A Bash

Big bashes aren’t my thing. I’m not bashing bashes ~ in fact, decades back, I had fun at big, loud parties. But as my migraines have become more easily triggered, it’s just not that much fun for me to be in huge crowds. I prefer smaller groups where you can have a meaningful conversation or play a game.

Sometimes people act like this preference is a personality flaw, a thing I should feel abashed about, but why should I get over it? It’s simply a preference. I don’t ask them to quit liking huge, noisy venues; I simply decline the invitation to attend.

I’ve noticed this comes up a lot, that things about me are deemed inferior traits. Maybe that happens to everyone, not just me. I understand it’s how they get you to click on articles and then be subjected to ads. Just this morning (yesterday now, since I’m going to schedule this for Saturday), I read an essay saying that people with the Myers-Briggs type that end in “J” have the most trouble dating. I’m an INFJ.

The article didn’t give us tips on how to deal with being a J. Nope. It said we should work on being not-J. The main trait of the J aspect is a dislike of uncertainty. We are list people. We want plans, and we like things to be settled. What’s wrong with that? Why can’t we focus on meeting someone else who enjoys an orderly life? No! Says the article. Change into a la-la type who is fine with maybes and disorder.

Annoying. The article has disturbed me all day. I can’t even concentrate on this awful Jennifer Aniston romcom I was looking forward to.

Yes, yes, I’m all off-topic now, but no one is actually reading this, so like whatever! My consciousness is streaming, which is the important thing.

23 responses to “A Bash

  1. Be yourself, unapologetically.

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  2. The dang “J” in me gets me in trouble more than I wish to admit. But I’m not judging those who think so, or maybe I am, ‘cuz like you said, it’s up to me what I want to do or not!? My, now you’ve got me streaming thoughts! Happy Saturday to you!

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  3. In my rarely humble opinion, Myers and Briggs should’ve worked at a capitalist’s zoo, sussing out the truly captive/skewed mammals to see which would get along/work together best. Freud, too! Bah, humbug. Signed, INFJ (if I recall the *helpful* work seminar correctly)

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  4. I’m someone who read this. I say stay J! Don’t you dare change a thing 🙂

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  5. I’m right there with you avoiding big, loud bashes. For one thing, I can’t hear well in noisy places anymore. It’s too much work. And J is not always a bad thing – especially with dating. I wish I had more J when I was dating. It would have saved me some time. That article was just wrong. You’re okay.

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  6. I know how it is about parties.

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  7. “He is his own best friend, and takes delight in privacy whereas the man of no virtue or ability is his own worst enemy and is terrified of solitude.”
    – Aristotle

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  8. Ennle Madresan

    I’m reading it–and fascinated…quickly followed by the similar annoyance you described, only I think mine escalated past “annoyed”. I am so sick of thinking I’m “weird, strange, not normal, difficult, not like others….” I’m not spontaneous, I know that–surprise guests or plans give me hives. Oh well… Have a good day 🙂

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    • You too! I guess if articles told us we were okay, we’d have no reason to read them. 😂


      • Ennle Madresan

        I stopped reading most articles ages ago…I only subscribe to Reader’s Digest for the jokes! And I don’t read online articles–unless they’re in blogs I Follow…which I keep to a bare minimum. We are definitely better than Okay–and I’d happily invite you over for a visit, dinner and/or dessert, because I do much better socially if it’s just one or a couple people. I say that because my place is really small–which I like–but crowds make me nervous, and loud crowds are a no-go 🙂

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  9. I’m not a big bash kind of a guy, either. At this point in my life, I’d rather hang with a few good friends and family than to go out and party hardy. As the song says, “The Thrill is Gone.”

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  10. I’m with you on this one. I’m with people all day so I seek solitude. I need it to survive! It’s good when one knows what the body and mind needs to stay healthy.

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