
Do you judge yourself by the same standards that you judge others? If not, are you harsher or more lenient on yourself?
My tendency is to be pretty harsh overall, both on myself and others, and I have an ongoing project to be kinder to both. What happens though is that while I may begin with the same standards for myself and others, it’s easier for me to give others a break. I can see why they made poor choices, while it’s really REALLY hard for me to forgive myself for mine. I get so angry when I make typos or forget a word, but I’m okay if others do these things (somewhat). I work to this day to quit beating myself up for my misplaced trust in people and failing to meet the “right” man on a dating site. I’m still mad at myself for not going to a better university when I had the chance (twice!). I wish I were a more talented writer, or that I could be good at something artistic. I feel so… ordinary, but I think it’s fine for others to be ordinary. Maybe that means I’m very egotistical ~ who am I to think I should have a special talent?! I’ll just muddle through life like 99.9% of the rest of people and leave nothing interesting behind. Not that my children aren’t interesting! But you know… they aren’t ME. What have I done? Meh, nothing…
Thanks for this question, Fandango. Now I feel even worse!😜🙃🤣
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I agree with you that it is easier to pick out your own shortcomings, than to see them in others. You know how to explain things really well and that should count for something.
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Thanks! 🥰
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Well, I certainly understand what you’re saying about self-critiquing, but if it helps, I think you are a very talented writer. I’m not sure what I’m trying to get out of writing, in my case, though I expect ego has at least something to do with it. Who knows. Why does anybody do anything?
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Thanks! I have always enjoyed your Busy Bee fiction as well as your regular posts. I guess I was hoping to be discovered by a traditional publisher and actually make money from writing…
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Well, thanks. I guess the only thing to do is to keep plugging along!
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You’re too hard on yourself.
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Maybe so…
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I actually use that “shaming myself” thing when I notice I’m setting unrealistic expectations for myself again. I’m very forgiving of others, but constantly reminding myself to treat myself the way I would a friend.
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Good way to remember it 🥰
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Go easy on yourself, Paula. ❤️
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Thank you ❤️
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Sorry to have made you feel worse. My advice is to not be so hard on yourself. You are a good writer and you have an interesting mind. You kids love you and so do we, your followers.
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And we all make typos, like “You kids love you.” I meant *Your* kids. Damn, now I hate myself for not catching that typo until it was too late!
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Thank you! 😍🥰😘
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