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50 Years

Wedding marriage rings

(for my parents)

She liked John Wayne;
He watched Swan Lake.
While he read the paper,
She puttered in the garden.
He wanted to go to Paris;
She suggested Nashville.
They both enjoyed burgers,
Brandy and the Beatles.
For all their differences,
Their love was on the same page.

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Written for the Skeptic’s Kaddish W3-7.

Musical Share [syw]

Music notes keyboard piano

Melanie starts our week off right with a new group of Share Your World questions. Let’s get to it!

1. When you were a kid, did you eat the crusts on your sandwich or not?

I ate them and I’ve never understood the thing about cutting them off. Unless you bake your own bread and the edges are stale, it makes no sense ~ commercial loaves of bread are soft all the way through. I didn’t cut the crusts of sandwiches for my kids either. If they didn’t want crusts, they could have eaten the middles only, but I don’t remember that happening.

2. Are you a fan of musicals—why or why not?

I totally adore musicals! I just rewatched Chicago last week, and I regularly rewatch Mamma Mia 1 and 2. Other faves are The Sound of Music, Hair, Fiddler on the Roof, Walk the Line, My Fair Lady, and Footloose (especially the remake).

3. Is it difficult to do what you do? (for a living, hobby etc.). If you’re retired, what you ‘did’ previously for a job can be substituted.

I’m a legal secretary (transactional real estate), and it’s not that difficult for me because I am obsessed with details, but it might be harder for someone who isn’t good with numbers, names, and proofreading.

4. What’s the best concert you’ve ever been to? (Doesn’t have to be a rock concert either).

I haven’t been to many. Pat Benatar’s back in the 1980s was great.

5. Looking back over your life, what is one thing you’re grateful for? One thing you really regret?

Every day I’m grateful that I had children. My daughters are the best thing in my life and bring me the most happiness. I love them both so much and my grands too! I do regret not getting divorced from their father sooner, as I might have had a chance for a successful new romance without so much emotional baggage from that marriage. But it’s fine, and I have learned to enjoy being single and NOT looking. I used to say that I regret not going to Northwestern when I had the chance, but if I had, I probably wouldn’t have met my children’s father, so I don’t really regret that. Like everyone who misses someone who’s gone, I regret not spending more time with my mom, but no amount would have been enough…

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TGIF ~ Stranger Things

Scary skeleton

I just began watching Stranger Things (S1, E1) because my daughter loves it so much. She’s on the current Season 4, so I have to hurry and catch up. She hooked me up with the S4 soundtrack on Spotify and it’s fab!

She was a bit worried it might be traumatic for me because of bullies and such, but then she remembered that I was in high school in the 1970s not the ‘80s, so it’s all good, lol. My other daughter warns me it gets super scary in S2, so we’ll see how it goes…

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100 Candles in 99 Words

I won’t get to light 100 candles for my darling mommy. Though she didn’t even make it to 77, I never stop thinking of her. She was beautiful, smart, creative, energetic, and funny. Generous with her time. Loving and kind. She loved me so much and she loved my daughters more than anything. She would have been thrilled beyond belief to know she has two adorable great-grandchildren. She loved to garden, cook, and sew. She enjoyed Johnny Cash, boysenberry pie, and John Wayne movies. I love you, Mom, and I miss you every day of my life. Happy Birthday!

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Image is from the Carrot Ranch.

Scam Share [syw]

Share your world

Melanie has a new batch of Share Your World questions for us this Memorial Day. Let’s get to it!

1. Has anyone ever tried to scam you?

Well, like everyone else online, I’ve been subjected to the usual barrage of scam-related emails, texts, calls, etc. Back in 2016, this assh0le guy from an assh0le company convinced a sheriff I was still married, so he got an order to put a lien on my checking account for $4,000 to settle a debt of my ex-husband’s. THANK GOD I work for lawyers and one of them fixed the problem. Also, when I used to be on dating sites, there were the usual scammy messages from guys in foreign countries, etc. If I had followed up with any of them, there would have been a request for money, but I didn’t, so there wasn’t. Finally, on Twitter, a scammer was impersonating a singer and I had fun leading him on for several messages until I reported him and got his account shut down.

2. What’s the best thing about parties?

Going home.

3. Do you listen to people’s advice if you didn’t ask for it?

I can’t remember ever doing that, but if someone gives me advice I find interesting or valuable, I might consider it regardless of the circumstances. I also consider the source. If someone I respect gives advice (see no. 1), I would definitely take it or at least think about it. If it’s a stranger or someone with ulterior motives (like the assh0les on dating sites) getting in my face with unwanted advice, then NO.

4. Why is it impossible to spell funeral without fun?

Uh, I don’t know. I’ve never actually been to one, but I’ve read that Irish wakes are supposedly fun. My parents did not want funerals.

5. How was last week for you?

I had a fabulous weekend in San Diego with friends, plus I got a bonus of brunch with my daughter and son-in-law (and doggos) on Sunday, which was awesome. Today I’m seeing TOP GUN: MAVERICK, and I’m totally looking forward to that!

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Happy Birthday

birthday cupcake sprinkles candle lonely

In this week’s episode of Throwback Thursday, Lauren asks about our birthday memories. The above pic of a delicious vanilla cupcake from Sprinkles is from a more recent bday, before I moved. Now I have a larger place (shared), but a smaller kitchen.

1) What’s your earliest birthday memory?

I don’t remember this one, because I’d only just turned one, but a photo counts as a memory, right?


2) What was your favorite birthday and why?

Probably 2021 when I got to see most of my friends (outside) after over a year of almost no socializing in person.

3) What’s the best birthday present you have ever received?

An adorable “stay calm and have a cupcake” charm from my daughters. Also, they got me a new iPhone in 2020, which was/is fab.

4) Did you ever get money as a birthday gift?

Yes, my paternal grandparents gave money. Also, my ex’s parents did too. RIP to all.

5) What did you like to do on your birthday as a kid? What do you like to do now?

This may sound weird, but even though I was an only child, my parents didn’t make a BFD out of my birthday. Usually, we’d just go out to dinner and I’d get a small gift. I don’t remember any parties.

Now? It’s always great to see my family and have some cake. Or have cake with friends. Or have a cupcake by myself. Cake!!!


6) Did you have birthday parties with friends or family parties?

Family dinners ~ I wouldn’t call them parties.

7) Did you get to pick the food for your birthday? Did you prefer to eat a home cooked meal or to eat out at a restaurant on your birthday?

I don’t remember, but I’m sure we always went somewhere I liked. We went out a lot though, so staying home was fine too… as long as there was… you know. CAKE!!!

8) Did your family have any fun birthday traditions? Did you continue those traditions with your own kids?

Not really. I probably went a bit overboard with my girls, since everyone we knew had birthday parties for kids, and I got super into the whole themed aspect.

9) Did you ever get to take the day off school on your birthday? As an adult did/do you take the day off?

Lol, no. School was more important! I don’t usually take my birthday off from work unless it is on a Friday or Monday and I’m planning a trip or something.

10) Have you ever had a surprise birthday party? Was it a real surprise, or did you know it was coming?

No. And I hate surprises anyway.

Bonus Question:
If you had a million dollars to spend only on your next birthday, what would you do?

Rent a posh beach house (and chef) for my family to come stay and play at for a week!

Beach house kitty

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Missing You


Every day I miss you more,
As if you’d left just hours before,
Your voice still green in my mind.
But silly movies make me cry,
And loss lingers close behind—
I touch it like a purpled bruise;
I just can’t shake these blues.
Every day I miss you more.
Pain hasn’t passed with time,
For as the years roll on I find
Your face comes in sharper focus,
And memories are turning golden.
Grey days blur into each other
Like a monochromic watercolor.
Every day I miss you more.

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Written for the Skeptic’s Kaddish W3-4 and the Wednesday Challenge.

You Can Leave Your Hat On [socs]

Goldfinger Oddjob 007 James Bond

Especially if you’re Oddjob. Seriously, no need to take your hat off on my account, Mr. O. Although Tony Soprano might have had something to say about it, if anyone remembers that classic restaurant scene. It’s simply uncouth to wear a hat whilst eating spaghetti next to a mob boss and he is not going to put up with such boorish behavior. In the old days, men wore cool hats… not baseball caps so much, but nice hats that went with suits and sports jackets, like in Mad Men. My dad had hats… I remember once he and my mom had a terrible argument and he was about to walk out but stopped to get his hat. It was a habit, and even if you’re upset, you don’t forget your hat. Anyway, I told him not to go (I was 6 years old) and he didn’t. Yep, it was just like that song “Daddy, Don’t You Walk So Fast,” except he hadn’t left yet. After that, I always felt it was my responsibility to defuse their fights and make things right. I became expert at sensing their moods ~ some people say that’s what creates an empath, but I never call myself one. I’m not that good at figuring out other people’s moods if they aren’t obvious. Mostly, I’d rather not even know. Knowing conveys a vague sense of guilt and cloaks me in a “do something,” even if the problem has nothing to do with me. I’m not talking about joy or any kind of happy emotions, but bad/sad moods.

Anyway, hats. They are nifty. I should wear mine more often.

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Little Late Share [syw]


Melanie baked up a fresh batch of Share Your World questions yesterday, and I’m just getting to them now. Better late than… you know!

1. What two totally normal things become really weird if you do them back to back?

Getting dressed for work / going back to sleep.

2. What is something that you just recently realized that you are embarrassed by, that you didn’t realize embarrassed you?

I should know more world history/geography. I used to say I didn’t care and it was all too boring to read about, not to mention completely overwhelming (like where do you even start with any kind of unbiased source?), but that sounds like something a child would say. Lately I’m uncomfortable with how little I know. No, this is not a request for links to nutball vids and partisan rants in my comments. Please.

3. If Australia (including New Zealand and Tasmania – which I KNOW are different countries); the UK, Ireland, Germany, the USA, and Brazil or Italy were represented by one food, which would it be for each?

Australia: shark cake
The UK: royal cake
Ireland: shamrock cake
Germany: beer cake
The USA: crazy cake
Brazil: hot cake
Italy: cannoli


4. What might happen if Goldilocks and the Three Bears were set in modern times?

An Amber Alert is sent out for Goldilocks, and a magpie turns in the bears to get the shiny reward offered by Goldie’s parents. The FBI swarms in, finds Goldie in bed, shoots the big bears, and puts the baby bear in foster care. Goldie’s Twitter account explodes with new followers, and Random House offers her a million-dollar advance for her story. She gets a tattoo of a bear on her butt and becomes friends with the Kardashian sisters… until she steals Pete whatshisface away from Kim. A culture war commences, forcing everyone on the planet to take sides, and the POTUS declares himself Team Goldie. Unfortunately, the rest of the world is Team Kim, and nukes start flying. The end.

5. Where was the most most embarrassing or inappropriate place you’ve passed audible gas?

Michael’s (arts & crafts store)

6. If you celebrate it, how was your Mother’s Day? What did you do? If you don’t (because you’re a single guy or it’s not in your culture) please share something fun you did recently.

It was fine. Both of my daughters called to chat. Later I went out and bought a yummy salad from Trader Joe’s for dinner. I worked for a long time on my book Sidewalk Noodles, which I hope to have available for purchase soon. Don’t everyone rush at once!

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Mellow Yellow & HMD


This is a twofer post ~ first, there’s a lotta yellow going on (Mom & me) and, second, it also works as a Happy Mother’s Day acknowledgment for tomorrow, given that there are two moms in the pic. RIP to my wonderful mother whom I miss every day.

Actually, there are three mothers in the pic, since orange girl now has two beautiful children of her own! Hard to believe how much time has passed. Wow. This pic was taken around 1996 by my dad (whom I also miss). I guess, technically, the apostrophe in mothers should go on the outside when we’re happying more than one mom, but as I explained recently, I dislike outside apostrophes. The official spelling has the apostrophe before the S, which is nice, except it doesn’t take into consideration that someone might have multiple mothers, which is not very woke. I expect that to change as well as Father’s Day (supply your own eye-roll).

Anyway. Let’s not go there; disagreeable comments, as always, will be deleted at my whim. I haven’t done much crafty stuff lately, but just so you know, I designed and painted my yellow tee shirt in this photo and also decorated Sharon’s dress with the daisies and bees. I loved painting tee shirts, but unfortunately my wrist/hand objected, perhaps because I became completely obsessed, as I do, and spent way too many hours painting without a break. My wrist is still not “right” nor is my neck, which I hurt in the mid-1990s by idiotically lifting a TV (the old kind) and carrying it across the room because I couldn’t wait for someone to help me.

Speaking of things that don’t heal, I am still heartbroken over the loss of my mom and will be as long as I live. She exists so clearly in my memories and dreams, it’s almost as if she’s right here. Yellow is such a happy color, and I’m glad I have this pic to remember how much fun the four of us had together.

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Written for SueW and GC’s Weekly Prompt ~ Mellow Yellow.