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The Monday Peeve 77

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Smiles and positive posts are all well and good, but sometimes I need to vent a bit. How about you? That’s what The Monday Peeve is all about, a chance to blow off a little steam at the beginning of the week, so then we can go merrily on our way once again (hah). I’ll pick a topic that’s on my mind, but you can vent about whatever you please, here in comments or on your own blog. Grab the photo, use the TMP tag, link back to me (or not), and Bob’s yer uncle. I do reserve the right to delete any links that offend my delicate sensibilities. So far, none have, but it could happen. I have feelings!

Continuing with last week’s griping about novels, today I’m going to complain about the unreliable narrator. Now, in general, I like this concept and when it’s done right, it’s awesome. Two great examples are Gone Girl and We Have Always Lived in the Castle. But lately it’s been my misfortune to have waded through several utterly crappy books with unreliable narration. Usually we have a woman, on the run from Scary Man. She keeps finding hints that Scary Man is coming after her. Oh no! The story flashes in and out from the present time, where she’s trying to make a new life for herself but can’t tell anyone her Big Secret, and the past, where she was subjected to some Horrific Thing. It’s all very exciting and I get caught up in wanting to see what happens.

But then we reach the end and it’s all a lie. There is no Scary Man. The Big Secret is a big nothing. Horrific Thing was a random accident. Everything the narrator said to us was BS. Ugh no. I feel cheated. Like I read all that way to find out it was just a dream.

When you set up the unreliable narrator, you have to make the things she tells us come together in a way that makes sense later. Don’t end the story by saying neener, fooled you, psyche! That’s ridiculous. In particular, I’m talking about one book where the so-called abuser simply didn’t exist. Very uncool.

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The Monday Peeve 76

monday peeve kitty cat

Smiles and positive posts are all well and good, but sometimes I need to vent a bit. How about you? That’s what The Monday Peeve is all about, a chance to blow off a little steam at the beginning of the week, so then we can go merrily on our way once again (hah). I’ll pick a topic that’s on my mind, but you can vent about whatever you please, here in comments or on your own blog. Grab the photo, use the TMP tag, link back to me (or not), and Bob’s yer uncle. I do reserve the right to delete any links that offend my delicate sensibilities. So far, none have, but it could happen. I have feelings!

OMG, I am so tired of identical twins being used in fiction. It’s such a letdown really, like the writer has simply run out of imagination. I sometimes enjoy a story or movie until it turns out that “the twin” did the thing. UGH! It’s starting to feel like duex ex machina every time now ~ you know what I mean? That’s when a writer gets the story out of a tangled mess by plopping in something out of the blue. Literally the definition means “a god from a machine” from when the ancients suspended a crane over the stage to drop down a god during sticky wickets. That’s how I think of twins in fiction. How could the hero have been home with his wife AND committing the murder? Simple… plop in a twin. How could the beautiful mysterious woman be dead and also not dead? TWIN! Grrrr…

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My Last Nerve [SOCS]

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Romance novels have predictable endings (happily-ever-after for old-timey ones and happy-for-now in contemporaries), but they still should contain solid writing, and that precludes older than dirt cliches. Some romance novelists are much better writers than others ~ one way to tell right off the bat is if they avoid cliches and keep their writing fresh as a daisy.

It’s so off-putting to see the hero lazily described as having a chiseled jawline or with hair black as night. Ugh! And I don’t want to read that the heroine grows weak in the knees when he kisses her, nor do I want the kisses to be described as soul-shattering. It’s so boring I’d rather watch paint dry.

This stuff just gets on my last nerve.

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The Monday Peeve 75

monday peeve kitty cat

Smiles and positive posts are all well and good, but sometimes I need to vent a bit. How about you? That’s what The Monday Peeve is all about, a chance to blow off a little steam at the beginning of the week, so then we can go merrily on our way once again (hah). I’ll pick a topic that’s on my mind, but you can vent about whatever you please, here in comments or on your own blog. Grab the photo, use the TMP tag, link back to me (or not), and Bob’s yer uncle. I do reserve the right to delete any links that offend my delicate sensibilities. So far, none have, but it could happen. I have feelings!

Why are there so many bad movies on Amazon Prime? I keep wanting to watch movies and yet they’re just awful, one after another. I’m in this spiral of bad partly due to watching a pile of Christmas romcoms, so now the algorithm is pushing every crappy Hallmark romance at me. If I try another genre, as I did last night with Best Seller, it’s often even worse than a terrible romcom. Luckily tonight I stumbled onto something good: My Name Is Sarah. And I’m watching the series Nothing Trivial, which I love. But my peeve remains: it’s way too hard to find a good movie on Prime! 😡

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©️2021 Paula Light and Light Motifs II. No unauthorized use permitted. Please check out Paula’s books for sale on Amazon.

The Monday Peeve 74

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Smiles and positive posts are all well and good, but sometimes I need to vent a bit. How about you? That’s what The Monday Peeve is all about, a chance to blow off a little steam at the beginning of the week, so then we can go merrily on our way once again (hah). I’ll pick a topic that’s on my mind, but you can vent about whatever you please, here in comments or on your own blog. Grab the photo, use the TMP tag, link back to me (or not), and Bob’s yer uncle. I do reserve the right to delete any links that offend my delicate sensibilities. So far, none have, but it could happen. I have feelings!

OMG, why are grocery stores so annoying?! I’ve thought this for a while and at the store today (Saturday, Jan 30) decided it would make a good peeve. The carts are annoying because they don’t work properly, probably because of the anti-theft wheels. Since people are too mushy to imprison shopping cart thieves, I HAVE TO SUFFER. Unless you have a bad back, you won’t understand how struggling with a cart causes massive pain ~ it is not a mere inconvenience to coax the stupid thing another 50 feet. Cart-shamers can eff right off. I sometimes put my cart away; other times I just leave it between spaces. People are paid to retrieve them, so pffft.

But that’s not actually what I came here to crab about. Today I’m more irritated with product placement inside the grocery stores themselves. Forex, I was searching for golden raisins (for my famous red cabbage recipe) and saw an aisle labeled “Dried Fruit,” so of course I ASSUMED raisins would be there. NOPE. Well then, how about near the applesauce and canned pears and stuff? NO, NOT THERE. Where then?

Oh. They’re in the “Natural Food” section across from fresh veggies. Ugh. I also needed apple cider vinegar and silly me thought it might be near oil because oil & vinegar, amirite? WRONG! It’s next to the salad dressing. Don’t even get me started about Kosher salt and caraway seeds, neither of which I could find at all. I almost bought Himalayan salt because IT WAS PINK, but then I saw it was like six bucks for a little bottle and put it back due to failing to win the lottery.

I could have made this into two peeves, but it’s not like I have a hard time coming up with new things to complain about every week!

UPDATE: I’ve been to Target since I ranted and guess where they put coffee? By the tea, right? WRONG! It’s next to booze. 🙄

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©️2021 Paula Light and Light Motifs II. No unauthorized use permitted. Please check out Paula’s books for sale on Amazon.

The Monday Peeve 73

monday peeve kitty cat

Smiles and positive posts are all well and good, but sometimes I need to vent a bit. How about you? That’s what The Monday Peeve is all about, a chance to blow off a little steam at the beginning of the week, so then we can go merrily on our way once again (hah). I’ll pick a topic that’s on my mind, but you can vent about whatever you please, here in comments or on your own blog. Grab the photo, use the TMP tag, link back to me (or not), and Bob’s yer uncle. I do reserve the right to delete any links that offend my delicate sensibilities. So far, none have, but it could happen. I have feelings!

WTF is going on with recipes? I vaguely remembered a delicious red cabbage & apple side dish I made back as a Mad Housewife, and since we have a red cabbage here that needs to be used, I tried to find the recipe. Must have tossed that cookbook. So I googled for red cabbage+apple+onion+raisins (the main ingredients) and got a zillion hits. Most recipes go like this: “In the beginning, there was nothing. Then God sprinkled some sea salt and it was good. [87 paragraphs later] My grandma walked 5 miles in the snow with a bag of apples… [342 paragraphs later] Here are the ingredients you will need for the braised cabbage…”

Eff me sideways, amirite? Why do we need to start back at the Big Bang to make a danged veggie dish? I hate to think what would happen if I googled chicken & dumplings, which in fact I had a dream about last night (writing this on Saturday afternoon). I don’t want to read about how the cabbage is good with snausages either! JUST.TELL.ME.HOW.TO.MAKE.THE.FOOD!!!!!

Beyond that, the recipes are all so foofy, when I finally get to them. Kosher salt, star anise, caraway seeds, gah! That’s not how I remember the simple cabbage dish I made 20 years ago. In any case, I found a reasonable recipe on Serious Eats, though I am not putting garlic in my braised cabbage tonight. Love garlic, when appropriate, but this is a sweet & sour side dish, not a freaking lasagna.

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FPQ106 with a Bonus Rory Question!

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Fandango provocatively asks…

In the context of blogging and writing, what do you think is more important: what you say or how you say it?

I assume most are going to say HOW, so I’m tempted to say WHAT, just to be contrary, but the truth is… I think they are equally important depending upon the nature of the post. 🙃

Forex, I will not follow bloggers who jabber nonsense about conspiracy theories or offer links to stupid YouTube rantings, no matter HOW they say it. I do not wish to engage with anyone who defends the twice-impeached former POTUS in any manner whatsoever. I’ve been unfollowing those who post lies about the recent US election or jumbled mutterings about dark forces. I don’t care how nicely they fling these turds, it is the WHAT that matters to me. Same goes for most idiotic conspiracy posts unless they’re totally silly or benign.

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But if we’re talking about creative fiction, then it’s the HOW that matters more than the WHAT. Many of us begin with the same prompt words or images and come up with vastly different interpretations because our creativity flows down different paths. The interesting aspect to me is HOW someone’s mind works to create a piece of fiction or poetry, not the subject matter so much.

When I write, I consider both aspects, more focused on WHAT I’m saying when I’m ranting about something (The Monday Peeve) and diving deeper into HOW I’m saying it when I’m creating a piece of fiction or poetry.

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Bonus Related Question from Rory…

Is it more important to you to be a good blogger, or a community player or… what?

Ideally, they both would collide in a beautiful explosion of fame and money, but alas…

Here’s the thing. I call BS on anyone who says they’re only blogging for themselves. Then why write in public? Have a private blog or keep your thoughts locked in a Word document. Every blogger/Tweep/FB poster, etc. is hoping for an audience, though some are more attention-seeking than others. That said, I am okay with only a little bit of community engagement, and I will continue to post writing I enjoy even if it doesn’t get as many views/comments as other writing. But if I find that a type of writing gets ZERO engagement? I probably would discontinue it or seriously tweak it ~ in this case adjusting both the WHAT and the HOW to attract more views/comments. Otherwise, why bother writing in public? This is a huge reason why I became disenchanted with Twitter and Medium: little to no actual engagement.

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I found that my whining about dating and relationships generated a lot of views and engagement. But was it “good bloggery?” I decided it wasn’t. I grew uncomfortable with those posts and have discontinued them, even deleting some of the whinier ones from the blog altogether. (Yes, I know people who received them in email may still have them, etc.) I kept the best dating stories however and gave them their own page.

So in that case, the community engagement was a negative, especially when people gave me unsolicited advice about how to be “better” on dating sites as if the problem was me and not the sites themselves with their scam accounts, liars, cheaters, and overall creepy men. It didn’t matter HOW I wrote about this stuff because people gravitated to the WHAT and responded by trying to “fix Paula’s issues” instead of giving me the commiseration I sought. When I find a particular subject matter isn’t working for me, I avoid it in the future.

Hope that clears things up!

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Thanks Jim!

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Okay, so I followed Jim’s directions and did not start a new post from the main menu (where you are given only one option of starting a new post). I clicked on admin, then posts, then the drop down menu ~ this allowed me to begin a post with the Classic Editor instead of Blockhead. I’m really happy to be writing a post “normally” on my laptop instead of with those insane blocks.

As I’ve said, the one nice feature of blocks is the ability for me to save templates for my regular prompt posts. But it certainly wasn’t worth that tiny convenience yesterday when one of my blocks got messed up, saved itself, and ruined a dozen posts that WP would not let me edit! Remember that a reusable block will update in EVERY POST, not just the current one.

What’s funny is that posting from my app gives me no problems whatsoever (except that for my longer rants and such, it’s nice to have the real keyboard on my laptop), but on the browser, they want you to mindlessly default to blocks. Why? I don’t know! Blockhead posts couldn’t be seen properly in the app anyway, nor could blocks be edited there once scheduled. I had to preview my blog in a browser window if I wanted to check my post.

Anyway, a big thanks to Jim for his help today!

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©️2021 Paula Light and Light Motifs II. No unauthorized use permitted. Please check out Paula’s books for sale on Amazon.

The Monday Peeve 72

Smiles and positive posts are all well and good, but sometimes I need to vent a bit. How about you? That’s what The Monday Peeve is all about, a chance to blow off a little steam at the beginning of the week, so then we can go merrily on our way once again (hah). I’ll pick a topic that’s on my mind, but you can vent about whatever you please, here in comments or on your own blog. Grab the photo, use the TMP tag, link back to me (or not), and Bob’s yer uncle. I do reserve the right to delete any links that offend my delicate sensibilities. So far, none have, but it could happen. I have feelings!

I normally don’t peeve about politics, cuz there is too much political jabbering everywhere, but today is an exception. This is a very specific peeve about Biden haters on the left. So, if you are politically on the right, this peeve does not apply to you. I’m talking about people left of center who never liked Biden in the first place but are now bitching and moaning that he hasn’t accomplished a series of miracles in the FIVE DAYS he’s been POTUS. FFS! We had 4 years of horrible, self-serving, incompetent leadership, yet Biden is supposed to fix every single thing that’s wrong in less than a week? End all the wars, eliminate COVID, clean up the environment, give everyone healthcare, solve the immigration mess, on and on. FIVE DAYS! Chill the eff out.

That’s all. I’ll be back with a trivial peeve next week.

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©️2021 Paula Light and Light Motifs II. No unauthorized use permitted. Please check out Paula’s books for sale on Amazon.

FPQ105: Read the TOS

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This is going to be a super-long post, so it won’t hurt my feelings if you pass it by, though IMNSHO there is a lot of good content here. If you simply drop a like without reading it, your loss.

Fandango provocatively asks…

Do you think [TOS violator] should be allowed back on social media now that he’s no longer in office?

I hope Fandango forgives me for slightly editing his question to remove the specific name. My view is that people should be held to the terms they agreed to when they signed up for a service. This means all people, no exceptions.

Let’s use WordPress for our first example, since most of my readers are using this service. Have you read the TOS? There are a lot of terms there… having to do with signing up, payments, disclaimers of WP liability for anything, using the site for e-commerce, more gobble about money, and some conditions having to do with users’ behavior. Here are some examples:

  • Will comply with all applicable laws and regulations (including, without limitation, all applicable laws regarding online conduct and acceptable content, privacy, data protection, the transmission of technical data exported from the United States or the country in which you reside, the use or provision of financial services, notification and consumer protection, unfair competition, and false advertising);
  • Will not be for any unlawful purposes, to publish illegal content, or in furtherance of illegal activities;
  • Will not disclose the personal information of others;
  • Will not be used to send spam or bulk unsolicited messages; […]

You must obey the laws about online conduct and acceptable conduct. What are those? Here’s a look

Okay, what about, say… Twitter? Anything goes there, right? Um nope. Contrary to what Twitter looks like, they actually have rules. Which they enforce arbitrarily, unfortunately. These sites making gobs of money (FB, Twitter, etc.) should, in my opinion, be forced to hire as many people as necessary to enforce their own TOS. If they can’t/don’t/won’t, they should be taken offline. There is no excuse! If there are too many messages to monitor, fix it so there aren’t. They can and should. No one needs to tweet 500 times per day if the site can’t handle monitoring their content.

Here are some rules from the Twitter TOS:

  • Violence: You may not threaten violence against an individual or a group of people. We also prohibit the glorification of violence. Learn more about our violent threat and glorification of violence policies. 
  • Abuse/harassment: You may not engage in the targeted harassment of someone, or incite other people to do so. This includes wishing or hoping that someone experiences physical harm. Learn more.
  • Hateful conduct: You may not promote violence against, threaten, or harass other people on the basis of race, ethnicity, national origin, caste, sexual orientation, gender, gender identity, religious affiliation, age, disability, or serious disease. Learn more
  • Civic Integrity: You may not use Twitter’s services for the purpose of manipulating or interfering in elections or other civic processes. This includes posting or sharing content that may suppress participation or mislead people about when, where, or how to participate in a civic process. Learn more.
  • Impersonation: You may not impersonate individuals, groups, or organizations in a manner that is intended to or does mislead, confuse, or deceive others. Learn more.

Isn’t that interesting? You wouldn’t think, from visiting Twitter, that they had any rules at all! But apparently there are so many tweets that they can’t handle monitoring them for adherence to their own rules. They rely on other users reporting violations. Regardless, violators should be restricted, even if they can’t all be found (which they could, if these sites put money into enforcing their own rules).

It’s not only the twice-impeached former POTUS who constantly violates the Twitter rules ~ violations are all over the place there, perpetuated by peeps of all political persuasions. They are simply sliding under the radar. Forex, it’s become a sport online to mock officials for having “dementia,” which is a clear violation of the Twitter TOS, whoever is doing it. Dementia is a serious disease, incapacitating millions of people, and it’s heartbreaking besides. It’s not funny to accuse people of having it because they lie, misspeak, stutter, etc. But folks on the right and the left use this form of harassment as mockery of those they dislike.

Many of us are on Facebook, which also has rules, not that they are great at enforcing them. God forbid hiring more monitors would put a dent in the bottom line there. Here are a few FB rules that are routinely ignored:

  • Use the same name that you use in everyday life.
  • Provide accurate information about yourself.
  • Create only one account (your own) and use your timeline for personal purposes.
  • We believe that all people are equal in dignity and rights. We expect that people will respect the dignity of others and not harass or degrade others. [found in Community Standards]

I stand by my unpopular opinion that there needs to be a huge change in the structure of social media ~ and that is to create a new global rule of one account per person signed up with their real, legal name, verified with a credit card. You don’t have to use your real name as your handle, but you get ONE handle, to be used across all social media. There needs to be an end to this detachment of words from consequences when you want to “troll” and harass others. That’s the thing about social media ~ people want to be separated from the consequences of their behavior. Unlike other areas of life, we aren’t required to accept any responsibility for our words, words that are casually tossed out to mock, harass, demean, etc. others online.

Of course, I have strayed from the question. That’s because it’s too simple for me to say, “Ugh, hate him ban him!” The twice-impeached former POTUS has violated the TOS egregiously and repeatedly, so suspending his account was the right thing to do, but more than that… everyone should be required to abide by the TOS they signed up for. Everyone.

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