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Before Cell Phones

We parted with enmity

And now he is gone,

Left without a kiss,

And sailed off at dawn.

I shall write him a letter,

Include a photograph too,

And stuff them in a bottle,

Toss them in waves of blue.

As he sails round the globe,

My love note behind him,

Fate may have to intervene,

For this message to find him.



FPQ8: Last First Time

Fandango has posed another one of his provocative questions:

When was the last time you did something for the very first time? What was it that you did?”

In June of 2018, I became a grandma for the very first time… and so far it’s the last time I’ve grandma’d, but it’s only been 7 months. ❤️

Now, technically I didn’t do anything but wait, but that’s something. Plus I nagged a lot, partially planned the baby shower, and generally made a nuisance of myself. 😂

For the record, I enjoy being a grandma and would be happy to grandma again, in the near or far future, whenever the opp presents itself. 👍🏻

2018 Wrap Party

This was an interesting year.

I gave up both Facebook and dating sites early in the year. Spent 2017 depressed about both, ostensibly for different reasons but ultimately the same ~ I had devoted a huge amount of time to the pursuit of long-distance friendships and local relationships via both those venues and the end result was similar: meh.*

What’s that BS about how you get out what you put in? Yeah right.

Anyway, I decided to splurge on myself by reclaiming my time and emotional energy, and this was a great gift. I’ve been so much happier and more productive since. In April, I released a poetry book that I finally had time to finish… and yesterday I just released another one. I hope you’ll check them out: All She Wrote (April book) and Monochrome (December book).

In June, it was my absolute joy to welcome my new baby granddaughter to the world. She brings total love and sweetness to my life, and I’m thankful for all the wonderful family time I’ve had this year.

At some point during 2018, a WordPress prompt site closed up shop. Zillions of us who love to natter on about nothing had the big sads. A handful of bloggers stepped up and created their own prompts, which was very cool of them… but then a weird thing happened. Instead of popping over to the site, grabbing the prompt, and writing to our same audience, we began to actually interact with these new prompters and their followers. We started to play more writing games and follow each other and turn into a supportive creative community of awesome!

In October, I was lucky to be able to take a week off from work to help my daughter in NorCal. Also, I got to bond with her new puppy. Last week I had an amazing time with both my daughters, their hubbies, and the baby. Family rocks!

On Thanksgiving, I had a super fun time with friends at the LA Zoo, and yesterday we went up to Simi to visit the Reagan Library. I hope to visit more museums and local points of interest in 2019. Though I was into movies for a while, I find lately I’m feeling rather indifferent toward them.

I have tons of books to read! Not literally, since most are on my Kindle. And now it’s time to begin integrating the mess I wrote on Ghosted during NaNoWriMo with my main novel document. Oh fun. After that, I have to write “the ending,” by which I mean the last third of the book.

And to wrap up the wrap, for the past 7 years, I’m beyond lucky and grateful and thankful that I get to share my life with this amazing lil dude. ❤️🐱❤️

*I treasure my friendships that transcend FB. Not talking about you great folks.

After the eggnog is gone…

For today’s challenge (not to be confused with tomorrow’s challenge that I poasted yesterday), Rory asks us to create a top 5 song list for Christmas. Well, I’ve already mentioned my fave xmoose songs a few times, but as we know the holidays see a lot of romantical type breakups. Something about all that pressure and prezzies and fighting over the last perfect tree-shaped c00kie. With that in mind, here are my top 5 songs about breaking up, over the hols or whenevs.

She put a big F-U in my future…

It ain’t me you’re looking for, babe…

The old-fashioned block sender…

Being all philosophical about it…


Oopsy, almost forgot my taggaroos. Anyone who has participated in any of the music challenges recently is hereby tagged! Lists please ASAP. Don’t forget to link back to Rory. 🙂🎶

30-Day Song Challenge

Day 26: a song that makes me want to fall in love. Hmm. Lately everything seems to have the opposite effect on me, as falling in love brings nothing but disaster, so I will have to carefully peruse ye olde playlist. Okay, found one! But only exactly like this video with sparkling glittery scenes of bliss on heavenly rosepetaled beds. And swans. Gotta have swans.

Day 27: a song that breaks my heart. Now we’re talking! Actually this is harder ~ what song doesn’t break my heart? I can find the sads in anything. This one always gets me teary…

In Other Words: Done

This year is almost done and dusted, and I must say it was a big improvement over 2017. My heart finished healing from past emotional injuries and I was able to get back into writing in a major way again. I kicked NaNoWriMo butt and wrote 50K words on my novel in November. My latest poetry collection is almost ready to roll out. And best of all, I experienced the absolute joy of meeting my first grandbaby!


From Patricia’s Place

30-Day Song Challenge

Day 25: RIP. So many singers have passed who have songs I love. John Lennon. Tom Petty. David Bowie. Freddie Mercury. Johnny Cash. Today I think I’ll celebrate one from Leonard Cohen. Hope you enjoy.

Misty Reminiscing…

I may come across as a hissing witch of negativity when it comes to dating (dating sites in particular), but I wasn’t always this way. Before I began denouncing the entire process as an impossible nightmare, there were a few fun times.

I remember meeting one man just about this time of year, waaay back in 2011, which seems like a lifetime ago now. This was only a few months after my divorce was final and I felt so free and happy. I had joined a couple dating sites and was very upbeat, not sarcastic, not dark and fatalistic, but optimistic and energetic.

Anyway, I met this guy at a Starbucks near my office after work. Back then, I didn’t roll my eyes at the cliché of a coffee meet. It was all new and fun! I didn’t care where we met! After we got our drinks and sat down, he held a sprig of mistletoe over my head and kissed me. Just a little kiss! It was so cute! I thought, wow, my life is really just beginning.

But it turned out he was married. Now, here’s the thing. Back then, I was a purist. I was divorced, so I wanted to date divorced men, not separated men. Sometimes men who say they’re separated are actually still living with their wives… they’ve only just “separated” for an hour and a half. But some people really do go through lengthy divorce proceedings (mine took 2+ years), and maybe I was too quick to write them all off.

Too late now, but as I said in the title… misty memories. It’s that time of year for ’em. As the months/years passed, and I met more liars and grew more negative, I’m sure I gave off a bad vibe myself. Hard not to, whether in writing, facial expression, or in person. I became more secretive, not wanting to give my phone number for longer periods of time, which may have made me seem suspicious. Who doesn’t give out a number? Married folks. People who are hiding something and don’t want to be googled. People you can’t trust.

Ah well. You can’t undo what happened. “It is what it is.” And like some soppy holiday movie, I found happiness right where I left it… surrounded by family: two wonderful daughters, their fabulous husbands, and now I even have an adorable grandbaby to love.

Rory’s Xmoose Challenge

Rory challenges us to choose 5 holiday songs and dedicate each one to another blogger.

Who me? Do I look like Santa or sumpin’?

Oh. Well then! I guess I must. Luckily this first one is easy: my favorite holiday song is Stevie Nicks’ cover of “Silent Night.” I give this one to Sadje… Merry Christmas!

Next is my favorite band the Eagles with a very sweet song “Please Come Home for Christmas” and this one goes out to Roy, a long-time reader. Merry Christmas, Roy!

Now I’ve got a super cover of “Santa Claus is Coming to Town” by the Boss for Kristian. Merry Christmas!

I dedicate the politically incorrect “Baby, It’s Cold Outside” (Jack Frost & Elsa version) to none other than our host with the most. Merry Christmas, Rory!

Finally, though he may say bah humbug, I have a feeling that our favorite resistance blogger will get a kick out of this version of “12 Days.” Come on, Fandango, give it a listen… Merry Christmas! 🎄

30-Day Song Challenge: Sedaka

Day 18: a song from 1961. I’m going with the fun, upbeat “Calendar Girl” written and sung by Neil Sedaka.

I want you guys to understand how many “Calendar Girl” videos I started and rejected in order to find this most perfect one for you. Nothing, I repeat ~ nothing ~ is too much trouble for my peeps. Now, you have to click on it and watch, right?

Day 19: a song that makes me think about life. This would be another song written by Neil Sedaka (and Phil Cody) called “Solitaire.” I used to think it applied to one or more men I’ve known, but maybe it applies to me now. I’ve posted before that I prefer versions other than the Carpenters, and I haven’t changed my mind. Here’s my favorite version, sung by Sheryl Crow.