Happy Thanksgiving!

Bitmoji Thanksgiving pie

My smile for this week is that after being super extra careful all month, I drove alone 7 hours Tuesday to spend Thanksgiving with my daughter and her husband. It’s just the 3 of us (plus pets) and I’m having a great time. Last year, I flew up here and we spent the day with lots of other people, which was wonderful ~ nevertheless, I am so grateful I get to be with some family. (I will see my other daughter mid-December.)

Bitmoji grateful

Four years ago, my Thanksgiving week was depressing because I had just been dumped by a man I’d been dating. We’d planned to spend the day together (and do fun stuff the whole weekend)… then poof it was over. My younger daughter saved me from being totally alone by changing her plans and having a festive meal with me. We picked up a magnificent veggie feast from Native Foods. I was so thankful not to have to be alone when I felt so down. I haven’t dated anyone since then, and that seems to be the best way for me because I’m a total idiot at choosing which men to date.

I’m only human though, and I still sometimes think… what if? But unlike 10 years ago when I was newly single, I can answer that question by recalling my bad experiences since. I learned a lot from these episodes and there’s no reason to believe that a new foray into the field would have different results. This year especially has reminded me that I’m not only fine on my own, but I actually do better when not obsessing over what some random man thinks. I know other women date without getting so emotionally wrought up… but I’m not them. I tend to go to extremes…

Bitmoji shrug

I used to believe that the only good path was to have a partner to plan the future with, but life has a way of wrecking our plans and expectations (see year 2020). While I may not be totally footloose due to physical and financial limitations, I find it freeing that my future will be for me to choose, whenever and however I decide to make changes. For example, I don’t know exactly what I want to do or where I want to live post-retirement, but I get to decide that without having to consider what someone else wants.

Onto a more important topic: what will we be eating today? Welp, it’s not going to be the usual turkey and gravy feast, since there are only 3 of us here and 2 don’t like turkey. We are basically having sides, including baked sweet potatoes, mushroom stuffing, pasta, etc. We’ve already dived into the pie, and though there’s a bunch left (huge Costco pie), I’m thinking we might bake some cookies…

Have a sweet day, my peeps, however you’re celebrating or even if you aren’t. While I understand the historical reasons some may not think of today as something to be happy about, it can be soothing to take the time to be thankful for the good in our lives.

~*~

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37 responses to “Happy Thanksgiving!

  1. Happy thanksgiving Paula. Hope you have a wonderful day

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  2. I’m so glad you’re able to do Thanksgiving with family in spite of all the COVID insanity!

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  3. Happy Thanksgiving!

    Sorry you had a torrid time with men. ON the plus side be thankful for the dates you had. I’ve never had a single blooming one!

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  4. Have a happy day and enjoy your family

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  5. Happy Thanksgiving Paula 💖

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  6. Glad you are able to spend Thanksgiving with your daughter. This is a an awful year for this holiday. I can’t eat turkey, so always chose something different…

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  7. My erstwhile companion (but still best friend) clarified for me that when I take the long view on my relationships — ALL of therm — I can see a pattern, and that if I keep repeating the pattern I am basically refusing to take the lesson. We do this because to really learn means to change, and change is uncomfortable, and so we go with the familiar, however new it looks.

    My high school girlfriend, my wife, and that blonde artist whom you met years ago when we were just starting out, they were all completely different people, but the essential core of each relationship was the same. It’ll be hard to avoid that henceforth but at least I know to look out for it. Of course, I’m grateful for all the memories.

    I’ve lived alone in a house for the first time in my whole life for about three weeks now, and I totally get what you mean about being able to go your own way. I’m already doing things MY way meaning I’m doing things I’ve never done so well. It’s great.

    This Thxgvg I’m spending just with my mom, who at 93 had never ordered a prepared meal from a grocery store before so we’re trying that. It’s just the two of us. Last night we had a zoom with the wider family, including cousins and children and fiances and girlfriends, and it was great, but today it’s just the two of us. Then tomorrow I will drive up to Mt Shasta (abt 3 1/2 hours) to be with the erstwhile companion (and still best friend) mentioned above. Happy day to you and alla yours!

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  8. Have a grand day Paula! That ‘anniversary’ must be dismal to remember, but thankfully you didn’t end up with a total loser who would have possibly made future Thanksgivings even worse! Pie heals a lot of ailments, just sayin!

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  9. Have a very Happy Thanksgiving, Paula!

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  10. Same to you! Re the graphic demonstrating the ratio of whipped cream to pumpkin pie—a little more whipped cream and you just about got it. Re the 7 hour drive, I forgot how “long” California is. Drive that far around here and you’ve crossed at least a couple of states. At no point can you see whales, though, sad to say.

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  11. I can feel you bubbling and happy through the words of this post, and that makes me happy! Enjoy your food and your hugs and I agree with you about being thankful.
    I hope the drive home is easy and stress free. Be careful, we’ve got a Santa Ana starting tonight and going through the weekend.🤗🥰🍂🍁🦃💕

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  12. Happy Thanksgiving 😊

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  13. Wishing you and your family a Happy Thanksgiving. The best part is being together this year. 🙂

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  14. Hope you had a wonderful day Paula. Thanks for joining in 🙂

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  15. Hope you had a good one. The Beneficiary and I hung out, ate, texted and zoomed kids, etc., and wrapped it up by taking a full meal to my parents (combined age well over 180) and slipping it through the airlock at their front door (they’re a bit skittish about Covid). A relaxing day, which by my standards makes it a good one.

    And I also wish the best to anyone whose “historical perspective” keeps them from just enjoying a day off with family and food. Blessings on them as they whine, wear sack-cloth, and eat hard-tack softened with gritty creek water in solidarity with whichever long-dead totems they dredge up. If that kind of self-righteous virtue-signalling is what makes them happy, I’m good with it, After all, who am I to argue over whatever weeping public cross-bearing tickles their nether-regions and convinces them that their ridiculous lives have been sufficiently flagellated and mortified to be thankful for?

    ‘Tis the season, after all.

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  16. Excellent post Paula 🙂

    It is still Thanksgiving for you l think 10.15pm? However here l am wishing you a jolly good Friday morning from a very wet Kent and dedicating a Star to you alongside some music l think you’ll enjoy 🙂

    https://aguycalledbloke.blog/2020/11/27/the-hello-321/

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  17. The best part about Thanksgiving dinner are the sides – and the pumpkin pie! The very best part was that you got to be with some family this year, in spite of crazy viruseses.

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  18. Paula 🙂

    I am sending you an email, bit later than planned, but will explain all soon enough if you could have a look see and tell me if it reads alright as l don’t often write these, that would be great 🙂

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  19. Happy Thanksgiving to you and your loved ones.

    “Give thanks not just on Thanksgiving Day, but every day of your life. Appreciate and never take for granted all that you have.” — Catherine Pulsifer

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