid thing to do.

12. What superstition do you always follow?

I count things a lot, which isn’t really a superstition, but more an OCD, except not that much since I don’t do it consistently. I just feel things will work out better when there’s the right number of ’em.

13. What famous person or animal have you met? Tell us about the meeting.

Not really. I’ve seen various celebs in the Los Angeles area, but haven’t hung out with any. I don’t think celebs or royals are better than anyone else, and people ought to quit making such a fuss over them. 😛


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