Better Left Unsaid

Quiet secret shush

Jim continues his Wednesday Thoughts series this week with the theme of “better left unsaid.” My first thought is why the eff didn’t my app reader pick up this post? (I saw it only because Sadje responded.) Is it better to quit complaining about every little WordPress glitch, or note them all in public as I’ve been doing? Generally, I enjoy my experience here very much, but I definitely don’t want to give the impression that it’s perfect, since there are constant screwups on their end.

Mostly, I don’t complain. This may be hard to believe, since I host the Monday Peeve, but, trust me, I could peeve all day every day and never run out. I think it’s better most of the time to simply suck it up and move on ~ if you focus on everything that’s wrong, then you’ll be mired in a depressive muck all day. Every day some driver does something idiotic/dangerous during my commute, but I try to let it go and not get enraged. And OK, sometimes that driver is me. Unlike most people, I don’t claim to be a perfect driver. Here’s a question: if everyone is as great behind the wheel as they claim, then why are there so many accidents?

Shrug

That was rhetorical.

What about romantic relationships? I never managed to negotiate the path between trivial nagging and speaking up about truly important things. My parents griped about every dumb thing (though, for the record, they were somewhat happily married for 50 years), and I didn’t want to engage in similar constant bickering. I usually opted for saying nothing, but eventually I’d explode, and the other person had no clue there was an issue. That’s not a good path either, obviously.

Luckily, I no longer have to worry about romance. With regular friendships, I just take a break from certain people when they annoy me, and then I reengage later when I’m over it. The great thing about this is they never even notice! No muss, no fuss.

Clean up

Outside of romance, my philosophy is that if there is any doubt about speaking up, then don’t. You can always say the thing later, but you can’t take it back once it’s out there. My belief is that most complaints are better left unsaid.

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6 responses to “Better Left Unsaid

  1. I have made some serious mistakes on the road, where I was lucky to have not caused accidents. I switched lanes on the highway while this other car was in my blind spot, and I felt so stupid when he beeped at me because I knew it was my fault. The thing about mistakes is that you can learn from them and then there is that no harm, no foul philosophy that I like to embrace.

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  2. OMW Paula I can’t stop laughing. No offense but it just reminded me of the movie Top secret “some things are better left unsaid like when you have to blow your nose and you stick the tissue back in your purse and then later you have to reach in for your lipstick …” Thanks I needed that 💐

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  3. Naggy, bitchy complaints, I agree with you. However… like you wrote, if you never say anything, then the other person will keep doing the annoying thing and be clueless that it annoys you.
    There’s my 5 cents worth… inflation😉😂😂😂

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