Today, Fandango provocatively asks…
What do you do to reduce or relieve stress in your life?
I know what “they” say to reduce stress and it’s some bs about eating vegetables and exercising. While I don’t mind veggies, they do nothing to reduce my stress. Exercise increases it because I often get a headache or increased back pain whenever I attempt something physical.
So forget that health crap. When I feel bad, I like to have something sweet and comforting like a delicious cupcake and a cup of tea. This magical combo of sugar/fat and warmth is an immediate mood-lifter. If I’m at home, snuggling with my kitty helps too ~ he’s such a sweetheart! It is also a good idea for me to immerse myself in a silly romance novel or romcom to mentally escape from whatever issue is bothering me. Later, when I’m less shaky, I will emotionally regroup to tackle it.
When I am actually at the point of facing the stressful thing, it helps me immensely to make a list of steps to take to deal with the issue. Depending on the stressor, the list may be written (screen or paper) or simply spoken aloud, if short. Having the list makes me feel more in control of the situation.
What isn’t super helpful is talking about the problem, however much “conventional wisdom” favors this approach. There are exceptions of course, such as the time I was being scammed, told my boss, and he made it go away. I sometimes confide in my girls, but I’d rather hear about their lives than burden them with my obsessive thoughts.
Because the truth is, most of the time, whatever is stressing me out is a big fat nothingburger. I often worry over things that haven’t happened or people whom I imagine are mad at me. In reality, things proceed as they always have and other people are not thinking about me at all.
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