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FPQ74: The Reopening

Fandango’s provocative question

Fandango provocatively asks…

Which pre-pandemic activities are you ready to resume (or have you already resumed)? Which, if any, pre-virus activities are you likely to continue to avoid?

I have been going into my office a couple times per week and am totally fine with resuming a full-time schedule. There are only a few of us in a large suite and we hardly get any visitors. I will likely bring my own lunch so as not to deal with the cafe.

I’ve already been to my dentist for a normal cleaning and X-rays. I felt perfectly safe. They took my temperature as I came in and everyone was masked. I would also be okay with going to a regular doctor, if necessary.

When I grocery shop or go into other crowded public places, I wear a mask, even if it’s not required. I plan to continue doing this indefinitely. It’s uncomfortable, but I think it’s worth it. 😷

As I mentioned, I’ve visited my family in LA and have had a socially distant BYO picnic with friends. I’d probably be okay with outdoor dining at a regular restaurant. But maybe not… can’t predict how crowded it might get.

I want to get my hair cut and colored, but my daughter talked me out of it. I guess I can wait or figure out some DIY alternative.

I want to visit my older daughter in NorCal, but I’m definitely not ready to deal with either airports or flying. I could drive, but that’s a huge PITA. We shall see… 😞

While I find it enjoyable to hear the sounds of people having fun at our community pool, I’m not ready to join them. Not that I was a pool person in the first place. We also have a great gym though, but I’m not eager to go back there either. I’ll be passing up all peopley events for the foreseeable future, such as fairs or festivals or concerts or movies or even (my favorite) game nights with a bunch of people touching stuff.

Not worth the risk.

Roulette

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FPQ73: I knew he would ask us this…

Fandango’s provocative question

Fandango provocatively asks…

Do you believe there is such a thing as ESP? Or is what some suggest to be ESP merely that there are people who are highly intuitive and are very good at reading people’s very subtle signals?

I do believe in ESP, as strictly defined, which is “extra” sensory perception. That is, I believe there are some folks who are very skilled at processing and synthesizing sensory perceptions in order to make accurate predictions. Other folks just float through life not noticing things, or lacking the ability to do anything with their data. I think the skill can be taught up to a point, but some people have it naturally.

Let me also add that signals aren’t all that subtle once you know what to look for. You can learn what people do when they lie, for example. You can study how faces, voices, and body language change as people experience various emotions.

Some of us are more attuned to “reading a room” than others. It’s become trendy now to call us empaths. Everyone is an empath! This word grates on my nerves, grrrr. I call this a survival skill and people who don’t have it are likely the lucky ones who didn’t grow up in a stressful environment or experience abuse. When you do, you become skilled at discerning the shifts in voice, expression, and body language of those around you so you can better prepare for the coming storm or try to deflect it somehow. It’s not magic… it’s self-protection.

But do I believe that there is some spiritual woo woo thing that gives a select few the ability to “read minds” or bend spoons or predict plane crashes? Um no. Sure, I’ve “known” a few things in advance… haven’t we all? But what about all the times we did not know? That’s called confirmation bias, folks. Mostly, we don’t know.

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Image from Fandango himself.

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Good Things Come in Threes

3 fancy ice cream sodas

Well, bad things do too, or so goes the superstition, but this post is about good stuff. We need some of that right now, or at least I do. Today, three prompts go happily together:

  1. Fandango’s Provocative Question #72: “What is the one thing in life that you are most excited about right now? Why?”
  2. Eugi’s Weekly Prompt: “Gratitude.”
  3. And last, but not least, Trent’s Weekly Smile.

Yesterday morning I drove to Los Angeles to celebrate my granddaughter’s second birthday. I brought a giant bag of gifts with me. The original plan was to have a “distance” party in the park, but we didn’t feel safe outdoors, given the insanity, so we stayed inside. It’s the first time I’ve seen family in person since the beginning of March. We’ve all been very careful, so we decided to go ahead and spend a couple hours together. Oh my gosh, it did my heart good to be with this angel not to mention my own sweet daughter and son-in-law as well. We FaceTime’d with my eldest over a birthday pizza lunch too. I was so grateful for the opportunity to finally see (some of) my loved ones in person! There were smiles galore for hours… I left at 1:30 to make sure I was back in Orange County well before any curfews began. This little girl is an absolute joy to be around! I am so excited to spend more time with her very soon, maybe next week. 🙂

Birthday girl with Nana

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Images credited to Bitmoji and me.

FPQ71: Senioritis

Fandango’s provocative question

Fandango provocatively asks…

How old are you* and how old do you feel — older or younger than your actual chronological age? Do you generally act your age? And what does “acting your age” mean to you?

*If you’re uncomfortable revealing your actual age, maybe you can just say something like, “I’m in my twenties.” Or fifties. Or “I’m a senior citizen.”

I turned 59 during the lockdown. It was not a big deal… although my family gifted me a new phone, which was awesome. ❤️ The fact that I didn’t have a celebration with a cake and such didn’t bother me at all. I had plane tix to fly to Northern California and visit family, and I was sad that couldn’t happen. Dunno when I’ll be able to go…

Do I feel 59? I don’t know. What should 59 feel like? There are lots of people my age (and older) who are way more physically active than I am, but I wasn’t physically active at 39 or even 19! I’ve always been a chair potato. More things hurt now though. Seems like pains don’t go away but simply accumulate. Parts of me I never noticed before suddenly have nerve endings. What’s up with that? I’ll go for a walk and the side of my foot will hurt. Huh? 🙁

Do I act 59? Again, how should a 59-year-old behave? I am definitely a mature and responsible person. But I think in the last few years my behavior has changed even more… I attribute that to my last failed attempt at a relationship. Perhaps it is due to age and this would not have affected me the same 10 or 15 years ago. This time, I just said the hell with putting myself out there and taking chances on people. I’m done. I can’t handle another go-round of stress and drama.

I notice people of all ages seeking conflict because they’re bored, and I notice people of all ages avoiding drama. So I don’t think this is age related, necessarily, even though for me it does seem that I handled stress better when I was younger. My aching head and tired bones don’t appreciate the adrenaline surge that gets my heart racing and makes it harder to sleep. No thanks.

But you know what? The fact that I’m now a grandma (she’s almost 2!) does make me feel older and I’m good with that! 💖💖💖

Great question!

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FPQ67: Tick Tock

Fandango’s provocative question

Fandango provocatively asks…

As a blogger, when it comes to your blog, what makes you tick?

Fandango helpfully broke this question up into parts, and I shall address them one by one instead of in a big meandering glob.

1. What internal needs does blogging meet?

Though I’m an introvert, I have moderate needs to stay connected to people, but not in the traditional ways of going “out” (back when we were allowed to) to schmooze at parties and hang out in person. I’m not great with that stuff; it makes me anxious. Talking/listening is not my forte and I don’t drink alcohol to make it easier. Writing is a thing I’m good at though, and I’m much better at recalling the written word than the spoken one, so becoming part of a blogging community is a natural fit for me.

2. What part does blogging play in your daily life?

I look forward to reading my newsfeed a couple times per day and finding the funny and interesting posts from my peeps. I like their poetry, their flash fiction, and their life glimpses. I try to write a post or two each day that will interest at least a few of my followers.

Lucky bitmoji clover

3. How important is blogging to you?

It’s important enough that I paid for a WP account to eliminate ads. I also paid for my own domain name. None of this helps me sell books or gives me much tax relief (lol); I simply want my blog to look nice. I would rather blog than play online games, tweet, or jabber on FB all day, and my 2000+ posts reflect that time commitment.

4. If you weren’t blogging, how else would you spend your time?

Mm probably tweeting or finding some other social media in which to express my thoughts and connect with others.

5. On a scale of one to ten, with ten being blogging is your entire reason for being, and one being that, meh, you have nothing better to do, how does blogging rate?

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©️2020 Paula Light and Light Motifs II. No unauthorized use permitted. Please check out Paula’s books for sale on Amazon.

FPQ66: Second Chances

Fandango’s provocative question

Fandango provocatively asks…

Do you believe in giving people second chances? If so, why? If not, why not?

My short answer: no, because people don’t change and they will do the thing again.

But now please allow me to elaborate for a baZillion paragraphs. 🤣 First, the entire context of the question is: “This got me thinking about second chances, as in when someone has seriously ‘done you wrong,’ and then asks you to forgive them for whatever it is that they did.”

Okay, so we’re not talking about simple errors here, which in general are easily forgiven; these are serious mistakes. Second, the person asks for forgiveness, which is important. But it’s also important how they ask. Do they give one of those disgustingly offensive non-apologies in the form of “I am sorry if you were offended?” If you ever read/hear one of those, stop the person right there and inform them that this is not an apology.

An apology takes the form: “I am sorry I,” never ever “I am sorry you” or “I am sorry if you.” Those are weasel statements. Do not accept a weasel statement! 😡 Sorry I had to rant about this yet again, but it’s my hugest peeve! 😱

All right. So, a person has seriously done me wrong and gives me a good apology, asking for a second chance… what now? In the past, I’d be inclined to say yes, even a third time, but this was always a mistake. Never did it work in my favor. Why not? Because as I said at the start, people don’t change (very rarely). So, whatever thing they did was likely to happen again in a similar form.

And it’s not just other people who don’t change… I am also a person. Hello! No, it’s true, I swear. I don’t change either! What does this mean? Well, a few things. One, it is hard for me to trust people in the first place, so after the bad thing/sorry/forgive, it’s pretty much impossible for me to truly forget that I’m with a person who did That Thing. I can laugh and have fun with the person I forgave, but lurking very close by with the door cracked open is Suspicious Monster peeking out, waiting.

Green monster

Second, forgiveness doesn’t have to mean a return to the former relationship, does it? You can forgive someone and give them a second chance at a friendship, but that doesn’t mean you have to marry or date them, right? Or you can accept someone back into a circle of friends without being best friends like you once were. There are people with a very all or nothing view of this though, and they do tend to be angry men, from what I’ve experienced. Why go through this hassle?

So, that’s the long version of no. Of course, there are always exceptions and mitigating circumstances, such as if someone didn’t know something or bla bla. But those are rare. And my kids always get forgiven no matter what, without asking, not that they ever do anything wrong. 💖

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©️2020 Paula Light and Light Motifs II. No unauthorized use permitted. Please check out Paula’s books for sale on Amazon.

FPQ64: The Real Me

Fandango’s provocative question

Oops, almost forgot about this post! 😱

Fandango provocatively asks…

Are you the same person on your blog as you are in real life? Do you like yourself more in the virtual world than you do in the real world?

Now, I’m pretty much the same person, but I wasn’t always. Waaay back when, when I first began blogging and socializing online in general, I tried to be one of those happy yet sarcastic wives and moms. You know what I mean. You see them everywhere. So boring! I wasn’t happy at all… my marriage was crashing on the rocks and I was depressed over many issues… but I was fake because I thought the worst thing you could do was to reveal to the world that you had failed to create a happy life for yourself. I think (I know) a lot of people are fake, which is why it’s hard for me to trust people now. Plus the fact that so many are outright liars and con artists…

But I actually began this blog while I was in the middle of a crisis, before I even thought about building up a readership again. I just needed an outlet. I posted too much real stuff, in fact. It got pretty crazy sometimes. I’ve made several passes through here to take down posts that were too personal in various ways. I think I’ve reached some sort of equilibrium I am comfortable with most of the time.

I used to love having virtual personas ~ so much fun to be a new character without real life baggage! For years, I created new characters to slip into and sometimes they would become part of my real life in some ways too, helping me cope with certain problems. But ya know… that became work too… eventually I ghosted them. Back then, I would have said I liked the virtual me more than the real me. Now, I don’t keep them separate.

This is all very interesting to me because it tends to coincide with the end of my dating days. I guess I always felt I had to be a little bit of “someone else” when dating and even in a long-term relationship. That’s a lot of work. It’s tedious and exhausting. But the real me isn’t someone anyone wants to date (in my mind) bla bla bla. It’s just so much easier to do what I want, rather than to endlessly “compromise” (aka “give in”) to someone else’s wants/needs. I was never good at standing up for myself and I don’t have to worry about that any longer. 🙂

I guess I went a little off the rails with this question… ha ha!

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©️2020 Paula Light and Light Motifs II. No unauthorized use permitted. Please check out Paula’s books for sale on Amazon.

FPQ62: Homebound

Fandango’s provocative question

Fandango provocatively asks…

What activities have you cut from your life since this pandemic started that you DON’T really miss?

Unlike some, I don’t see a silver lining in this thing for me personally although yay less pollution right now, so that’s great. I miss everything I was doing because I had my life the way I liked… work, family, pets, friends, hobbies, etc. Still have pets around. Everything else is online or not at all and geez I get tired of staring at screens.

However! There is one thing I’m not doing or hardly at all and I do not miss it because I hate it. Can you guess?

Traffic jam at sunset

God, I despise driving. It’s just the worst and I don’t miss it one bit. Wish I could resume a normal life without it, but I live in Southern California, so lol.

It was making me more depressed to keep documenting my days of nothingness, so I stopped. I’ve been working on Ghosted 👻 and playing games.

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Images from Fandango and me.

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Whatever…

Pointless meandering

I guess I haven’t posted anything today. What’s left to say? I was looking forward to the FPQ, but then I saw I would have to listen to a news clip. Ughhh. Like I’m not glued to the news enough already? Too much and yet I can’t stop looking at it like I’m passing a car wreck except it’s the whole world in a wreck and I can’t just pass by because I’m living in it too.

Then I was gonna post for the Color Code Challenge, but I didn’t have anything. I had pics with colors, but no pics with groups of colors. Boo. That would have been a fun post, if it had materialized. 🌈

I thought about Sadje’s pic of the woman on a cliff with the broken god, but eh. Then there was a “glorious” sunrise or something too. Meh. Just not feeling the fiction. Or poetry. The challenge from last week was humor, but I’m too consumed with anxiety to be funny right now.

The weird thing is that I had a relatively good day, very productive. Things ended on a happy note too, and now I have a 4-day weekend. I had planned to go to Vegas with some friends, but obviously that’s not going to happen now. I’ll read, write, exercise, and maybe watch a few movies alone at home. Those are the kinds of things I enjoy, so I’m not upset about Vegas, but I dislike uncertainty. A lot. 🙁

Believe it or not, I watched Contagion last night. It’s a good movie! People wonder why I’d watch that now, but now is a great time to watch it imo. Absolutely stellar cast too. It’s weird to see Bryan Cranston before he played Walter White. (Never watched Malcolm.)

So anyway… I’ll be around. My Thursday Inspiration is coming right up tomorrow morning and I’m working on my April A-Z game posts here and there. It’s a good time to catch up on things.

Stay safe! 💖

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Wow What A Week

Don’t touch your face

I touch my face a billion times per day. Yes, I counted, which is why I haven’t been around much this week. I have itchy eyes and am aways messing with my hair and rubbing my achy neck and just generally transferring germs to my face and from my face to everywhere else. But now that’s a crime and also it’s scary to think that all this time people weren’t washing their hands or cleaning their houses. Gross! 🦠

Just when I think I’ve adjusted to the latest barrage of news about THE THING, here comes a new assault of information. Well, not information so much as stuff we’re not supposed to do anymore. First, it was hey quit hooking up with random men from the internet and I was all no problem been on that diet for over three years now. 👍🏻

Wash hands 87 times per day, got it. Clean everything all the time. Sure, okay. Unlike some of you lunatics, I already had Lysol and wipes and alcohol. Don’t go to China or Italy. Lol, okay. Don’t fly at all. Wait, what? Grrrr, okay… I canceled my trip to Vegas this week. Don’t sit in bars and restaurants. Sigh… I canceled Friday night plans and changed Saturday’s.

Tonight I read that Mayor Garcetti has shut all entertainment in Los Angeles ~ bars, gyms, libraries, museums, etc. Grocery stores are allowed to remain open and you can get restaurant takeout only. Governor Newsom says if you’re over 65 you should self-isolate. Luckily, I’m “only” 58, yet I plan to stay inside most of the time, basically go to work, then come home to work more and read/write/blog, and not do much else.

Oh, that’s actually my normal life! 🤣

Joking, sort of. Even though I’m not the most social of butterflies 🦋 I do make some plans… and I don’t enjoy being told I’m not allowed to. But I get it, I get it. I intend to comply with these guidelines in order to help myself and others too. It’s important.

Wash your hands

Happily, we’re not really that isolated now, are we? There are so many ways we can stay connected without sitting next to each other in the same room. I’m looking at the bright side of this situation and saying, okay, how can I optimize my time? Well… read and write more obviously. I have lots of partially finished works in progress that I’d love to get on my Kindle shelf for you guys to buy, hehe. In a previous post, I mentioned that I plan to work on Ghosted this year again. Great opportunity!

And I definitely want to stay connected to Blogville! 💕 I know some of us have been drifting a bit or slowing down some, but I have every intention of soldiering on. My Monday Peeve and Thursday Inspiration posts will continue. I’ll do Jim’s Song Lyric Sundays as long as he hosts them. It’s rare I miss a (new) Wednesday Fandango FPQ, and I enjoy the Friday Flashbacks he began as well. I enjoy the weekly SOCS. Other prompts will happen as the mood moves me…

That brings us to the April A-Z Challenge. Last year, I said I wouldn’t do it again for a variety of reasons, but I’ve changed my mind. What’s funny is that I went to the website and was immediately annoyed just like last year! Oh, here’s one reason why I said I wouldn’t do it again… their ridiculous forms, etc. Well, ya know what? I’m going to do it without linking to them at all or jumping through hoops to get myself listed. I don’t care about trying to get more views here. If new peeps come by, great! But if the only readers I have are my “regulars,” I’m fine with that too. 😻

My theme is gonna be games. But I’m not gonna jabber on boringly about rules and game pieces and game theory and the history of chess or any crap like that you could go google for yourself. No. I’m gonna talk about how a game affected me. This blog is about ME! Me me me me!

Checkmate Bitmoji

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Images credited to Bitmoji.

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