Tag Archives: peeps

Some Light Housekeeping

Cleaning

First, my apologies for unfollowing and re-following some of you tonight. A handful of you were in my list twice, and due to my OCD I had to delete you and add you back. For whatever reason, WordPress did not allow me to simply delete the duplicates. That would be too convenient. 🙄

I discovered something interesting. The list of blogs on the WP app manager does not show all the blogs I follow. I always knew it couldn’t possibly be complete as it was way too short. What’s weird is how random it was though. Some bloggers I interact with daily were there (Fandango, forex), but others weren’t (Ashleyleia, forex). It also included others who haven’t posted a thing in 6 months.

Even curiouser, when I unfollowed some of those inactive bloggers, others then popped in (such as Ashleyleia). I spent quite some time “curating” this list, though I know I should peruse the real list on a browser to get the full picture. I’m sure there must be dozens of inactive blogs floating around in my actual list even after this hosing.

I deleted some active blogs too… ones focused on topics I’m just not into, such as pure photography and recipes without much chitchat. Business blogs, advice and self-help stuff. And call me ageist if you want, but I’m not so much into the student bloggery. They have their peeps; they don’t need Grandma.

There’s just so much! I need to have some filters, however arbitrary. I want to read other writers who post a lot.

But not too much! Cuz that’s annoying, as discussed.

Shrug

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Spontaneous Gaming [TWS]

Ticket to Ride board game

Generally, I plan everything. I am not a fan of spontaneity at all. Events should be scheduled in advance so as not to interfere with the all-important to-do list. Knowing exactly what will be happening a week ahead (or preferably a month) gives me a nice illusion of control over my life.

However! Yesterday a friend suggested last minute we go out for Mexican food, and since I was all sugared out from nomming leftover brownies all day so they wouldn’t go stale, I agreed. Nothing hits the spot better than spice after sweets, amirite?

Then, another friend said hey why don’t I bring my new game, Ticket to Ride ~ Rails & Sails, so we can all play after at Paula’s? I knew it would be a late night, but I really wanted to play, so yay we did, and it was so much fun! It was also extra-challenging to keep Gatsby from knocking our trains and boats off the board and batting our harbors under the sofa.

So much fun! 😻

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The Weekly Smile

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All Apologies

There are many forms of apologies, most of them insincere. We’ve all seen the political apology (not limited to politicians, of course), where the person is simply sad they got caught doing the thing and hopes to continue doing the thing, but differently. The people who support the politician will forgive him, and the ones who don’t won’t, whatever the thing may be.

Then there’s the the celebrity apology. This occurs when a celeb says something stupid, which happens on the daily, and they come trotting out in front of the cameras, all abashed looking, saying how deeply sorry they are if they’ve caused offense to anyone and they certainly didn’t mean to. Usually they’re forgiven because they’re pretty.

The cheater’s apology is a combo of the above. Mostly, the cheater is deeply sorry he got caught. He has suddenly realized his behavior is wrong ~ or hers, in the case of those college scam moms. S/he promises to make amends to those s/he has wronged.

Blah blah blah.

I say sorry a lot. Usually it’s because I’m clumsy and bump into people or drop stuff. Or I’m not paying attention and don’t hear something or have forgotten it two seconds later. I’ll say sorry when I hear someone else’s sad news even though it’s not my fault because I feel sympathy for them. Saying “my sympathies” sounds too formal for me.

Generally, if I feel badly about something I’ve done to someone, I’ll change my behavior rather than issue a meaningless apology, but this is rare. Why? Well, I don’t interact with many people, and I’m also careful. In my opinion, there are plenty of folks who should apologize to me! Do I expect them to? Of course not. They’re jerks.

I used to be quick to accept apologies ~ too quick. It feels good to forgive. Don’t want to be a dour, unforgiving grump. But this hurt me because I didn’t analyze why a person was apologizing and often it turned out they simply wanted back into my life in order to do the same thing (or worse) yet again. I learned. Took a long time though.

Recently however, I did receive a very nice apology with an offer to be taken out to lunch. I declined the lunch, but the warmth of the apology was appreciated. Now, I do get that it was partly motivated by other concerns, which is fine. It was still gracious. It’s rare to be the recipient of graciousness in this world lately.

Enjoy it when you can.

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Written for Mindlovemisery

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Blogger Leadership Award

Blogger Leadership Award

I would like to extend a hearty thanks to Rory @ A Guy Called Bloke for gifting me this award a few days ago. I don’t see myself as a leader, so I was very surprised by his kindness. 💖

The award was created by Nova @ Nova’s Namaste 365 Online: “This was created to nominate 1-2 individuals who have exemplified noticeable and noteworthy leadership. That could be in any way. There’s no questions or need to thank me. I also don’t require you to nominate others, although I think it would be a kind gesture.”

The lovely thing about this award is that it truly is a gift. The presenters are simply mentioning a few bloggers for their recent noteworthy contributions to the blogging community and thanking them for it. Nothing is required of them. 🙂

Today I would like to present the award to Di @ Pensitivity101 and Jim @ A Unique Title For Me.

Di has consistently great posts about a variety of topics ~ health & diet, recipes, a variety of humor slices, her sweet dog Maggie, family life, home repair, etc., plus lovely fiction and poetry, and now she’s stepped up to host the 3TC Challenge to boot. Definitely leadership quality there, Di! 🎉

Jim is hilarious, but you have to read his posts carefully to find all the gems. He often does fabulous mashups of song lyrics, turning them into mini-stories, and I’m not ashamed to admit I stole this idea for a few of my own. Jim has been hosting the very popular Song Lyric Sunday for some time now, and he also shares hosting of other prompts too. He is a worthy recipient of this award! 🎶

Happy weekend, everyone! 😻

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PFF15: Elevator Pitch

Time

Welcome to my Friday Flashback! This post originally appeared here on September 13, 2012, exactly seven years ago. I have not seen bicycle man since.

My Kind of Peeps

So this morning I was waiting for the elevator in my office building lobby. I had a big fucking headache, which is not unusual, especially lately because the weather keeps changing like a girl who can’t make up her mind which dress she wants to wear for prom.

There was a guy waiting for the elevator, too. He had a bicycle. Why? Idk. It was clear that he intended to take this bicycle onto the elevator, which was slightly disturbing.

There were two women waiting. They did not look happy. Why should they? We were all going to work.

The elevator arrived with a ding. And also an idiot. Some smiling doofus with a tie bounced off and held the door. “Good morning!” he chirped at Bike Guy.

Bike Guy grunted and wheeled his bike on. The women got on/in. I got in.

Tie Doofus still held the door. “No one’s smiling!” he admonished cheerfully.

One of the women smiled at him.

(It wasn’t me, obviously.)

“That’s better!” he twittered and released his hold on the door.

As the elevator began rising, Bike Guy said, “I hate to dismiss someone’s kindness, but….”

“That guy was really annoying,” one of the women finished.

“Yeah,” said the other one.

I said nothing. I don’t like to talk to strangers on elevators.

But I felt a vague glow of connectedness with these peeps, which is about as good as it gets for me at 9AM on a Thursday in Irvine.

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People Are Like Cookies

Chocolate chip cookies

Beckie @ Beckie’s Mental Mess has a wonderful continuing series on various mental/emotional issues, and this week her focus is on introversion, a topic I apparently suggested (not that I have any memory of doing so). Soon, she’ll tackle amnesia, I hope! 😂

I’m going to answer the prompt questions that Beckie posted.

1. Are you more Isolated or Introverted?

I’m an introvert. I prefer to be alone or in small groups of close friends/family where we can have meaningful conversation. I also enjoy lots of online interaction. But I’m not isolated ~ most days I interact a little with actual people face to face and that’s fine.

2. Do you feel that there is a difference between the two?

Absolutely. You can be an introvert in the middle of a city, preferring not to talk to others while surrounded by people; while another person might be isolated due to circumstances, but not be introverted and love big parties.

3. What are the causes of being Isolated or Introverted?

Isolated can be by choice or circumstances. Introversion/extroversion traits are hardwired. I have always been exactly how I am.

4. Does your family/friends/co-workers question your behavior when you crave alone time and/or do not want to be bothered?

They don’t generally get fussed about my need for alone time. Some people have a bit of trouble understanding why I don’t wish to attend massive gatherings. A dozen or so people in a room is about the extent of my comfort level. More than that increases the noise to a point where the sound is just a wall crushing my head. There’s no way to have a real conversation either and I can’t stand nodding and smiling at BS.

I’m not talking about big open spaces like fairs or even restaurants that are designed for a lot of people. I’m talking about large social events where people are mashed together in rooms to be with each other. I just hate that. Why would I choose to go to such a thing when I could stay home with my boo kitty?🐱

5. Have you spoken to a therapist/psychiatrist in regards to being Isolated/Introverted?

No. Why would I? I’m fine!

6. What is a normal day being in your shoes?

I commute to work alone in my car to a small office where there is a moderate amount of talking, depending on the day and what needs to be done. Some days I’ll have a phone chat with one or both of my daughters for 20 minutes or so. Generally, I don’t socialize much with friends during the workweek. At night, I’ll do extra work, read, blog, etc.

7. If you were ever asked to go to dinner/party, would you go?  If not, what kind of excuses have you made up to get out of going?

Most weekends I do some sort of social thing that includes dinner, usually a potluck, followed by board games. But it’s with a reasonable number of people, like 10, not 100. Sometimes I’ll go to lunch with one friend, or to the movies with a few, or drive up to Los Angeles to hang with my family and whoever else might be at their place. I am not opposed to people! But they do need to be rationed, like cookies. Too many at once and I’ll just barf.🤮

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Free Four All

Shamrock

More from Rory’s Question Fun Directory!

Welcome to The Daily Four!

Today’s Questions to the Readers are….

Do you have any friends from your school days and if so how often do you socialise with them?

-Elizabeth is the only old friend I’m in any contact with these days, though I have corresponded with 3 other high school friends in the past. We live too far apart to socialize in person. In college, I didn’t make any lasting friendships.

Do you find it difficult to admit that you are wrong, and why?

-Not at all. I’m wrong frequently, as are most people. (I also have a poor sense of direction and am used to going oopsy.) It’s the human condition to try things out and learn from our mistakes. Otherwise, no progress would be made. Those who refuse to admit error either never try new things and/or suffer from terribly fragile egos.

What was the title of the first movie you watched in a movie theater?

-Mm, wish I could remember! The first clear memory I have is The Sound of Music, which is from 1965, when I was 4, but I’m sure my mom would have taken me to a movie before that.

What was the most awkward thing that you’ve done for a friend?

-Let’s see, back when… a friend was curious about racy novels. I was too, but I’d already read a bunch of stuff my father had lying around. Anyway, we found a sleazy adult bookstore, but friend was too chicken to go in. I wasn’t. I brazened it out and strolled through the door like hey this is normal. It was so icky! This was before men got all their pr0n online. I wandered around a bit (no cell phones then, so couldn’t text her for help) and finally grabbed a few books to buy. We read some in the car, but she made me take them home so her family wouldn’t find them.

Rory’s Daily Four

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Fan of… Fairs!

This is for Jez’s fan challenge. Join in!

I love fairs, which may strike you as strange since I’ve said repeatedly that I enjoy silence and small gatherings. But fairs aren’t forced socializing ~ in fact, you don’t really make nonsense small talk at fairs. You chat about what’s there, more often than not, or you simply observe.

Yesterday I went to the Orange County Fair, which I usually do every year, though not always. I was pleased that my foot handled all that walking around without too much soreness (but it is definitely not all better). My two friends and I who arrived early loved the exhibits of crafts and products.

Here is an owl made of belts. This pretty much made my day.

Owl

Giant cookies looked delicious!

Giant Cookies

But we opted for the healthy fried zucchini. Gotta have your veggies.

Fried Zucchini

And one friend shared her corn dog with us…

Corn Dog

While my other friend commented that she’s seen “big ones at Disneyland.”

Hmmmm.

Moving on. Here’s a cool first prize-winner table setting with lots of science info.

Electric Water

And now we have some sweet miniature donkeys grooming each other.

Miniature Donkeys

Mary, we found your lamb right here…

Little Lamb

Along with Daenerys’ horse from Game of Thrones.

White Horse

I decided to audition for “Bennie and the Jets.”

Mohair Suit

We had really all gathered to attend a night concert however, and more of our group wandered in as the evening approached. Some went on rides, but that’s not my thing these days. Finally, it was time to take our seats at the Pacific Amphitheatre and listen to the awesome orchestra followed by a super fun show.

Weird Al Yankovic

Hooray for the fair! See you next year! 😀

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PFF9 ~ Road Trippin’

Friday Flashback

Welcome to my Friday Flashback! This post originally appeared here on August 2, 2018, a mere year ago.

Travel Musings

In theory, I’d love to travel to a bunch of cool places ~ England, Scotland, Ireland, Italy, Israel, etc. ~ but practicalities always quench my wanderlust. First, the cost. Second, the time. Third, my migraines. It’s not only long plane flights that mess with my head, but everything about changes in my environment ~ food, sleep, weather, etc. ~ are pain triggers as well. I also don’t like to leave my furbaby. Right now, it’s an emotional challenge for me to go away for more than two nights in a row, but luckily I have a trusted friend to come over and take care of Gatsby.

I thought I had blogged about my idea for a post-retirement (and post-kitty) epic U.S. trip, but apparently I only discussed it on Facebook. My previous plan was to take train rides from the Pacific Northwest across the country. I’d see Idaho, Montana, Minnesota, etc.; then onto Chicago, Philly, and NYC; up to Boston, Vermont, NH, and Maine; down to DC, Nashville, Atlanta, and New Orleans; over to New Mexico and Utah; smoosh Yellowstone in there somewhere… basically see lots of new places, plus old friends (and meet friends in person with whom I’ve been corresponding for decades). But I’m not sure this is a good plan any longer, given the state of railroads these days. Dunno if I want to drive thousands and thousands of miles alone when I’m old, but…

I have this fantasy that after I retire (and after my kitty has rainbow-bridged), I could get rid of most of my stuff and do this epic trip in a comfy vehicle. But still… so much driving! Oww, my neck hurts just thinking about it. After the trip is over (three-four months, who knows?), I could figure out where to resettle in California, in a less expensive area away from the coast.

Be nice to visit Canada at some point too. That reminds me: I still haven’t bothered to get a passport after all that fuss to finally obtain my birth certificate. Yes, I am legal! I know, it was iffy there for a while, lol. But all this road-trippin’ is only a fantasy. It’s not like this crazy vacay would be cheap ~ I’d need to stay in a lot of motels and buy a lot of snadwiches. Not to mention gas!

The furthest I ever go these days is the Bay Area, which luckily is fabulous, and not only because my awesome daughter lives there with her awesome fiance and their awesome puppy. But mostly because of that.😍

Karry-no-key

I did karaoke once. That was enough, for me, and for everyone else’s aural health. I think I had conjured up a romantic idea of the experience from movies such as 27 Dresses and How to Lose a Guy in 10 Days. Supposedly, you can impulsively grab a microphone and start belting out a song without any preparation, and even if you don’t have a great voice and are somewhat off-key, you’ll still sound okay and look adorable. 😍

Wrong! You have to start with a decent voice, know the song, especially when to start and stop, and have a sense of music generally. Which I do not. Otherwise you’re just filling the room with a cacophony of noise. It’s not fun for me to remember how awful I must have been. 😖

Though they don’t even know, I accept the gratitude of all future ears I won’t harass with my terrible “singing.” 🎶😜🎶