The Monday Peeve 18

Monday Peeve kitty

Smiles and positive posts are all well and good, but sometimes I need to vent a bit. How about you? That’s what The Monday Peeve is all about, a chance to blow off a little steam at the beginning of the week, so then we can go merrily on our way once again (hah). I’ll pick a topic that’s on my mind, but you can vent about whatever you please, here in comments or on your own blog. Grab the photo, use the #TMP tag, and link back to me (or not ~ I dgaf), and Bob’s yer uncle. I do reserve the right to delete any links that offend my delicate sensibilities. So far, none have, but it could happen! I have feelings!


I need to give a shout-out to Melanie (Sparks from a combustible mind) for inspiring this peeve. One of her posts reminded me that I had this topic on my mental peeve list, but so many new annoying things happened that I forgot about it. Well, before that happens again, here it is!

There’s this trend that I hate (one of) where a woman of 40+ poses nude or in a skimpy bikini and people fall all over themselves to exclaim how she “doesn’t look her age.” But let me say that I am not opposed to people posing nude if that makes them happy bla bla. That’s not the issue here.

My issue is this constant drumbeat of how if any woman over 40 (or 50, etc.) looks good, then she “doesn’t look her age.” Wtf? Maybe over 40 is an attractive age to be! Perhaps over 50 is as well! Why is ayyyy congrats you don’t look older than dirt a compliment? Eff off! Who the hell decided that only 23 year olds can look good, so if anyone older does, she must be some kind of freak of nature? Oh right. Men decided that! 🙄

Another issue is when you get someone who is clearly surgically altered and/or enhanced, not to mention richer than God, posing very very carefully on her yacht or whatever. This is the one percent of the one percent… not something any normal woman could aspire to, and it isn’t even how the celeb looks anyway. It’s all fake! So, why even comment on how great she looks “for her age” (or any age) or ogle her as if any normal man would even be able to get through security to say hello to her? It’s all so stupid!

Stop fawning over celebrities. It’s gross.


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34 responses to “The Monday Peeve 18

  1. I’d like to see (hear, actually) people thinking harder about the literal meaning of the idiomatic expressions that constantly fall out of their mouths. It’s something I’ve been working on, myself. Recently a commenter below some news article I was reading started flaming this poor other commenter because of his use of the phrase, to be honest, which he led with in his comment, as if he was implying that other commenters were not being honest. Oh please. OK, it does sound a little pompous in certain contexts.
    But . . . I see what you’re saying. I’m of an age where we vary quite a bit in how we look (rather than all look identical like Millennials,) so it comes up often. When I think about it, it almost seems like it’s something one should just leave alone–I might look young because I take care of myself, or maybe because I did well in the genetic lottery, or I might look old because I smoke two packs a day and eat red meat, or maybe because I’m chronically ill.

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  2. No matter what their age, as long as they are old enough, any woman that is naked looks good to me, well almost any woman.

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  3. Oooooo, good one!!👏 I dont think I’ve ever seen the same kindo of comments about a man.

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    • Right? The only one I can think of is Sam Elliott, who people say “doesn’t age.” All other male celebs get the “distinguished” type of compliments as they age or just compliments with no strings attached. They also get criticized for getting fat. God forbid a celeb have a normal metabolism!

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  4. You know what regular folks need more of? Pictures of regular folks. Let’s see boobs sag, stretchmarks, buddha bellies, lopsided nipples, short legs, acne scars, etc. Younger people are so embarrassed about their body and one reason, I believe, is because we aren’t exposed to the incredibly wide range of normal bodies. We see only the airbrushed perfections.

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  5. Yup! Well said Paula. We have taken this age thing to weird levels.

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  6. “congrats you don’t look older than dirt a compliment” I about choked laughing at this! Love it so much, thanks for making my day.

    Sent from my iPad


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  8. *clappy hands* (oh and thanks for the nod). I’m glad someone else finds that whole “youth is the be all and end all” phenomenon distasteful. Now I’m off to write a short peeve of some ilk….thanks Paula! 😀

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  10. Damn Straight! You go, girlfriend!! 🤗

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  11. Wow l never knew there were lopsided nipples!!

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  12. Oh I so get this!

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  14. Wow! something to be peeved at for sure! I’m gonna participate finally! Lol 😛

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  16. I definitely agree with you on that.
    I’d also like to add the fact that it irks me how confirmation-hungry as a society we have become. Why does anyone feel the need to post such pictures? It’s to promote themselves (for whatever reason) and/or to receive words of support. There are so many more important things we could be doing with our lives…


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