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FPQ24: Fear of Failure

Fandango provocatively asks…

“Have you ever been so afraid of failing at something that you decided not to try it at all? What’s one thing would you attempt to do if you knew you could not fail?”

Yes, many times. But I don’t consider this some sort of character defect ~ I consider it a rational decision.

Let’s take the dating scene. I’ve decided to stop looking for love because I’m afraid of another heartbreak, not to mention how annoying and time-consuming the process is to begin with. This is a logical choice, given my experiences since 2009 when my ex-husband left.

There are other examples throughout my life where I’ve made safe choices over more “interesting” ones because of the fear of failure. But in my mind, I’m making a good decision based on risk analysis. The reason fear of failure even comes up is because the more exciting choices are riskier.

I choose the road that has been taken, along with a GPS phone, extra water, snacks, and a jacket. I’ll leave the wild, overgrown path for an intrepid explorer.

PS: The one thing I would do if I knew I could not fail? Spend all my time and resources writing The Great American Novel.

Song Lyric Sunday: Midnight

Bad blogger here! Forgot to schedule my song yesterday and now it’s 2AM Sunday. I’m choosing “Midnight Confessions” by the Grass Roots to go with Jim’s theme. I don’t have Jim’s link, the lyrics, or any info about the song. I’m tired. And it’s raining, so my head feels implodey. But I do have this fun video from Boston Legal to go with the song. Hope you enjoy! G’nite.

Updating with the link to Jim’s SLS post.

Blanco & Me

Every day I watched the girl.

She had a pet fawn named Blanco

And kept a brush up her long sleeves

To groom his gleaming white coat.

One day I smelled fish cooking

On smoking mesquite wood;

My instincts took over

And I crept up to the door

Where the girl and Blanco played.

I did not apologize,

But brazened it out,

For I am a cat,

And that is what we do.

Luckily, it turned out,

She could love me too.

~*~

Poetry Prompt via Robert Peake (get yours!):

Include as many of the following words (or variations on these words) as you can:

forgetful, blanco, total, vanquished, physical, traced, chestnuts, apologize, exposed, persons, sleeves, instincts, vain, mesquite, razor

Also:

  • Include a familiar smell

[discovered at Larry’s blog]

Echoes

One mournful lovesong

Howled to star-spattered heavens

Echoes through the night

~*~

Thursday Inspiration

The Most Important Lesson from GOT

***WARNING: THIS POST CONTAINS GAME OF THRONES’ SPOILERS!***

It’s sport for GOT fans to mercilessly drag every episode of this last season, in gory detail, and I agree with the main criticism ~ the ending is rushed. The show runners spent 7 long seasons setting up an intricate story, and now they’re zooming to finish, stuffing two wars into three episodes out of six, and leaving lots of loose ends.

Meanwhile, I’m basically enjoying the eps, besides wishing there would have been more of them. I don’t share the common criticism that the plot twists and character arcs are “unearned.” The first seasons generally followed the books, so if you’d read them, you weren’t shocked by twists. Ned’s beheading was accepted because those of us who read the books knew it was coming, but normally the sudden death of a beloved character early on would have generated criticism from fans.

So, when I read today that people are upset about Varys’ death, I roll my eyes. The dude was a great character, but he was always plotting and scheming against rulers, and it was inevitable one would discover it and kill him. You have to wonder why it took so long really, except for the fact that he was smarter than all of them. Littlefinger was also, but Varys was not evil and selfish, so he caught more breaks. Both men were lucky they lasted as long as they did.

People who are carrying on today about Daenerys going “mad” haven’t been paying attention. She has stated all along that she was going to take what was hers “with fire and with blood.” She has torched people throughout the show, but that was okay with us because we didn’t like them. Her character has been stable, her mission unchanged, and her vision focused on one goal.

If you want to pick apart the military strategy of Euron and his crew, I get that. One day he takes out a dragon with his first shot and sinks the entire opposing navy; in the next encounter, he’s totally inept. What the hell happened there? Gotta say though I enjoyed his rambunctious battle to the death with Jaime. Good stuff, though I did think Euron would have mentioned the baby he thinks is his. Might have thrown Jaime off-balance.

Okay, so Jaime fooking Lannister, amirite? People are yelling about his character arc. Pffft, I say. You know what? It’s perfect. The more I think about it, the more perfect it is. Here we have a handsome, spoiled, rich jerk who is in love with his sister and does horrible things for a long time. Some of these things he does for her and some he does just because he’s an arrogant ass.

Then, Jaime gets captured, tortured, and has his comeuppance and epiphany. He begins to be a slightly better person. He sees that he could maybe love a woman who isn’t a monster and be loved in return. He could fight for the people instead of his shitty family name. Some of his interior ugliness is replaced with goodness.

But then… then… bratty, snotty Sansa (more about her in a sec), says nyah we’ve taken King’s Landing and your sis is gonna die! Jaime immediately reverts to form, dumps his new sweet love and breaks her heart, and gallops back to his wicked twin. Why?

Because people don’t change!

That’s the lesson here, folks. And it’s a good and important one. Dany never changed, not one iota. Jaime appeared to change, but he didn’t really. And what about Sansa, who began as a pretty wounded bird and allegedly turned into a strong confident woman? Nah fam. She’s still a petty, snide, gossipy bitch. Dishonest and backstabbing.

Jon/Aegon never changed either. He can’t help but be a noble, relentlessly honest lump of boring. Tyrion is still the same brilliant little scamp who puts his family first no matter how terrible they are. And he does sometimes back the wrong horse, especially when it’s very pretty. Sandor had one main mission in life, and though he did get sidetracked with other tasks along the way, ultimately he refocused on his goal, the Cleganebowl.

Arya? Let’s see what she does in the final ep. Any predictions? I admit I was wrong when I predicted Jaime would kill Cersei, and I’m glad to be wrong. I love that they stuck to the “people don’t change” theme instead, and decided to ignore Maggie’s prophecy. Now, the prediction is that Arya will kill Dany. I don’t know… What do you think?

Thanks for reading all this!

Meet Me in Brea

I had so much to say
About yesterday’s pain–
Vaguely familiar names,
The streets, the café.
I walked where we talked;
“Meet me in Brea!”
Memory-dazed,
I felt the shame,
Looking for a trace
Of recognition
Or benediction
In a strange face,
A flash of a gaze.

I walked off your words,
Until the echoes
Around my brain
(“Meet me in Brea”)
Faded to grey;
Twice, thrice, past that café,
The cupcake place,
The theater…
All ceased to matter.
It was just another city.
Meetmeinbrea:
Chant the sounds,
Like a prayer.

Amen.

Song Lyric Sunday: Hurt

I’ve posted “Doll Parts” by Hole before, but it’s such a fave, and so perfect for Jim’s theme this week, that I can’t resist using it again. Written by Courtney M. Love and released in 1994.

I am doll eyes, doll mouth, doll legs
I am doll arms, big veins, dog bait
Yeah, they really want you
They really want you, they really do
Yeah, they really want you
They really want you, and I do too

I want to be the girl with the most cake
I love him so much it just turns to hate
I fake it so real, I am beyond fake
And someday, you will ache like I ache

And someday, you will ache like I ache
And someday, you will ache like I ache
And someday, you will ache like I ache
And someday, you will ache like I ache

I am doll parts, bad skin, doll heart
It stands for knife
For the rest of my life
Yeah, they really want you
They really want you, they really do
Yeah, they really want you
They really want you, but I do too

I want to be the girl with the most cake
He only loves those things 
Because he loves to see them break
I fake it so real, I am beyond fake
And someday, you will ache like I ache

Laura’s Music Challenge 11

Laura brightens our Monday with another fun music challenge. Join in! 😀🎉🎶

1. Post a video of a song from a musical.

2. Post a video of a song from 1994.

3. Post a video of a song about driving.

Rhaegar and Lyanna

I’ve been cold for so long,

‘Neath these crumbled old stones;

Silent heart’s a lost song

In the cage of my bones.

Once I danced with a Prince,

Now I dream of a ghost;

He’s loved no one since,

For he loved me the most.

He’ll be coming for me

When stars bleed in the sky;

We’ll embrace by the tree,

My ghost lover and I!

~*~

Thursday Inspiration: Ghosts

[Also inspired by Game of Thrones, in particular the romance between Rhaegar Targaryen and Lyanna Stark, both dead, or so we are meant to believe 😱]

W is for When [A2Z]

When Harry Met Sally is one of my all-time favorite movies. I love the characters and the humor. Once again, I think Rob Reiner does an excellent job of directing. I used to list WHMS as my favorite romcom, but now I don’t, even though I still adore the film and rewatch it yearly.

Harry and Sally meet right when they’re graduating college at University of Chicago and share a ride to New York City. They get to know each other a little on this trip, and dislike each other, arguing continuously about the nature of relationships between men and women. Over the next decade, they bump into one another repeatedly in various venues as they attach and detach from other partners.

There’s so much wonderful humor and profound insight about the complexities of relationships here, not to mention fabulous quotes. I treasure the supporting cast as well ~ in fact, when I rewatch the movie now, it’s the instant spark between Marie and Jess that really affects me.

I know the on-again, off-again, passionate drama between Harry and Sally and his crazy run through the streets of Manhattan on NYE is what makes this movie such a beautiful piece of art, but but but…

When Marie (Carrie Fisher, RIP) and Jess hit it off immediately, jump into that taxi, and spend the rest of their lives together without all the BS… that gets to me. I mean, Harry and Sally had to keep sleeping with other people (and in Harry’s case marry one) before they finally figured out hey duhhh we’re right for each other. But Jess and Marie don’t have to hurt each other to love each other.

I like that. Of course I get that the smooth path doesn’t make an interesting movie. But I still like it!