Category Archives: OCDoodles

Moody Blues & Browns

Color is super important to me (I’ve written about it a few times). When I first began working full-time “9-5” back in Chicago and had to quickly assemble an office-friendly wardrobe, I bought basic mix-match items in blues and browns. I didn’t realize that black was more of a basic until it was too late ~ but I was happy with my colors. They were beachy in winter. Sand and ocean. Rock and sky.

That’s the Pacific Ocean, near where I live now in SoCal; at that time around 1980 I lived near Lake Michigan. But it’s not “just a lake” ~ it’s huge, with miles of beach and waves.

Gradually, I added in more variety to my wardrobe: stripes, black and white, other shades of blue, purple. When I moved to Southern California in 1983, I began wearing a lot of bright colors, lime green especially. Well, it was the 1980s. Then came pink! Omgosh, I fell in love with pink!

Later, I went through a sunflower phase. I started a mad quest to fill my home with as many things as I could that had a sunflower motif. Dishtowels, crewel pictures, and tee shirts for everyone! This is my mommy and me, in sunflower yellow! My girls are in bright, happy colors too. The pic is from around 1996. ๐Ÿ˜โค๏ธโญ๏ธ

In 2001, I went back to office work full-time, so the lime green leggings had to go unfortunately. I also had lime green boots that I did wear for a while, but a few years ago I reluctantly parted with them too. I do have a lot of black basics now, but I spice them up with splashes of pink or turquoise in scarves and/or sweaters. My wardrobe contains every color for my every mood.

Mostly I like to put different solid colors together in various combos, so I try to stay away from patterns and prints, but I do have some. I’m trying to phase them out though. Unless I find a super fantastic sale or something with a kitty on it. ๐Ÿฑ

So, that’s my colorful story about color. I thought I could somehow work in the other prompt words, but nope. Moving on…

3-2-1 Quote Me: Creativity

Rory tagged me in this game, which is a great way to begin the week. I intend to get back to my novel in progress, so you’ll be seeing a bit less of me around Blogville.

I found these gems on Wisdom Quotes. Perfect for my renewed foray into the chaos of editing the mess I wrote during NaNoWriMo last November and then coming up with a stellar ending to tie everything together.

Perhaps Laura, Jordy, and Linda would also enjoy playing along. They’re very creative!

Happy Monday! It’s raining โ˜”๏ธ again here in Southern California.

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I did agonize over capping “southern,” if anyone cares, and googled. It doesn’t look right to me, but CMOS and Grammar Girl say cap, so I will. These are the distractions that plague me endlessly.

In Honor of Rewatching GOT…

This weekend I’ve begun rewatching Game of Thrones in preparation for Season 8, the end of the game, coming in April. I figured I’d be reasonable and watch an episode a day, but of course I can’t do that and am already on E6 tonight. It’s just so damn good even on the third go-round.

Big Boring Pile Of Navel Glazery

So, peeps have been sharing all sorts of deep thoughts around Blogville this week. What kind of blogs do they like to read and what do they like to write? Which sorts of award tags do they enjoy receiving, if any? What gets under their skin, if anything? I have been sporadically commenting on these posts, but as is my wont I feel I need to organize my ideas in one place. ๐Ÿฟ

My ideas about blogging aren’t separate from my ideas about other things. I don’t do much compartmentalizing in life any longer, except for work-related purposes. What I’m saying is that I’m not fake here; this blog’s narrator isn’t a persona crafted for ego strokes. I don’t like the person I have to become when I role play online, aka lie. It becomes annoying and stressful after a while to keep up the facade. I lied for a long time and got tired of it. Lying is boring; truth is interesting.*

So, I like to read other bloggers who are also being real. That doesn’t necessarily mean they’re posting photos of their face or credit card receipts, but they talk about themselves in an authentic voice. They’re not afraid to reveal mistakes and flaws. They may showcase their art, in the form of stories or photos or poetry, but they don’t exclude their self from their posts. Their blog doesn’t read like an impersonal series of magazine articles ~ I am not interested in that kind of writing. Nor do I want to interact with bloggers who only post links and cliched quotes, while sharing nothing of their real selves. If I want links and quotes, I can access the google. ๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿป

If you’ve been following me for a while, even a week, you’ll notice that my writing is all over the place. I’ll post an original poem or piece of flash fiction… then I’ll rant about something ridiculous… next I’ll jabber on about a song… or I’ll post a photo of my cat or a sunset or something I colored with pencils. I’ll answer prompt questions about writing or pets or dating or food or movies or wHaTEveR strikes me as fun at the time. I’ll grab a photo and dash off a quick story about it, romance or humor or even science fiction. I’m happy to find other bloggers who are likewise unpredictable in their writing. I enjoy reading what I enjoy writing. Simple! ๐Ÿ˜€

One note: while I love to read novels and do brainteaser games in meatspace, I’m not a huge fan of either on blogs. I like self-contained posts and I don’t want to spend a lot of time on each one. That’s not fair to the rest of my feed. So, you won’t find me commenting on serialized stories or solving complicated riddles here. ๐Ÿฆ‰

The time factor also comes into play with awards. Naturally I appreciate when a fellow blogger thinks of me regarding one of the awards going around, and I will always say thanks. I will also try to make time to answer their questions, if they aren’t toooo personal. But I generally don’t want to tag others or make up my own set of questions ~ that’s just my preference.

The other thing that’s come up is do we have a “thick skin” in relation to blogging. This can mean different things. I don’t ask for writing critiques on my work, nor do I receive anything but nice comments, so I’m lucky not to have to deal with negativity in that sense. I used to post about some of my dating site experiences and people offered advice that occasionally bordered on criticism. It sometimes bothered me, but only when they misunderstood me or the situation I’d described. After a while I decided to delete those posts anyway. I later wrote only a few carefully selected dating stories and things went okay.

As far as getting upset about my stats and who comments how many times yada… I’m fairly relaxed in comparison to some other bloggers who seem a bit obsessed. I’m not knocking obsession cuz lord knows I have plenty. Just not this particular one. I do look at the chart of visitors and it’s gone steadily up, so yay. Some days it dips. Idk why.

I don’t keep score, but I have a general idea of fair play. If I get a sense that a blogger I follow never comments on or likes any of my posts after I’ve been participating at their blog for a while, I may rethink if I want to keep following them. To me, this is about reciprocity. I didn’t pay to read your blog; the price is that you read mine. How do I know? Your likes and comments, same as mine to you. As I said, I don’t count, but I get a feeling.

Another note. While I appreciate all my followers, I don’t follow back bloggers who aren’t primarily posting in English. I’m not comfortable if I can’t read the majority of the posts, and no I’m not bothering with a translation since I only use the app.

Sometimes people comment on different things. I usually like photos of flowers sans comment. What’s there to say? Pretty! Eight hundred times. But I try to recognize with a like everything I enjoy. If I agree with an opinion word for word, I might not add anything either. I get that people are busy and follow many blogs; I don’t hold that against them. I don’t expect comments from everyone all the time. But I love them when I get them! โค๏ธ

I think I covered everything that’s been going around on these topics, so I can refer back to this post if peeps want an expanded clarification of any point. Right. ๐Ÿ˜‚

*This is on the tangential topic of truth in dating. I’ve been thinking lately that I feel a lot better, that I’m over my depression of 2017. So, maybe I should think about trying again? But no. Duh! That’s what flipped me into the depression in the first place: I was feeling good during the summer of 2016 and thought I was ready. But I wasn’t ready for the parade of liars and creeps, and I wasn’t ready to begin acting like I have no feelings when these predatory men thought it was fine to be insulting and creepy and critical just because I was “out there.” No, I’m not ready, will never be ready for that again. Call me a snowflake โ„๏ธ or whatever you want, but I don’t like myself when I’m in dating mode. I don’t like the me I have to be to deal with them. ๐Ÿคฎ

The Friday Four

A Guy Called Bloke Production

1] What are your strengths and of your strengths โ€“ how have they helped you throughout your life?

– I show up and do the thing. It’s amazing how often this is what it takes, day after boring day, to do okay, as opposed to the magic pill so many seem to seek. I’m the plodding tortoise, never the sexy bunny. But I am all right while others have burnt out; a minuscule number have had stellar success.

2] What are your weaknesses and how have they or have they hindered your successes in anyway and what have you done to overcome them to rue your day?

– I’m easily hurt/angered. I deal with that by socializing less and less and never dating at all now. I suppose I could go for years of counseling to try to overcome this and be heartless like others but nah. Books and kitty will do just fine.

3] What makes people believe absurd conspiracy theories or alternatively are all conspiracy theories absurd? Answer which sits best with you.

– A conspiracy requires a whole bunch of people motivated to keep a secret for a long time. For some of the conspiracies out there, we’re talking decades or even hundreds of years. Given human nature, that’s nuts ~ people talk and brag. Since almost all these “conspiracies” are easily found via a quick google, they aren’t even secrets! So, what’s the conspiracy then? Nothing. If any exist, we don’t know what they are, by definition.

Why? Well, I was actually curious about this because I dated a couple wackadoos who believed various idiocies. It’s a form of control freakish behavior ~ OCD. You try to make sense of a chaotic world by latching onto a theory in order to label and categorize things in little boxes so life doesn’t feel so messy.

In the same way that another OCD sufferer might need to ritually wash their hands 27 times before leaving the house or drive down certain streets to make sure there isn’t a dead body lying in the road, etc., the conspiracy buff hangs out on certain sites, gobbling up tidbits of info to reinforce whatever belief makes him feel that one tiny corner of the world is a little bit neater, whether it’s the gobblement hiding evidence of alien spaceships or Hillary, frail and near death, kidnapping kids out of pizza parlors.

4] How important are morals in a healthy society? What are the most important morals for citizens to have?

– Morality is subjective. We agree on certain fundamentals and then create a code of laws around them. It sounds simple, but it’s become complicated. When we allow some people to disobey laws, whether desperately poor folks illegally crossing the border or wealthy folks cheating on their taxes, the system becomes diminished for everyone. Why should I, Jane Doe, respect the law when all these other people don’t have to? Why shouldn’t I just steal a pair of earrings when no one is looking?

It’s easy to say that morality and the law are two different things, but that’s for the philosophy books. When we live in reality, we have to agree to abide by a code of conduct in order to be part of a civilized society. Society can’t function if everyone stands around going hmm what is the moral thing to do in this circumstance, let me pray, or consult my favorite philosophy website. Should I stab this annoying person or not? Isn’t it easier if we all agree upfront not to stab each other, and if anyone does stab just because someone won’t move up in line, no matter how annoying that is, they will get punished?

To quote Jim Carrey in Liar Liar: “Stop breaking the law, asshole!”

Many Are Called…

… few are chosen.

My color blending didn’t work so well in some places ~ this isn’t paint, after all. ๐Ÿ™„ But then again it makes some of the letters appear appropriately angry, so we can pretend I planned it that way. ๐Ÿ˜‚

~*~

January Coloring Club

Forgotten Faves

I’m thinking about all the TV shows I forgot to mention in my SOCS last night. That’s what I get for PWT (posting when tired).

Sci-Fi

My mom and I watched a ton of original Star Trek together in New Blursey. I also became a fan of The Twilight Zone and The Outer Limits around this time.

Mom and I also watched Creature Feature in Illinois while doing jigsaw puzzles in the basement. Scary!

Variety

I can’t believe I forgot Laugh-In! Loved that show. Also enjoyed some of the other variety shows starring Carol Burnett, Sonny & Cher, and Tony Orlando & Dawn. Was never a huge fan of the mostly talky ones like Johnny Carson, but he was on too late for me anyway. I’ve never been a night owl, though owls are awesome.๐Ÿฆ‰

Sit-Coms

I mentioned All in the Family, but I somehow forgot The Jeffersons and Rhoda, both of which I loved. I liked The Mary Tyler Moore Show a lot too. I enjoyed That Girl back in the day, but just like IDOJ, it doesn’t hold up in the present with all the sexist crap built into almost every storyline.

And how could I have forgotten The Partridge Family? Omg. And The Courtship of Eddie’s Father.

The Munsters and The Addams Family were also faves of mine.

Family Ties was funny. Bridget Loves Bernie was great, though short-lived. Three’s Company was funny at the time, but it wouldn’t be now because too much gay mockery.

Dramas, etc.

I somehow forgot all the cop shows! Dragnet, Magnum P.I., Vega$, Hart to Hart, TJ Hooker, McMillan & Wife… love love love. And recently I went on a Monk bingeroo.

And one of the funniest, most underrated shows of all, that had strange and interesting skits, with top stars… can’t believe I forgot this one…

LOVE AMERICAN STYLE! ๐Ÿ‡บ๐Ÿ‡ธโค๏ธ๐Ÿ’™๐ŸŽˆ๐ŸŽ‰

Finished the Monkeys!

Escapist Coloring Club

Confession, shameful but not short

I’ve had a lot of coffee, so I’m in the mood to jabber on. And on and on. Some of this may be confessional, some may be rantacious, I just don’t know at this point how it will all go. I already see I’m creating new words and doing grammar incorrectly, which may bother some readers.

Some tweeps were taking umbrage at Justice Democrats, so here’s the confession part of my post (there may be more, dunno yet): until I wiki’d last night, I didn’t know this was an actual thing. I told you I’ve been reading less news! Now, of course I’ve heard the term, duh, but I thought “justice” was simply an adjective, sometimes appended sarcastically, to certain young, progressive Dems, such as AOC, who attack established Dems instead of focusing on Republicans. How embarrassing. Not that I actually said anything to embarrass myself (until now), but just that I’ve been bopping along, thinking I know what’s happening, when I really don’t have a clue.

Some of you super savvy political types may not want to associate with me now, and I can understand that. It’d be like an alleged fan of romance novels fessing up that she never heard of The Flame and the Flower. (It wasn’t a rape scene! Go away.)

What else did I plan to babble about? Oh, my novel. So, I have 17 chapters written, all fabulous because I’m a massive egotist, and they take place in 1996. I only meant to give a small taste of what happened back then, and immediately swoosh back up to 2016, but so much is important, I’m discovering. I really want the reader to understand why my protag made a choice because it’s not something most people would agree with if simply told about. I want people to grok the intricate relationships between my chars, not just say welp they had a bond from 20 years ago, just accept that. Nope. Gotta show how it developed. Upshot is my novel is gonna be longer than I expected.

But the thing is, the supernatural element is only very mildly present in 1996, and idk if it’s cool to go 17 chapters without having it play much of a part (actually 18 because I’m not done yet), and then when we’re back to the future in 2016, it’s woowoo time. Maybe readers won’t accept this. Maybe I need to make 1996 more woowoo, to be consistent. Personally, I am not a big fan of inconsistency, unless it’s good. Bwah!

But I don’t want a bunch of ghosts in 1996, so whatever. It is what it is. I’ll just make it work! Speaking of fails… I see I have not managed to smush “quest” into this giant pile of [crap, garbage, trash], which makes me sad because I don’t like to do a prompt post unless I can use five prompts, with the exception of a poem or one of those story things. You might call this an endless quest for meaningless consistency.

Or you might not.

The Lonely Unicorn

I colored this in October, but it was too pale. After I began working on the monkey page again, I got sidetracked and decided to brighten up this one. I think I made his teeth pink, oopsy… too much cotton candy!

Prompt is from Linda and goes the whole month. Join in!