FPQ20: The Hardship Lollipop

Fandango provocatively asks…

“Does hardship really make a person stronger? If you think so, under what conditions and at what point is it too much hardship? If you don’t buy that hardship makes a person stronger, what do you think does make a person stronger?”

Welp, I can only speak for myself… and the answer is… it depends!

Let’s take physical hardship, as it pertains to me. I am in chronic pain and have been for years. Does it make me stronger? Hell no. It sucks. I used to belong to a gym. I used to take 5 mile walks. Now, I can barely drag myself out of bed. I keep saying I’ll feel better if I get some exercise, but it’s so impossible to do anything when I’m at this level of pain, which I am all day every day.

On the otter hand, financial hardship was good for me. No really. I was spoiled by my parents and segued right into being the kind of wife whose husband took care of the money. I was told how much I could spend and had no idea what was going on. When it all came crashing down, I had to learn how to take care of myself and my children later in life. It was a good lesson and made me a better person in all kinds of ways.

As usual, these answers depend on the person and the circumstances. 🙂

21 responses to “FPQ20: The Hardship Lollipop

  1. Absolutely spot on. It all depends on the person and their station in life at that point.

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  2. Hélène - Willow Poetry

    That is painful Paula. Learning in the process has been good though.

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  3. I’m truly sorry that you’re in a state of constant pain. I can only imagine what that must be like.

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  4. I’m so sorry to hear you are a fellow chronic pain sufferer–it does get old, doesn’t it… 😦

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  5. I have had physical issues and major surgeries. I survived but I do have scar tissue. Is that what the getting stronger part really is? Scar tissue? Maybe it is. Anyway carry on carrying on!

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  6. Brilliant response…It all depends on the circumstances.

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  7. I typed out a reply which of course helped sort my thoughts. Strength doesn’t matter if there’s nothing to build it with or support it with. I would not have survived childhood without the love and good advice of others. I can’t say I’m strong or resilient or a self-starter or independent. I like to avoid pain and that has motivated me to listen to those who know how to do that and follow their advice. That made me happier. Happier made me stronger. Go figure.

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