My Favorite Mistake

Blogging insights tanya

Dr. Tanya continues her blogging about bloggers’ blogs blog bloggery by asking what we did wrong way back when. My wayback is probably older than most, since I began all this in 2003, with a blog on blogspot named “Ultrablog ~ Purple prose from Orange County… it’s ULTRAVIOLET!” That was my Usenet nickname and a group of us were fond of trying new fads. I took to blogging right away and even purchased a template to match my purple theme. Loads of my fellow Usenetters have disappeared from Blogland and simply hang out on Facebook now. But I like blogging best of all social media. ๐Ÿ˜

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My posts back then were about me and my opinions. I didn’t post much or any fiction/poetry; instead I blabbed on about my takes on the news or annoying incidents and just whatever. I did jabber way more about my kids, people I knew, and even work a little. I hate to say this, but because I was married to a lawyer, I felt safe in doing as I pleased. I had no fear of writing absolutely horrible stuff to other Usenetters while engaging in “combat prose” (it was mutual) and adding my bit of badness to the atmosphere of awfulness that has become exponentially worse as time goes on. My Usenet attitude/persona carried over into my blogging. ๐Ÿ˜Ž

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Most of my posts were short then, except a few frothy rants, and I generally flung some nonsense out 2-3 times per day. I received tons of comments and views because I had linked up with other bloggers who wanted to increase their stats, and we all visited each other’s posts constantly. I got totally caught up in the stats obsession and felt bummed out when my views sunk below 300/day or a post failed to get comments in the double digits. I participated in blog arguments and deliberately took on controversial views, all in order to get more “hits.” Finally, I ended up in a nasty flamewar (over pit bulls, lol), flamers began impersonating each other, my comment section got wrecked, and I quit. ๐Ÿ˜ก

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My mistakes were obvious: worrying about stats, deliberately fanning flames, jumping into arguments at other blogs, and revealing too much about my life, including photos. I consoled myself that I did less of all this than the super-popular mommy bloggers, but even so. Ick! ๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ™๐Ÿ˜ข

I missed blogging though. I began a few new boring ones, a couple private ones, and this one… which ended up as my favorite. The others are all gone with some archived in my own files. When I started on WordPress, I was determined not to care about stats, not to post about politics, and not to get involved in arguments. If anyone starts crap here, I ban them. I did make some new mistakes though ~ when I was dating (๐Ÿคฎ), I would post about some of the things that upset me or that I found funny. Then, when I met someone I actually liked (rare), I’d frantically delete all the dating posts before they could read them. Rinse, repeat.

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I haven’t deleted a post here in a long time. I doubt I would even if I met someone I liked romantically. They’d just have to deal with who I really am, and vice versa. ๐Ÿคช Not that I can imagine this happening imminently or even ever! ๐Ÿคฃ Anyway, I still enjoy blogging a lot, love the feedback on my writing, and have no plans to quit, despite the periodic glitches we have to deal with. Personally, I find the block editor a lot less annoying than that jerk who was copying our content a while ago. There will always be something…

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32 responses to “My Favorite Mistake

  1. I certainly agree with that last bit, people need to take us as they find us. Fortunately, my wife has no interest in what I blog, I’m sure if she did she would find things she disapproved of. I have to protect her anonymity but beyond that, these are *my* thoughts, not her’s.

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  2. All of the stats and flaming sounds like it would have been exhausting!

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  3. I bet those deleted posts are great too! Ah, ๐ŸŽถthe things we do for love… like walking in the rain and snow, deleting posts๐ŸŽถ๐Ÿคฃ๐Ÿคฃ๐Ÿคฃ

    I have never had a rude comment or even a slightly negative one. I must be putting people to๐Ÿ˜ด๐Ÿ˜ด. ๐Ÿ˜‚

    If I wanna get in an argument, there’s always the birdy site. I haven’t been there in forever.๐Ÿคท๐Ÿผโ€โ™€๏ธ

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  4. Yes, agree! As you know, my name is on my blog, but that’s because I am trying to be a published author. I never use the names of my kids or husband though, to protect them somewhat. Hubster follows my blog via email, so I rarely rant too much when he annoys me (he’s pretty decent though ๐Ÿ™‚ ) I do care about stats though, but only to the point that I want more followers and comments, etc. However, it’s a give and take kind of situation, and I don’t really have the time to devote to reading and commenting on *every* followers’ posts. Good, thought-provoking post today, thanks!

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  5. So far I’ve only had one person say something nasty to me and he quit following me so I didn’t have to ban him. So, I agree with you I think its the best social platform. When I started this I would talk about retirement or real estate, and instead i turned to taking pictures. So in hindsight I should have named it something different. Have a good day ๐Ÿ™‚

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  6. Youโ€™ve lived adventurously. I really like your blog with the right mix of all things good.

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  7. You are a blogging guru now!!! Thanks for being so honest about your blogging bloopers.
    I think you are very balanced in the way you think about blogging and how you go about it. You have a great variety of posts/subjects, which means I always look forward to what your posts contain. โค

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  8. I started my first blog about 2 years after you started your first one. Like yours, mine was mostly my observations and perspectives on society, politics, religion, and sports. No flash fiction back in the early days and I donโ€™t think any other bloggers were posting prompts to inspire other bloggers. My wife was never into my blog, thinking it was a waste of time (and she pretty much feels the same way about my blog today). Anyway, your evolution as a blogger was very interesting. Iโ€™m glad you stuck it out.

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  9. I should have given up blogging a long time ago. It’s hot and cold. But I like writing, in general, too much to give it up. Writing a novel seems to be too difficult, whether it’s from the lack of an audience or what. I have been struggling to make my “real” writing have more of my “blogging voice” but it’s tricky.
    And I think the isolation and surreal nature of the Corona virus has all perspective skewed.

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  10. My first one must have been started about the same time. My biggest mistake was getting all pissed about a mutual friend / unfriend scumbag, deciding I was done and deleting the blog. When I came back a week or two later, someone had taken over the URL to use for bot practice, and it’s been out there all dormant ever since. So I started a new one. That and all blogs since still exist, and most (not all) are linked to from my current blog. But I regret letting that first one go. There was some good shit on there. And it was fun, seeing pictures of our fellow combateers from the usenet for the first time.

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  11. I’m trying to remember when I started blogging. It was nearly 20 years, like for you. Have had the darned thing since, first on Blogger, then moved around with various ISPs and now it’s running on WordPress. I don’t write often, but I don’t have the heart to get rid of it. Can’t do articles with links and photos on Facebook anyway. But I do miss Usenet and the crazy (and friendships!) that could happen there. Usenet is why I am here commenting. ๐Ÿ˜€

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