Four for Pondering

Four aces

Rory has some great questions for us today as he continues his Friday Four prompt…

**What is more important to you – to be ‘Liked’ or to be Respected?’** What do you believe to be the difference between admiration and respect or do you find them to be the same?** Likability and friendship are two different things. Being likable to many is great, but being a great friend to a few (or one) is rare – what do you think to that statement – true or false, agree or disagree? How uniquely YOU are you in a world filled with variations of you anyway – what seperates YOU from the rest of the world and makes you Youniquely You??

1. Is it more important to me to be liked or respected? I know most people are going to say “respected” with some sort of comment about how they’re true to their values and would rather be respected for that than liked for smiling and going along. Well, I’m not most people. I would rather be liked as a helpful friend who is nice and funny and caring. I know for a fact there are people who see me this way but disrespect my values and political positions. I’m fine with that and I see no need to argue with them about issues none of us will budge on. This is why I don’t blather (much) about politics online. Not putting down those who do, but I’d rather keep my interactions positive.

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2. Do I differentiate between admiration and respect? Yes, but it only works one way. What I mean is that if I respect someone, I can easily find something to admire about them, even something small. However, I can admire someone’s success without having respect for them as a person. Many celebs are in this category for me.

3. “Likability and friendship are two different things. Being likable to many is great, but being a great friend to a few (or one) is rare – what do you think to that statement – true or false, agree or disagree?” I obviously agree with this because I wrote it! Thanks, Rory, for including my thoughts. I know people who are liked by many ~ it seems important to them to collect as many “friends” as possible ~ but in my experience they are too busy spreading themselves around to have enough time and energy to focus on one true friendship. On the other hand, I know people who aren’t popular, but they will be there 100% for a few.

4. What makes me unique? Nothing! I don’t consider myself anything special, which is not meant to be a negative (see my remark about celebs). There’s nothing wrong with living a quiet, ordinary life and finding joy in small things.

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10 responses to “Four for Pondering

  1. Very well answered Paula.

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  2. I believe you *are* unique. Out of all the thousands of blogs out there, yours is the only one I read every day. You have a real talent.

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  3. I’m not special either, just really tall and really silly. 😂💕

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  4. Top notch answers Paula – totally agree with you on number 1 – totally, personally, l would prefer to have a healthy balance of the two – BUT to be liked is actually more important, respect or even admiration can follow if needs be – but before a person comes to respect you , l feel they need to like something about you if not just you for being you. I do agree with both Ashley and angie’s statements about respecting people as people, therefore being polite and courteous because this doesn’t cost anything and yet rewards the greatest rewards of all.

    This ………….. [and l quote you directly again] “What makes me unique? Nothing! I don’t consider myself anything special, which is not meant to be a negative (see my remark about celebs). There’s nothing wrong with living a quiet, ordinary life and finding joy in small things” Also spot on – everyone seeks to be different failing to see that they are already different , different to the next person, because those aware of what they want from this world of ours are already leaps and bounds ahead of those who seemingly think they need to be more than they already are.

    Thank you Paula, for playing todays FF 🙂

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