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The Monday Peeve 5

The Monday Peeve Smiles and positive posts are all well and good, but sometimes I need to vent a bit. How about you? That’s what The Monday Peeve is all about, a chance to blow off a little steam at the beginning of the week, so then we can go merrily on our way once again (hah). I’ll pick a topic that’s on my mind, but you can vent about whatever you please, here in comments or on your own blog. Grab the photo, use the #TMP tag, and link back to me (or not ~ I dgaf), and Bob’s yer uncle. I do reserve the right to delete any links that offend my delicate sensibilities. So far, none have, but it could happen! I have feelings!

Here we go then with today’s…

Teasers are fun in novels and film, but in real life? State the price upfront for God’s sake already! I can’t believe how ridiculous people are and how much of everyone’s time, including their own, they continually squander.

Forex, I’ve been apartment hunting off and on. Most landlords grok that location and price are the key factors, so they state them immediately. But there are still some that say “call for price.” Um no. Put it in the ad, or forget it. What, they think people will be so enticed by new paint or whatever that they’ll forget their budget. Omg honey, look, a cute patio! Let’s spend $500 more per month we don’t have!

So dumb. I emailed one guy on Nextdoor to ask for deets and he replied which? So I said price (and everything else). He wrote a long-winded message about All The Things, putting price last. Ya know… he could have put price in his initial message and saved us both the bother. Price isn’t a secret. You don’t have to be ashamed of what you’re asking for rent.

Well… if you are embarrassed, maybe you should reconsider that number, hah.

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A POP of Perception

Pop

Angie (aka King Ben’s Grandma) tagged me in Beckie’s positivity prompt. The theme this round is graciousness. Please pop over to Angie’s to read about the origins of the prompt along with her wonderful take on gracious greetings.

My idea of graciousness is rooted in being considerate. This probably comes from my years in administrative support. I’m always aware of people’s moods and when it’s a good time to stop and chitchat, and when a simple “good morning” will suffice. I try to be constantly aware of others’ moods. This is something that only works in person, of course.

Now that I’m noodling on it, this awareness of mood goes beyond my working life and back to my childhood (doesn’t everything?). My parents often argued bitterly, and this was scary to me, so I was forever “taking the temperature” of the room and adjusting my behavior accordingly. I needed to know if it was time to be funny or quiet or what.

I’m a person who says “good morning” with a smile, but I don’t go beyond that unless I perceive it will be welcomed. And I would rather err on the side of too little than too much. I don’t tell people to smile; honestly, I hate when people do that. It’s just so… selfish. An unsmiling face makes us feel bad, which is why we exhort people to smile.

But how do we know why someone isn’t smiling? Maybe they’re in pain. Maybe a family member is desperately sick. Maybe they just got walloped with a bill they can’t afford. Leave them alone! Let them look sad and deal with your own discomfort over it. Unless you’re actively prepared to help them with their problem, don’t mouth off with a meaningless comment. K?

Thank you for coming to my rant. Now go be less annoying and more gracious in your greetings.

If you would like to participate in Beckie’s prompt, please visit Angie’s blog for the rules. I graciously decline to tag anyone.

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Some Light Housekeeping

Cleaning

First, my apologies for unfollowing and re-following some of you tonight. A handful of you were in my list twice, and due to my OCD I had to delete you and add you back. For whatever reason, WordPress did not allow me to simply delete the duplicates. That would be too convenient. 🙄

I discovered something interesting. The list of blogs on the WP app manager does not show all the blogs I follow. I always knew it couldn’t possibly be complete as it was way too short. What’s weird is how random it was though. Some bloggers I interact with daily were there (Fandango, forex), but others weren’t (Ashleyleia, forex). It also included others who haven’t posted a thing in 6 months.

Even curiouser, when I unfollowed some of those inactive bloggers, others then popped in (such as Ashleyleia). I spent quite some time “curating” this list, though I know I should peruse the real list on a browser to get the full picture. I’m sure there must be dozens of inactive blogs floating around in my actual list even after this hosing.

I deleted some active blogs too… ones focused on topics I’m just not into, such as pure photography and recipes without much chitchat. Business blogs, advice and self-help stuff. And call me ageist if you want, but I’m not so much into the student bloggery. They have their peeps; they don’t need Grandma.

There’s just so much! I need to have some filters, however arbitrary. I want to read other writers who post a lot.

But not too much! Cuz that’s annoying, as discussed.

Shrug

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Scary Sharing [ranty]

Scream

Questions from Sparks

Social media (Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, Snapchat) a good thing, a bad thing or a mixture of both?

Bad. Right now, I have a Twitter account, which I mainly use for poetry prompts and news, but the way others use it to argue and snark 24/7? Bad. It contributes to our nasty, bullying culture. Of course nastiness and bullying existed before the internet, but we weren’t hooked into it every minute of the day. You could take an actual break from school and not look at what people were saying. But now? Well, naturally you “need to know.” Same goes for the garbage on FB and Insta… you can’t be out of the loop! 😱

Before people fly into a tizzy, I’m not saying anything should be banned. I voluntarily left Facebook and Instagram. I suggest you do the same. Unfortunately I still have an account I made just to use Messenger for the convenience of friend chats, but I hope that’s temporary. It irritates me that some friends are opposed to normal texting.

I am absolutely opposed to the constant political screamfest on every corner of the internet that has accomplished absolutely nothing. Everyone is now able to screech about how much they hate X and get a pile of X-haters to agree, and another pile of Y-haters to engage in an endless namecalling jamboree, yippee doodle. What a great way to spend our free time. 🙄

Besides that, social media has destroyed privacy. Many of us overshare in so many ways; it’s the new normal to blurt out our feelings all the time to the whole world or to our 500 “friends.” Not only that, but in order to have “free” access to the things, we give giant corporations all our info, and shrug off periodic hacking and ID theft as a cost of doing business because we simply must stay connected 24/7 to these people who actually don’t even notice when we disappear. They really don’t.

People begged me not to leave Facebook. Then they laughed and said I’d be back in a month. Now, they’ve forgotten me. There are bloggers who have left. Some used to post and comment all the time. Who even ever thinks about them?

Are you camera shy or do you pose for the camera with confidence?

I’m not a fan of people taking my pic when I’m talking or have a mouthful of food. I always let people know when I’m taking their photo, and if they don’t want me to, I don’t. That said, if someone asks, I’ll always smile and agree. Why not ask? It’s just good manners.

Is there anything you’ve kept from younger years for sentimental reasons alone?

I have a folder full of school stuff to remind me of how much potential I once had and that I let it fade away to nothing.

Do you like to decorate for different holidays?

When I had a house I did. I especially went all out for Halloween because that’s such a fun holiday to me, with no pressure for family dinners or gifts. It’s just pure silly enjoyment. For the kids I mean! 🤣🎃👻

Halloween pumpkin head

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Laura’s October Challenge (Day 7)

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The Monday Peeve 4

The Monday Peeve

Smiles and positive posts are all well and good, but sometimes I need to vent a bit. How about you? That’s what The Monday Peeve is all about, a chance to blow off a little steam at the beginning of the week, so then we can go merrily on our way once again (hah). I’ll pick a topic that’s on my mind, but you can vent about whatever you please, here in comments or on your own blog. Grab the photo, use the #TMP tag, and link back to me (or not ~ I dgaf), and Bob’s yer uncle. I do reserve the right to delete any links that offend my delicate sensibilities. So far, none have, but it could happen! I have feelings!

Here we go then with today’s…

Recently I unfollowed some bloggers, but it’s not because they said anything offensive. Some of them I actually like. But I want to be fair, and if a few people are posting like mad while others stick to (what I consider) a more reasonable schedule, then the mad posters dominate my feed. I’m not about to change my habits and receive posts by email to make sure I don’t miss my “faves.” Why not? Because I don’t want to.

To give you an example of what I’m talking about, I just went through and counted the posts that a certain blogger made in a 24-hour period. The total was 50. FIFTY! That is not a reasonable number to me. Most of these were reposts with hundreds of likes already. Why is it necessary to grab more? I don’t know. Probably ad revenue.

Not my problem. I make no money from my blog. This is for fun, and I have no interest in helping people make money from their posts. Get a real job. Write a book. Whatever. But don’t spam me. I am finding myself increasingly peeved about reposts. I don’t mean hey here’s a funny post from 3 years ago you might want to check out… no, I’m talking about the spam type of repost. When I see I’ve already liked a post, and recall reading it recently, I have to wonder why it’s floating through again except to annoy me. Don’t be a feed hog! Let posts from other bloggers have a chance to be seen!

Bottom line: Don’t make my blog reading experience inconvenient for me. If you do, you risk the unfollow click.

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October Challenge: Day 1

It’s the first day of October

And I wear a snuggly scarf;

Pumpkin flavored everything

Is already getting barf!

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Written for Laura’s October Challenge

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The Monday Peeve 3

The Monday Peeve

Smiles and positive posts are all well and good, but sometimes I need to vent a bit. How about you? That’s what The Monday Peeve is all about, a chance to blow off a little steam at the beginning of the week, so then we can go merrily on our way once again (hah). I’ll pick a topic that’s on my mind, but you can vent about whatever you please, here in comments or on your own blog. Grab the photo, use the #TMP tag, and link back to me (or not ~ I dgaf), and Bob’s yer uncle. I do reserve the right to delete any links that offend my delicate sensibilities. So far, none have, but it could happen! I have feelings!

Here we go then with today’s…

Like everyone, I hate garbage and spam cluttering my email. Gmail does a good job filtering out the worst of it and sorting the rest into categories, but even so there’s so much useless crap to deal with and it gets on my nerves. I don’t want to block all of it because sometimes I want to see things from those addresses, but geez, why so much? Surely they know they’re annoying. Nobody likes this! Nobody. And yeah I’ve heard the argument a million times now that if they can make just a teensy more in sales then it’s worth pissing off X number of others, but I question that.

Why? Because I am starting to block some of the worst offenders. Take DSW shoes, a place I actually like. But they send me so much crap I can’t stand it any longer, so I’m filtering them completely out. Done! And I can’t be the only one. If it’s irritated me to this point, then others must feel the same way. I’m simply tired of wasting my time deleting junk from the promo box twice a day ~ and I do check that box because stuff gets sent there I may want to read.

Once a week is plenty for any ad. If I keep seeing it, I want the product less not more.

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FPQ42: Censorship

FPQ

Fandango provocatively asks…

“Do you feel that in today’s world — and perhaps in the part of the world in which you live — the freedom to articulate and express opinions and ideas without fear of retaliation, censorship, or legal sanction is being threatened?”

Speaking to the legal aspect, not at all. I am referencing only my personal, direct experience here, not stuff blogged about hysterically without proof. What do I mean by that? I mean… when people start shrieking about someone’s rights being violated before they know the whole story. And then when the rest of the story comes out, it’s generally ignored. As far as me, I am somewhat protected by my “white privilege” and also by the fact that I am a very small fish and generally don’t write stupid things.

That isn’t to say I haven’t caused myself some needless personal consequences over written material ~ I certainly have. But the part of the question I’m addressing now is about freedom to write without fear of legal consequences, and I feel I have that.

What about besides legal consequences? Well, I don’t know. It’s hard to compare anything to the vast reach of the internet. There was a time, I guess, you could pen an edgy opinion letter to your local gazette and incur the wrath of a little town, but now send off an unfortunate tweet and the next day wake up to a million folks around the world calling you a c*nt. That shouldn’t happen though. See the next paragraph…

I think there should be more “censorship,” not less. But not by the government (which is why I put it in quotes). I think internet service providers and websites should be upholding their TOS and enforcing their own standards we’ve all agreed to against impersonation, hate speech, racism, etc.

It’s not impossible. It just seems that way because we’ve elevated the idea of “anonymity” to the highest value. If we disallowed anonymity, much of the hate would vanish overnight.

Not all of it, of course. The POTUS isn’t anonymous, I realize. 🤣

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©️2019 Paula Light and Light Motifs II. No unauthorized use permitted. Please check out Paula’s books for sale on Amazon.

The Monday Peeve 2

The Monday Peeve

Smiles and positive posts are all well and good, but sometimes I need to vent a bit. How about you? That’s what The Monday Peeve is all about, a chance to blow off a little steam at the beginning of the week, so then we can go merrily on our way once again (hah). I’ll pick a topic that’s on my mind, but you can vent about whatever you please, here in comments or on your own blog. Grab the photo, use the #TMP tag, and link back to me (or not ~ I dgaf), and Bob’s yer uncle. I do reserve the right to delete any links that offend my delicate sensibilities. So far, none have, but it could happen! I have feelings!

Here we go then with today’s…

I can’t stand it when numbers don’t work. This is an enormous peeve of mine. Words may have imprecise definitions, tastes often vary, people can wobble into walls, but numbers dammit? No, I do not accept it when numbers fail.

Here’s an example. Someone tried to send me money via PayPal using my phone number and the funds were returned. PayPal said they didn’t know my number, which happens to be the one I’ve been using for 20 years with them. So, I called them up, confirmed my phone, and they said oh it’s better to use an email address. Why? Why would it be better to use letters over numbers? They had no answer for me. Utterly maddening.

I was so annoyed I was going to switch to Venmo except I saw that PayPal owns Venmo. It’d be like giving up Facebook and keeping Messenger. Who’d be silly enough to do that?

Oh right. Me. 🙄

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©️2019 Paula Light and Light Motifs II. No unauthorized use permitted. Please check out Paula’s books for sale on Amazon.

All Apologies

There are many forms of apologies, most of them insincere. We’ve all seen the political apology (not limited to politicians, of course), where the person is simply sad they got caught doing the thing and hopes to continue doing the thing, but differently. The people who support the politician will forgive him, and the ones who don’t won’t, whatever the thing may be.

Then there’s the the celebrity apology. This occurs when a celeb says something stupid, which happens on the daily, and they come trotting out in front of the cameras, all abashed looking, saying how deeply sorry they are if they’ve caused offense to anyone and they certainly didn’t mean to. Usually they’re forgiven because they’re pretty.

The cheater’s apology is a combo of the above. Mostly, the cheater is deeply sorry he got caught. He has suddenly realized his behavior is wrong ~ or hers, in the case of those college scam moms. S/he promises to make amends to those s/he has wronged.

Blah blah blah.

I say sorry a lot. Usually it’s because I’m clumsy and bump into people or drop stuff. Or I’m not paying attention and don’t hear something or have forgotten it two seconds later. I’ll say sorry when I hear someone else’s sad news even though it’s not my fault because I feel sympathy for them. Saying “my sympathies” sounds too formal for me.

Generally, if I feel badly about something I’ve done to someone, I’ll change my behavior rather than issue a meaningless apology, but this is rare. Why? Well, I don’t interact with many people, and I’m also careful. In my opinion, there are plenty of folks who should apologize to me! Do I expect them to? Of course not. They’re jerks.

I used to be quick to accept apologies ~ too quick. It feels good to forgive. Don’t want to be a dour, unforgiving grump. But this hurt me because I didn’t analyze why a person was apologizing and often it turned out they simply wanted back into my life in order to do the same thing (or worse) yet again. I learned. Took a long time though.

Recently however, I did receive a very nice apology with an offer to be taken out to lunch. I declined the lunch, but the warmth of the apology was appreciated. Now, I do get that it was partly motivated by other concerns, which is fine. It was still gracious. It’s rare to be the recipient of graciousness in this world lately.

Enjoy it when you can.

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Written for Mindlovemisery

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