Category Archives: Misc

Let’s Eat Grandma!

Commas punctuation

Today Dr. Tanya asks how we feel about grammar mistakes in Blogland.

I’ve mentioned many times that I am highly intolerant of mistakes in published books, whether spelling, grammar, tense, name mixups, etc. These errors especially irk me in books that are put out by an actual publishing house. It’s hard to proof your own work because you tend to skim, but houses have editors. Allegedly. I am much more tolerant of mistakes on blogs and in social media generally.

Unlike some, I consider texts, blog comments, and chats on Facebook to be conversation, not professional communication. I’m fine with folks who eschew capital letters and/or punctuation as long as the meaning is clear. Personally, I don’t bother with much punctuation in comments and chats, though I try to write in standard English on my blog nowadays. You may have noticed that I gave up the lolcat a while back.

If you’re going to write a short story on your blog, however, my expectations for proper English go up, and I will enjoy your writing more if I’m not pausing at mistakes. But if you’re simply opining, then I don’t really care.

Unless you use an apostrophe-plural. Then all bet’s are off. See what I did there? Hideous!

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Image from SomeCards.

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TMP26: Tipping

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Welcome to my refreshed Monday Peeve! Unburden yourself of an annoyance and you’ll feel better afterward. Or not. Complain in my comments or crab in your own post. Doesn’t have to be on a Monday. You do you.

As I mentioned last week, I’m going to complain about tipping today. I hate our entire system of tipping ~ in fact, I just saw a waiter get murdered on the Sopranos over a tip, or lack thereof. (I’m rewatching all the Sopranos episodes in anticipation of The Many Saints of Newark movie, which is a prequel.) Anyway, to be clear, I always leave a good tip, 20% or more, for personal service or table service. I just figure it’s part of the cost because I don’t want to be that jerk who prevents someone from making a decent wage for the day. So why not just CHARGE THAT? I’m so tired of getting these bills with “suggested” tips (for people who can’t math). I like to round mine up from the 20%, which I can figure out MYSELF, thanks, to get to an even dollar amount because I’m OCD, but whatever. I just wish all this stuff would simply cost 20% more, the waiters would get paid appropriately, and it wouldn’t be my responsibility to tip them.

That’s part one of my annoyance with the whole thing. Part two is the nudge for tips for people who aren’t bringing anything to me. I’m talking about, for example, the person who rings up your order at a Starbucks. Why would I tip them? Do you tip the cashier at McDonald’s? How about the salesperson at Macy’s? The guy who works on your car? Where does this end? At the bagel place the other week, when I paid by credit card, there was a line for a tip and I left it blank. But I felt bad later and now don’t ever want to return, though I probably will, eventually. It’s so irritating!

GRRRR.

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Image altered from the original at Pixabay.

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Puzzles [socs]

Puzzle pueces

“When you complete a puzzle, you know that you have made all of the right choices.” ~ Robert, in the 2018 film Puzzle.

Maybe that why I like puzzles so much ~ life is so chaotic and complex that you never really know if you’ve made the right decisions. As I alluded to in my flash fiction piece earlier this week, it’s sometimes so difficult to make a choice that you wait until the choice is made for you. Maybe that is the right one; maybe not. How can you know unless you try them all, which you can’t. But in a puzzle, if you try the wrong piece, it won’t fit, and you keep trying different ones until you find the correct one. And so it goes, until the whole puzzle is finished. It’s just so satisfying to realize that you couldn’t have done it any other way.

Currently, I don’t do puzzles. Gatsby would grab the pieces and mess them up, plus I don’t have the room I used to. But it’s more than that. As I’ve aged, I find I have neither the patience nor the stamina for intricate tasks that go on a long time. Puzzles, needlework, cookie decorating. It all makes me too tired and my eyes get bleary. My daughter gave me some nice puzzles along with a mat (to roll up a puzzle in progress and keep the pieces safe from kitties when I’m not working on it), but I haven’t even opened any. The puzzles I do now aren’t of the jigsaw variety. I prefer quick word games.

But I look fondly back at my memories of doing huge jigsaw puzzles with my mom while we watched scary movies in our basement in Illinois. Good times.

I guess I have to amend my first sentence to “I used to like puzzles…”

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Image from Pixabay.

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This Too Shall Pass [SYW]

This too shall pass

Happy Monday, my friends! It’s cool here this morning, reminding me of fall and the passing of the seasons, even in Southern California. Melanie starts our week off right with Share Your World, but today I’m flipping her script and beginning at the end. She asks for our personal affirmation, and mine is in the lovely image above: this too shall pass. Whenever I have a bad day, or start down memory lane and get sad, I remind myself that nothing lasts. For me, that’s a good thing. Now onto the questions…

When it’s all said and done, will you have said more than you’ve done?

Absolutely! I’m all talk and no action, and that the way I like it.

What does the world need less of?

People. Pollution. Politics.

Do you feel older or younger than your age?

I feel 60, which I am. I definitely do not feel young, trapped in an old body. My body is achy and tired and likes to stay on the sofa. I don’t want to do the things I did 40 years ago. Some people my age are still running around dating and drinking and searching for excitement. Not me! I am very happy to be a sedate grandma, getting vicarious thrills from books and movies. Maybe that makes me sound older than my age? Fair enough.

What is a cause you’ll always passionately support?

I am passionately supportive of a woman’s right to choose to terminate a pregnancy for any reason in the first trimester (12 weeks). Please note both caveats. I am not on board with the lists of exceptional circumstances, as I don’t believe you need to justify your desire to end your pregnancy ~ in the first 12 weeks. After that, I think there has to be a serious reason, such as a danger to the mother’s physical health. So I am at odds with both polarized positions on this issue, which is fine with me because I dislike extreme stances.

I don’t want my comment section to turn into a flamewar, so if you disagree with me about abortion (from either side), go post about it on your own blog. Thanks for understanding!

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Image from Zazzle.

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TMP25: Cardigans

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Welcome to my refreshed Monday Peeve! Unburden yourself of an annoyance and you’ll feel better afterward. Or not. Complain in my comments or crab in your own post. Doesn’t have to be on a Monday. You do you.

Today I share a fashion peeve. I love sweaters and I especially love cardigans because they can be layered. Well, they HAVE to be layered if they don’t have buttons, amirite? I’ve may have complained about this before, but so what… since my refresh I’ve decided I can re-peeve old peeves since they aren’t on my site now (and don’t get me started about the creepy Wayback Machine). Anywho, buttons? What the hell ever happened to buttons? Is there a shortage? Did crows carry them all off to decorate their nests? WHAT??? Why are all the cardigans open-front? And those old-lady clippy things don’t work either ~ I bought three and they’re cute, but they’re only for show. They don’t keep the cardi closed. The sides flop around sloppily all day. So annoying.

Check back next Monday for more GRRRR. Until then, stay chill, my friends.

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Image altered from the original at Pixabay.

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Games People Play

Eye behind camera lens chess


Maggie @ From Cave Walls asks a Throwback Thursday question about games. As my readers may know, I love games. I have a whole game-themed CD I made too!

1. What games do you and your family play?

My daughters and I enjoy Settlers of Catan, Ticket to Ride, Lanterns, Carcassonne, etc. My friends and I play a lot of Codenames, Dixit, and Taboo.

2. Do you play games on your cell phone while waiting for the doctor?

Of course! And any other time I need a quick break. I have Cat Lady, TTR, and Scrabble (not WWF, ick). Sometimes I enjoy solitaire card games and logic puzzles (on paper) too.

3. Are you a good sport or a sore loser?

A good sport. (Curious if anyone will admit to being a sore loser.)

4. Do board games drive you crazy or do you have stacks of them on your shelves?

I have some but not that many, maybe a dozen or so.

5. What game piece do you choose in Monopoly?

Cat!

6. Are bridge, canasta, or rummy in your repertoire?

Nope.

7. What games do you despise?

I can’t stand dumb party games like Apples to Apples or Bunco. I don’t enjoy playing games with people who are insanely competitive ~ this is supposed to be fun. Lately, I’m not fond of anything timed. It’s too stressful.

8. Is there a unique game you or your family played that others may have never experienced? Come on, roll the dice and spill the beans.

We played standard games. I love Chinese Checkers, but most people don’t. My mom and I would use the whole board, 3 triangles each, and I got my daughter into it, but most folks find it boring. It can go on for a while…

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Image from Pixabay.

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TMP24: “Personalization”

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Welcome to my refreshed Monday Peeve! Unburden yourself of an annoyance and you’ll feel better afterward. Or not. Complain in my comments or crab in your own post. Doesn’t have to be on a Monday. You do you.

This week my annoyance is about the alleged “personalization” you can do on various sites. I put it in scare quotes because it’s mostly BS. Take Edge for example, which I had as the default browser on my laptop. Every time I opened a new tab, their newsfeed would populate. I kept TRYING to “personalize” it by telling it my interests and blocking certain sites, but that was useless. They ignore my prefs and blast what they want. Yesterday (Friday) was the last straw when a stupid article from Fox News popped up. That is always the first thing I block! Eff it, I said, and switched to Chrome. Edge had its chance (too much of a chance really), and now I’m done. The Bing search engine sucked too, honestly. It never put the Wiki articles first like Google does, and as you know I’m a huge fan of Wikipedia since I’m mostly looking for music/movie info and not pristine historical facts, as if there are any, lol. Also, you know what I get when I open a new tab in Chrome? NOTHING. It’s a blank page. That’s exactly what I want to see, not someone else’s idea of “news.”

Don’t even get me started about trying to customize things in WP. I have a paid plan and still can’t do much in the way of getting things how I want. Forex, why can’t we completely eliminate the reblog/share button? I don’t want ANY OF MY POSTS reblogged, shared, saved, archived, screenshotted whatever, even with a link back. (Not talking about my bloggity friends who copy stuff for a prompt.) I’ve peeved about this before. My writing is mine to do with as I will. But you can’t get rid of the damn button in the newsfeed, which makes me so mad. Yes, I know it wouldn’t stop the creepy Wayback Machine, but it would stop other randos from sharing my stuff.

Welp, at least I now have a new tab function that isn’t annoying me to bits. That’s something.

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Image altered from the original at Pixabay.

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Pinwheels [socs]

dad

My dad loved pinwheels. These were chocolate marshmallow cookies made by Nabisco ~ big, melty, gooey blobs, shaped like a spiral with a flat base. Mallomars (also Nabisco) were the same except they were just circles. Actually, I’m not sure if Mallomars had any cookie in them, so maybe that’s why Dad liked pinwheels best. He also loved sugar wafers, another Nabisco product, which are at the opposite end of the cookie spectrum, all plain and bland. Ugh, and Fig Newtons. Yep, Dad loved these too. I much preferred Oreos, Lorna Doones, and Nutter Butters. My dad wasn’t a huge peanut butter fan. I adore it.

You know, I didn’t realize until writing this that my father and I had vastly different taste in cookies. We both loved chocolate chip, of course, but who doesn’t? Psychos, probably. And those striped fudgey cookies are pretty nom, though I couldn’t eat them for years because I had a bunch one night when I was 14 before coming down with strep the next day. I barfed like 27 times and ended up in the hospital because I was so ill. It wasn’t the poor stripey cookies’ fault, but my mind associated them with the sickies. Not anymore though… bring ‘em on!

My favorite cookies are Pepperidge Farm, though they discontinued my ultimate favorite, which was a coffee/mocha concoction called Vienna (“Oh, Vienna,” good song). I don’t think anyone liked them but me. I also love PF’s Chessmen and Sausalito cookies. Everyone loves Milanos, but I would rather have Pirouettes! So good with vanilla ice cream or with a cuppa tea. I just read that PF is owned by Campbell’s Soup, and it’s on the internet so it must be true.

But back to Dad. We both loved brownies and bread pudding, rum raisin ice cream and caramel popcorn with peanuts, in those giant sticky globs. Fiddle Faddle? Crunch & Munch? One of those. I miss him and our great conversations.

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Photo of Dad and Diane is mine.

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TMP23: Dumpster Divers

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Welcome to my refreshed Monday Peeve! Unburden yourself of an annoyance and you’ll feel better afterward. Or not. Complain in my comments or crab in your own post. Doesn’t have to be on a Monday. You do you.

OK, so dumpster divers. Yes, we can all feel sorry for them, but I am so annoyed at the ones who come to my condo complex. They are complete slobs and fling trash everywhere while they’re looking for whatever it is they search for. One day I took some paper towels outside and picked up the garbage on the grass, but now there’s more and just ugh. I guess that isn’t the job of gardeners/maintenance peeps, so it just sits there and rots, possibly attracting rats. The actual garbagemen only pick up the bin to dump in their truck; they don’t tidy things up ~ nor do I expect them to. The fact that there’s a sign on the door to the bins saying NO SCAVENGING (with the relevant police code) does nothing to deter the divers, nor is there any point to calling the police, since they probably have more important things to do. And god forbid I should be a “Karen” over some poor dude just looking for cans to recycle for a buck. But if I thought it would have any lasting beneficial effect, I would totally go Karen on them! Perhaps it’s time to put locks on the doors so only residents can enter the bin area. Not sure how that would work for the garbage pickups though. I’m just so tired of litter and sloppiness. People have no respect for the property of others nor for the earth itself. It’s just more of the same selfish, inconsiderate behavior we see in other peeves.

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Here’s The Thing… [repost]

Cat upside down head

I get bored easily. And while I would say my bar for suspension of disbelief is relatively generous, it definitely exists, and once it snaps, we’re done. Last night, I finished S5 of Monk and then watched the final two eps of S8. I just couldn’t take any more of the preposterous plots. (Not that the finale itself wasn’t beyond absurd.)

While I liked the Natalie assistant more than the Sharona assistant, I think the shows were better with Sharona. Idk if this was due to the acting talents of Bitty Schram or the fact that the writing was fresher overall, but regardless that’s my opinion. Sharona sometimes annoyed me, it’s true, and Natalie didn’t, but maybe that’s simply because Natalie was so much blander. I also thought the Captain’s divorce was a cheap writing device. Like damn we’re running out of ideas… we gotta get someone pregnant or divorced. Sorry Leland, your wife’s gotta go. They didn’t even bother coming up with a reason! The reason was he “didn’t know why” she was filing. Dumb.

I’m sad though, since I love Monk, the protag, and I thought the first two seasons were fab. He deserved every episode to be great, not stupid like getting amnesia (another cheap device) and ending up in Wyoming or that absolutely idiotic one with the shock jock and the dog. Omg and that ridiculous thing with the excon befriending him just to steal a postcard out of his mail. That may have been the worst.

I’ll miss my brief fling with this show. While I’m nowhere near the Monk level of OCD, I found much to relate to and smile about.

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Image is mine.

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