What’s the difference between my social media presence now and how it was before Covid, the election of 2020, etc.? Welp, several things have changed. First, I’m mellower now, and I prefer lightness and kindness to intense conversations online. That may seem strange, given that so many others seem harsher, less forgiving, and more argumentative. But I’ve never been one to follow the crowd, and I see nothing beneficial in fighting with trolls or even interacting with angry, stubborn, opinionated “friends” who would never consider another POV.
My two-year Facebook break put a lot of things in perspective. While I focused on blogging and tweeting, I realized that not only do I enjoy nice things, but it is within my power to create them. Instead of moaning about all the T* in my feed, for example, I began hiding and blocking the accounts who focused on him 24/7. Suddenly, my reading selections were much more fun. I even muted accounts I agreed with, if they were solely posting negative stuff.
Then I turned the lens on myself. I deleted posts and tweets that were full of nasty sarcasm and toxic words, or agreeing with same. I dumped my “dating stories” because even though some were funny, most were just a big fat bitchfest. When I returned to Facebook, I was surprised at how much worse it had become in two years. People were constantly seeking confrontation! Reluctantly, I began to hide/block the worst offenders, which sadly included a few long-time friends. We do have the tools to curate our own experience, which to me is preferable to continuing to complain about other people’s speech. I take responsibility for what I allow into my life.
Here’s another example. I have managed to rid my feeds of most celeb stories in the past month or so by religiously blocking all garbage media at the source (aka tabloids) and hiding celeb articles from sources I like otherwise. Now, I’m not so frustrated when I go to read real news. It really makes a difference to use the tools we have at our disposal.
Written for Linda’s SOCS.
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