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L is for Lose [A2Z]

Here’s Kate Hudson again (we saw her way back in my first A2Z review for Alex & Emma), this time paired with Matthew McConaughey, in a very cute, very sweet romantic comedy: How to Lose A Guy in 10 Days.

The protagonists are at odds because Andie has committed to write an article about winning and losing a boyfriend in 10 days for the magazine where she works. When she’s out with coworkers they “randomly” choose Benjamin to be her pigeon.

But it’s not random because both are being sabotaged by other forces. Ben thinks he’s entering into a harmless bet, but little does he know…

I really enjoyed this movie. There was a lot of great acting by the side characters also, notably Kathryn Hahn and Bebe Neuwirth.

K is for Katherine [A2Z]

Katherine Heigl in 27 Dresses, that is. This is one of my favorite romantic comedies. It again costars James Marsden, as Kevin here, who we saw a couple letters ago in Enchanted, but this time he’s brilliant and witty, not a bumbling goofball. He’s also gorgeous, but for much of the movie Katherine’s Jane is somehow immune to his charms because she’s obsessed with her boss.

That’s one triangle. Another is that Jane’s sister Tess (great performance by Malin Ackerman) has fallen for Jane’s boss, under false pretenses. A third complication is that Kevin’s boss has given him an assignment of doing an exposé on Jane. There’s a lot going on! I find this film highly enjoyable no matter how many times I watch it.

For a bonus K, Katherine also turns in a cute and funny performance with Seth Rogen in the romcom Knocked Up.

Laura’s Music Challenge 8

Woohoo! Here’s Laura’s challenge to put some music 🎶 in our Monday. Join in! 🎶

1. Post a video by a comedian that features them singing.

2. Post a video of a song that could be about a narcissist.

3. Post a video for a song that has a person’s name in the lyrics or title.

Confab [SOCS]

Fab is a word I associate with the Beatles, but sometimes it’s used to describe the 4 British Royals: William, Kate, Harry, and Meghan. For a short time, I used faboo as an expression of glee, but I quickly grew bored with it. I’m pretty much back to my boring old great! and yay! 🎉

Last week I stopped in Jo-Ann’s fabrics, but it wasn’t as much fun as I’d remembered. I think my crafting days are kaput ~ except for when my little granddaughter is old enough to make braided lanyard bracelets and paper flowers and beady things. That will be great! 😍

Fabricate means lie, like prevaricate… though they are subtly different. Fabricate is more about constructing a false body of evidence, while prevaricating is evading the question. But ultimately lying is lying, in my book. I think I forgot to say that in some post or other recently when were gabbing about this topic ~ I was thinking about saying that lies of omission were also lies, but then I omitted it! Oopsy. 😱

Finally, we have fables, which are a great form of storytelling. I’ve always loved fiction, but as an adult I’ve only enjoyed realistic fiction until fairly recently. But in the last couple years, something changed and I became more open minded toward fantasy in fiction. This led me into different genres, such as sci-fi, magical realism, magic in general, shapeshifter romance, time travel, steampunk, dragons… and of course culminating in Game of Thrones.

Have I mentioned that I really really love Game of Thrones??? 👑🐺🐉❄️🔥

12 Things via Life Lessons

Twelve Things I Would Most Like to Know About You 

If at least twenty-five people answer these questions and either give a link to their blogs in comments below or send the answers to me via email, Facebook or Skype, I will have a drawing and contribute an amount equal to the number of responders (up to a limit of $100) to the winner’s favorite charity. Please let me know if you do not wish to have your answers published, as I might share some of them on my blog.  Okay, the race is on! I’m going to be very disappointed if no one plays along.

Who in your opinion is the sexiest man (if you are a woman) or woman (if you are a man) who ever lived?

It’s so difficult for me to answer this. I’ve only known a small number of men (and wouldn’t pick any of them, lol). I hate to go by looks alone, if we’re talking celebs, since my working theory is that the better looking a man is, the more of a jerk he’ll likely turn out to be. But super funny, super smart men (my idea of sexy qualities) can be jerks too, even if they aren’t great looking. Okay, fine. I’m going with Jon Bon Jovi who is super hot, a great singer, appears to have been true to his wife all these years, and doesn’t boycott Israel like other idiot celebs.

What favorite food do you rarely eat and why?

Seafood fettuccine; it’s expensive.

What would your closest friends be most surprised to find out about you?

That I’m not as liberal as people assume just because I’m pro-choice.

Who is the most famous person you ever met and what were the circumstances?

Not exactly “met,” but I was buying a Sunday paper at a newsstand in Beverly Hills in 1988, and Mick Jagger jumped out of a limo to buy one too. He waited in line behind me like a normal person, and when the guy in front of me knocked over a stack of cassette tapes, Mick and I helped him pick them up.

What famous person would you most like to have as a close friend and why?

Jeff Bezos, so he could more favorably algorithmize my Kindle books.

What is your biggest regret in life?

That I didn’t go to Northwestern.

What is the strangest pet you ever had?

I’ve only had normal pets.

What is the item of clothing you have owned for the longest period of time?

A warm coat from my Chicago days, but I’ve hardly worn it since.

What object in your house holds the most nostalgic value for you?

A bunch of things my daughters made and bought for me, photo albums, plus a few keepsakes from my mom too.

What question do you wish you had asked a deceased relative but didn’t?

I wish I’d asked my mom for the info she had on other family members.

Who in the world (relative or not) do you most resemble? 

My mom.

What is your favorite footwear and why?

Comfy black moccasins… cuz they’re comfy and go with almost everything.

“Okay!!! The game is on. Don’t make me say at this advanced stage in my life that no one wants to play with me!” ~ Judy

Laura’s Music Challenge

Laura has a new set of music challenges for us this week. Join in!

1. Post a video of a song by a solo artist from the year you were born.

It says this song was recorded in 1960 and released in 1961, so it’s a perfect match.

2. Post a video of a song in which the video stars a once or currently popular actress or actor.

I looked up songs that had actors in the vids, and they were all new songs I didn’t know, so I’m cheating.

3. Post a video for a song that has a color in the lyrics or title.

FPQ18: A-hole Artists

This week’s provocative question was spurred by the recent headlines about R. Kelly and Michael Jackson. A Lifetime docuseries, “Surviving R. Kelly,” along with Kelly’s bizarre interview with Gayle King of CBS News, has sparked renewed interest in allegations of sexual abuse, manipulation, and inappropriate encounters with girls and young women. And HBO’s documentary about Michael Jackson, “Leaving Neverland,” which focuses on his alleged sexual abuses of young boys, has also put his inappropriate sexual proclivities under the spotlight.

As a result of the highly inappropriate behavior of these two artists, many radio stations have ceased playing their recordings and people are removing their songs from their personal playlists.

So, my question this week is about whether or not you think it’s possible to separate the art from the artist.

“When you learn about highly regarded artists being accused of inappropriate sexual behavior, especially with minors, can you separate the artists from their art, or would you refuse to listen to, watch, or read the artists’ works?”

Great question! First, I want to say that I am not convinced of MJ’s guilt by the conflicting testimony of people motivated by profit, especially given the fact that he’s no longer around to defend himself. But that’s a side issue to the question. My basic answer is that I do not separate the art from the artist. But in reality I am a bit more nuanced.

For example, I am disgusted with Woody Allen, from what I’ve read about him. He may not be a criminal, but he’s icky. And I don’t want to financially support that, no matter how “great” an artist he may be. So, I would not spend money on him. But if someone else had one of his films that I know I like (I only enjoy the ones where he isn’t a main character), I might re-watch.

Another example is Mel Gibson. He doesn’t fall into the above categories; he’s merely an anti-semite. Yes, I know he “apologized.” I think very little of apologies, especially from men after they’ve been caught doing something wrong. It’s easy for me not to spend money on any MG film, since I never liked him in the first place. The rest of you can wrestle with your consciences.

But what about the musical artists Fandango mentioned specifically? Okay. I don’t listen to R. Kelly, so he’s irrelevant to me. I do listen to old MJ songs sometimes, though I’m not a superfan. I will continue listening to them. I don’t see the big deal ~ he’s dead. I’m not enriching him.

What we need here is an example of a live artist I liked, who totally disappointed me, in order to discover what I would do. Luckily, we have such an example: Sean Penn. I loved him in several movies, such as Fast Times at Ridgemont High and Carlito’s Way. Then he became a traitor, so I quit liking him, and I will never see another one of his films.

NB: I don’t really want to debate the traitor thing. I respect that people have other views. This isn’t Facebook and I don’t intend to host a flamewar. I have no problem deleting nasty comments. Thanks for understanding. 🙂

One-Liner Wednesday [rants in my pants]

I’m disgusted by the news from yesterday. And this time it doesn’t have anything to do with our horrible POTUS or one of his sycophants. I’m talking about the college admission scandal. Sure, people will roll their eyes and say it’s nothing new that the uber wealthy will pave the way for their children (we all try to help our children the best we can), but to me there’s a big diff in alumni daddy making a donation so his not so bright son can get a spot with less than stellar creds and these desperate celebs paying criminals to cheat for them. Paying a shill to take their kid’s SAT, or a proctor to change the answers, bribing a coach to say their kid is on a team when she’s not, sending in photoshopped fake pics of their kid playing a sport, on and on.

But to me the most awful thing is that these spoiled brat celeb kids don’t even give a crap about the value of these prestigious schools. They aren’t there to get a degree in order to make connections and start a career. Nope. Not at all. They already have connections and careers, thanks to their parents and their good looks. They have contracts as models and influencers. All they need the college for is to be able to add it as a hashtag.

It’s utterly nauseating. I hope the colleges throw every celeb kid out and give those spots to people who actually want to be there and have legit credentials.

~*~

One-Liner Wednesday

A Bash

Big bashes aren’t my thing. I’m not bashing bashes ~ in fact, decades back, I had fun at big, loud parties. But as my migraines have become more easily triggered, it’s just not that much fun for me to be in huge crowds. I prefer smaller groups where you can have a meaningful conversation or play a game.

Sometimes people act like this preference is a personality flaw, a thing I should feel abashed about, but why should I get over it? It’s simply a preference. I don’t ask them to quit liking huge, noisy venues; I simply decline the invitation to attend.

I’ve noticed this comes up a lot, that things about me are deemed inferior traits. Maybe that happens to everyone, not just me. I understand it’s how they get you to click on articles and then be subjected to ads. Just this morning (yesterday now, since I’m going to schedule this for Saturday), I read an essay saying that people with the Myers-Briggs type that end in “J” have the most trouble dating. I’m an INFJ.

The article didn’t give us tips on how to deal with being a J. Nope. It said we should work on being not-J. The main trait of the J aspect is a dislike of uncertainty. We are list people. We want plans, and we like things to be settled. What’s wrong with that? Why can’t we focus on meeting someone else who enjoys an orderly life? No! Says the article. Change into a la-la type who is fine with maybes and disorder.

Annoying. The article has disturbed me all day. I can’t even concentrate on this awful Jennifer Aniston romcom I was looking forward to.

Yes, yes, I’m all off-topic now, but no one is actually reading this, so like whatever! My consciousness is streaming, which is the important thing.

Tuesday Noodles

From Rory and Doodle Pip…

Is Social Media Ruining Genuine Friendship & Encouraging More Loneliness?

Actually, I think it is and isn’t, depending on the person and circumstances. Genuine friendships can be ruined by lies and gossip getting out of control on social media in ways that didn’t use to happen. By the time you have a chance to catch your breath, everyone and his brother have weighed in on your personal situation. It’s crazy! And it can make apologizing and one-on-one conversation nearly impossible after things have spiraled into the public or even semi-public arena. Sometimes it feels easier just to walk away from a friendship than to deal with an entire tree of Facebook harpies on top of the original problem.

On the other hand, some of us who have felt isolated and relatively friendless because of whatever reason have found communities of like oddballs online (or even one or two others who grok our special weirdness), and this has been such a blessing, for lack of a less loaded term. What a freaking relief after all these years to “meet,” even if only on a screen, another human who has experienced some of the same shitty things we have. Someone who gets our strange sense of humor. Someone who aligns with us politically. Who collects blue crystal spiders. Or believes life began on Neptune. Whatever! There’s someone somewhere who we can discuss this with, and odds are good it won’t be our next door neighbor or someone at work, but probably someone in another state or country.

With our one weird friend in our pocket, we can now go about our daily life faking normalcy without feeling so all alone.

But! Because we have the weird friend or two, and the ability to find more tailored friends online, it’s so seductive to ignore meatspace people who don’t get us, which is pretty much everyone. And since online friends tend to ghost or take breaks sans explanation, sometimes you’re left feeling even emptier than before.

Why Do People Bully Others?

Insecurity. Yep. This is textbook bullying, mostly by men who are “losers” according to cultural standards, but online they have the ability to hurt others, especially when they clump together in a bropod.

Avoid Own Problems. For sure. I think many of us Usenet “combat prose warriors” were in avoidance mode. I was. It was an escape from my home life, and I’m sure I wasn’t alone in that. We were all spending waaay too much time there to have healthy offline relationships.

Look Cool. Maybe. I guess in partisan politics anyone who bashes a Trump supporter looks cool to other Trump haters and the same goes for the other side, but I’m sick of it all.

For Fun. Absolutely. There’s this thing on Twitter called “hate-following.” Like if you hate Trump, you don’t block him or mute him, but instead you follow him and mock his tweets and anyone who supports him. He doesn’t read the comments or engage, so it just makes him appear to have more followers. Counterproductive! Also, why would anyone waste their time doing this? It must be fun!

Which Stigma/Taboo Is Worse?

Mental Health. Is this even a stigma? Seems like everyone is claiming to have a disorder nowadays from being “on the spectrum” to OCD (guilty) to whatever else.

Self Harm. This is sad and scary, but so many have fessed up to it that it doesn’t seem like a stigma either.

Suicidality. This is scary to me, such that I would constantly worry about being close friends with someone who had these thoughts, since I’d feel like I would need to be on high alert. Maybe that turns it into a taboo, if people are scared of it. But you have to be. How can you not be, if you care about someone?

Bullying. People who bully are assholes and should be shunned. This should be a taboo. It isn’t though. The POTUS is a bully and enjoys a solid chunk of support from his base. Same with other politicians and celebs. We secretly like them, don’t we? Maybe we’re genetically programmed to because we want a bully to protect us from the terrors outside the cave. Even those of us who can’t stand Trump want someone tough and mean enough to beat him, don’t we? Cuz if we choose Molly Milquetoast, she will lose.

Do You NEED People In Your Life? How Many People Do You Meet With & Talk

1-3 per Day

4-9 Per Day

10-17 Per Day

18+ Per Day

I laugh at those numbers, especially the last one. 😂😂😂 Mine is zero, as in none. Depending on the day, I have 1-3 coworkers I talk to, but I don’t think that counts, since it’s work-related. Maybe twice a month I attend a social event with around a dozen people. I see my daughter and her husband and baby once a month. I try to have one weekend day every weekend where I don’t leave my apartment at all, and one weekend a month that’s completely for me/no events or plans with others.

That said, I don’t feel alone. There are people I talk with almost daily; I just don’t see them in person. This doesn’t bother me at all. I try to imagine if I would be happier seeing more people and the answer is no, always. The opportunities are there if I want them. I used to think I needed to explain why I am this way, but I don’t. Nor do people who like to go to parties and interact with others frequently need to explain. It’s simply how we’re hardwired.