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Water Off A Duck


Melanie has more questions! These are a la Dr. Tanya, who is taking a moving hiatus, but they aren’t Tanya’s questions. Melanie is simply nodding to the blogging about bloggers’ blogs theme that Tanya is famous for. Hope that’s clear…

How thick a skin do you need to be a blogger?

That depends on your goals. If you want to post about politics, sex, and/or religion (“PSR“), you’d better have a thick skin. There aren’t too many people who will take umbrage at cat photos or a discussion of romcoms, but if you announce that you’re an atheist, you’d best be prepared for all sorts of randos popping up to say you’re going to hell. People search on the PSR topics for the sole purpose of trolling; if you can’t shrug off criticism, avoid those subjects.

Personally, criticism from strangers rolls off me like water from a duck, but I no longer want to deal with it. I’ve been in flame forums, and my old blog tackled edgy topics, but I got tired of dealing with all that. It’s a big bore and I’d rather my blog interactions remain friendly.

Bitmoji happy record

“Bonus question”  How important is being understood?  (There are one or two bloggers here who put a great deal of time and effort into crafting their blog posts and I’ve heard them express dismay (disappointment) when people don’t necessarily “get” what they mean.  Also, if people don’t ‘say’ (comment) a lot about a particular post they’ve worked hard on.)

As I’ve said a zillion times, I don’t care about stats, number of likes, comments, etc., which is why I unlinked my blog from FB and Twitter. I care about my little blogging community though, and it’s nice to be understood by this group, which I generally am. I write clearly and keep my posts on the shorter side so people won’t feel that reading me is a chore.

It’s also important to break text up into smaller paragraphs, since many people are reading blogs on their phones.

bitmoji phone

If I’m misunderstood by one reader out of several, I’ll assume it’s the reader’s fault. But if I’m misunderstood by a few, I will take the blame for being unclear. That’s happened in the past when I jabbered on about dating sites. But have I mentioned in the last 5 minutes that I’m done with all that dating nonsense now? 😂


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The Monday Peeve 66

Smiles and positive posts are all well and good, but sometimes I need to vent a bit. How about you? That’s what The Monday Peeve is all about, a chance to blow off a little steam at the beginning of the week, so then we can go merrily on our way once again (hah). I’ll pick a topic that’s on my mind, but you can vent about whatever you please, here in comments or on your own blog. Grab the photo, use the TMP tag, link back to me (or not), and Bob’s yer uncle. I do reserve the right to delete any links that offend my delicate sensibilities. So far, none have, but it could happen. I have feelings!

So, on Saturday I decided I wanted to light Chanukah candles, even though I hadn’t lit any Thursday night or Friday night (Chanukah began Thursday night). I had seen some candles at Target last week, but I figured eh I’ll get them in the grocery store. NOPE. They had taken the Chanukah display away even though the holiday is still going on. Fine. I returned to Target… but they had also removed all their Chanukah stuff. GRR! I thought of checking Hallmark, but a lot of them have closed. I googled for an open one, went over there… and they had no candles. WTF? It’s not like you can stick any old candles in a menorah either (like say birthday cake ones) because they’re a special size. Then I figured I’d just google the candles themselves and see what happens. Google said Target had some. NO THEY DON’T. Then they said Wal-Mart had some, but when I checked the actual site, Wal-Mart said they were out of stock. Then Google said hey what about Michael’s? I’m like fine okay take me to the Michael’s. I get over there (note there is a Panera restaurant in the Sunflower/Bristol center), go in, and then Google changes its mind and says Michael’s is out of stock too! Omg so annoyed, but I figured okay I’m in a Michael’s so might as well look around at all the fun crafty supplies.

And then I found the candles. 🕎

Some peeves have happy endings. Btw, thanks to all who suggested cannibalizing a hand soap dispenser pump from a name brand that works and sticking it into one of those off-brand foofoo soap bottles whose pumps break down after a few washings. LUV MY SMART READERS! And the rest of ya too. It’s the season! 💖

FPQ92: Anonymously Yours


Fandango provocatively asks…

“Do you blog anonymously? Why or why not?”

I do not blog anonymously, though I understand why people do, and sometimes I wish I had. My name is slightly altered from my “real” one, but I can be found and I use my actual face photos to make that process even easier. 🤣

Why am I not anonymous? Well, it’s mainly because I began writing online 20+ years ago with this name and I want to refer to my published work, mostly self-published, but even so. I also write as Anna Fondant, which I’ve made no secret of either. Supposedly, it’s best to have one name per genre, and Anna focuses on romance and erotica. I have a third name for a completely different style of writing, but I unpublished that novel. I intend to edit it and make a trilogy of it… someday! It’s sort of science fiction erotica, or it appears to be sci-fi, but maybe it isn’t.

Dark keyboard

I try not to identify real people in my blog or otherwise unless I have their permission. My “dating stories” have many details obscured, though one guy recognized himself, which turned out to be fun. Once, I ranted about someone (without naming her), and she read it and bitched, so I took down the post. I’ve been more careful since then. I don’t post pics of others until I receive their OK, or if they’re in the public domain, such as Pexels or Pixabay. I also avoid discussing my work, family, or friends in any great detail. In that way, I’m discreet, if not anonymous. I cringe every time I see a “mommy blogger” post embarrassing stories or pics of her kids. One day, they will google themselves…

If I’d been anonymous from the start, I could have used blogging as a great catharsis for my thoughts on relationships, marriage, sex, work, politics, religion, etc. But I didn’t and I don’t. When I say anything on those topics, I’m very careful, sticking to bland stuff like “Vote Blue!” My Twitter is connected here (you have to go to the main blog to see it), but even there I retweet only mainstream Democratic stuff. You may think you know a lot about me because I’ve posted so very very many words, but you actually do not. Even those who were “privileged” to read my private blogs years ago know only a sliver more.

Secret admirer

There was a time when I was extremely depressed because I thought I’d never meet a “soul mate” I could be 100% myself with, and vice versa, but I’m over it. Pretty much. I remember those few times though when I thought I had someone like this, or someone was a potential “this,” and it was ecstatically life-altering. Then came the crash. I’ve now accepted that it’s not going to happen, and hoping for it makes me feel worse, so I have to continue to censor myself with everyone everywhere, in various ways.

Cue sad whiny music… 🎶


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Brain Candy Share


Melanie has some brain candy questions for us to crunch…

1. “How many people in real life or on social media (including WordPress, which has become a rather social media site) do you consider good enough friends to help you ‘hide the dead body?’” [via Rory]

Since I don’t do anything illegal, I’m going to take this question in its most general sense… how many people can I count on to offer actual help (as opposed to virtual hugs) if I have a truly serious problem. I was in a down mood when I answered “none” to Rory, so I’ll amend that now. My daughters will always help me as much as they can, and vice versa. I have a few RL friends that would (and have) offered assistance to me, such as help with moving ~ not bodies, just boxes!

2. Are You Ready To Order? What Are You Having (craving) right now?

I’ve been craving a lobster roll for ages. It’s on my “bucket list” to nom up on my epic retirement trip across the country, which is likely just a dream now. But! A lobster food truck called “Cousins” has been making the rounds in Orange County, and I plan to meet them soon and get one! 😋 (To eat alone in my car…)

3. How’s the weather in YOUR neck of the woods?

Partially sunny and 72. 🌤

4. There has always been something. Before there was something, there was only nothing. Which do you think is more likely?

I’ll start with “I don’t know,” which is a fine answer to many questions and imo more people should avail themselves of it. But we are very uncomfortable with the anxiety of unknowns, so we attempt to fill them in with our limited human experience. I’m not sure why filling in unknowns with supernatural entities satisfies some people, but perhaps the magical area of my brain isn’t activated. In any case, my “feeling” is that something has always existed. Where it came from, how, when… I have no speculation other than I don’t believe in magic.

This week I am grateful for funny movies to distract me. 🤣


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Tea for Two [flash 250]

Tea garden

“Alan and I went to the Tea Garden on Lakeview last Sunday,” I said to Katie while we were waiting at the salon.

“I’ve always wanted to go!” Katie said. “How was it?”

I shook my head. “Although it was a simple thing to be doing, something strange was happening.”

Katie frowned. “Were they out of scones?”

“No. But while we were having tea, a young woman began singing in a strange language. She had long blonde hair and was dressed like an angel.”

Katie put down her magazine. “Go on.”

“She began rising in the air toward heaven. Naturally, I believed it was the rapture and fell to my knees to confess. Alan did the same.”

“Oh no!” Katie cried. “You didn’t tell about selling your engagement ring and replacing it with a fake, did you?”

“I did,” I sighed. “And then someone yelled cut. It was a movie scene.”

“How’s Alan taking it?”

“Not well, I’m afraid.” I grimaced. “I’ve had to cook Italian food all week to make him stop grumbling. I think I’ve put on three pounds!”

Katie shuddered. “Horrible!”

“He confessed something too though. Can you guess what?”

“I’m so sorry, Marisa!” Katie had gone pale. “It was only during that month you were away twenty years ago. We were both drunk. Can you ever forgive me?”

I stared at her. “I meant that he confessed he gambled away his inheritance. It wasn’t held up in probate.”

“Oh.” Katie said. “How were the scones then?”


Written for 50 Word Thursday 91.

Quote attributed to – Paulo Coelho – The Valkyries.

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FPQ89: Karma Chameleon


Fandango provocatively asks…

Do you believe in karma (or a similar “reap what you sow” notion)? Why or why not?

I have a karma-ish belief. It’s more of the reap/sow Christian idea than the Eastern wheel/reincarnation structure. We can observe that actions have consequences, and some of the consequences take years to be fully realized. This isn’t a woo belief; it’s just logic.

Some people seem to lie in wait for karma to “strike” those they dislike, but it’s not always going to be observable. You’re not going to see every ruthless, selfish, greedy person crashing publicly to a terrible end. But many do suffer, which is why they’re so nasty. Pain, whether physical or emotional, can make people act badly toward others. We can infer their suffering by their behavior.

Perhaps more importantly, large-scale results occur after groups of people behave in a similar way. Again, they may take years to actualize, and even then are open to our interpretation. Look at this plague, forex, and how it’s affecting peeps/culture. We certainly haven’t been respecting the earth much lately, and I’m not the only one who “joked” last year that Mother Nature finds ways to rid herself of vast numbers of pesky humans from time to time….

However much we fantasize about karma as a vengeful goddess who smites our enemies, though, it mostly doesn’t work that way. But we can console ourselves that bad people who hurt others/animals often do get hurt at some point as a result of their own behavior. Karma however is more of a long game, group punishment idea (to me). We’re all going to suffer as the logical results take shape from the actions of a powerful few…


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Let There Be Light & Lox

Today’s prompt from City Sonnet is L…

Chanukah lightsLox bagel cream cheese


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Images are mine.

Song Lyric Sunday ~ La

Song Lyric Sunday

It took me a while to come up with a song for Jim’s “la” this week cuz fa-la-la-la-la was stuck in my head! Arghh! But finally one floated into my brain. It’s “Shambala” by Three Dog Night. The lyrics were written by Daniel Moore in 1973. It was recorded by B.W. Stevenson and Three Dog Night, but only the TDN version was a smash hit. Stevenson’s is shorter and more country/twangy ~ it peaked higher in South Africa than TDN’s. TDN’s version peaked at 3 on the Hot 100 in the US.

The lyrics refer to the mythical kingdom of Shambhala, which is supposed to be in the Himalayas. It’s mentioned in various ancient texts, according to Wikipedia. But first the temple was in Peru. What? Idk! Religious stuffs… whaddaya gonna do? Just roll with it. Anyway, in this religion all people are good and kind and cooperate with each other so everyone is free from stress and full of joy. That sounds nice. Okay then…

Shambala by Three Dog Night

Wash away my troubles, wash away my pain
With the rain in Shambala
Wash away my sorrow, wash away my shame
With the rain in Shambala
Ah, ooh, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah
Everyone is helpful, everyone is kind
On the road to Shambala
Everyone is lucky, everyone is so kind
On the road to Shambala
Ah, ooh, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah
How does your light shine, in the halls of Shambala
I can tell my sister by the flowers in her eyes
On the road to Shambala
I can tell my brother by the flowers in her eyes
On the road to Shambala
Ah, ooh, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah
How does your light shine, in the halls of Shambala


Image from Jim Adams

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Holiday Oversharing

Hanukkah Bitmoji

Melanie has questions!


1. Do dogs ‘talk’ (communicate) with their own species?

I think so. I’m not sure if all that barking means anything other than to warn critters away from “their” territory, but dogs seem to have a complex system of body language to communicate with each other. So do cats and other animals, even bugs. We aren’t that special. And no I didn’t read any of the links; I’m just jabbering away, as I do.

2. Have you ever had to work on Christmas Day?

Had to, no, but it’s a good day for me to get work and other chores done, since I don’t celebrate Christmas. This year, I’ll do some work in the morning before heading over to a friend’s house to watch movies.

Merry Christmas Bitmoji

3. If someone gifts you something that you immediately loathe, do you pretend to really like it anyway or are you brutally honest about your opinion?

I find something about it to like and a kind comment to make. “Brutally honest” is a euphemism for being an asshole ~ it’s one of the terms you see a lot on dating sites from men who revel in being jerks. Yuck.

3. Which popular drink, found during the Christmas season most often, is called “milk punch?”

Don’t know, sounds gross.

4. How many ghosts show up during “A Christmas Carol?”

Just had this Q in a trivia game and luckily one of my teammates knew it was 4.

5. Are you all about the holly and jolly or more about remembering the alleged ‘true’ meaning of Christmas?

Neither really, since I celebrate Chanukah, and that only mildly. But I’m not a humbug either… I’m happy for other people’s joy and will go to parties, sing, dance, and be merry.

Meowy Christmas Bitmoji

6. Please share a memory or thought about the holiday season if you’d like, whatever kind of celebration you may observe.

When I was in 5th grade the music teacher asked if anyone was Jewish. Unfortunately, I had told someone I was so she pointed to me. The teacher asked how I celebrated Chanukah and I said I didn’t. He was confused and made a joke about Santa not celebrating Christmas. Everyone laughed and I felt humiliated. I hated him. And them. But it wasn’t their fault. In 6th grade, I stayed home sick on music days around that time to avoid this scenario repeating.

I was a half-Jewish girl who didn’t celebrate the Jewish holidays because my father had no interest in them. My mom liked to put up Christmas lights and decorate cookies, so that’s what we did. We had Easter bunny baskets too. I grew up with all the standard American stuff, even though I didn’t really belong to it. It was easy to give it up when I married a Jewish man. Later, after our divorce, when faced with various dating options, I decided I didn’t want to observe holidays in my home that I no longer felt connected to. (I am fine with not doing anything for any holidays however.) Why do I feel connected to my father’s side and not my mother’s, when he wasn’t even interested in his own holidays? I don’t know.

Dizzy dreidel Bitmoji


Images from Bitmoji

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Sharing in a Pear Tree

Melanie has some questions now!


• Do you enjoy receiving Christmas cards through snail mail? 

Sure! I like when people personalize them too and do photo cards or write some stuff about what happened during the year. 😻

• Do you like the taste and/or smell of peppermint?

It depends. Not a huge fan of chocolate/mint combos, but I do like peppermints alone for a breath freshener.

• What is your least favorite holiday side dish?

Mashed potatoes. Do not understand the love people have for this boring white food.

• What is the coolest (best) gift you ever gave someone?

I usually go with safe gifts like books or gift cards rather than something cute or funny, so I don’t think any of my gifts could be considered cool, but people usually like what I get them. My daughters used to cringe at the adorable things I’d find for them, which is probably why I switched to more practical presents.

• Bonus question because I thought it was nifty:   What is a Christmas song that makes you cringe?   (Please insert the word “Holiday” for Christmas if Christmas isn’t your thing or bothers you or something)

I don’t mind Christmas songs at all. You’d think as a Jewish atheist I might turn up my nose at them, but I don’t. I especially like some of the rock versions like Bruce Springsteen’s “Santa Claus Is Comin’ to Town.” 🎶

What I can’t stand is Adam Sandler’s Chanukah Song. I feel bad saying this, since I understand he had good intentions when he wrote it, but his voice just grates on my nerves. I can’t bear listening to it at all, and I guess there are 2 or 3 versions now? Idk. I don’t like any of his movies either, except 50 First Dates. The thing is, Jews had plenty of songs before Adam came up with this, and it’s not that hard to figure out who is Jewish (or partly) in Hollywood, if that’s important. We didn’t need this song as he seems to imply in it. But even so, he was trying to do something nice, so I shouldn’t be mean. But…


Image credit to the Bitmoji app.

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