Your Narrative Voice

I’m not talking about writing, but about the narrator inside your head, directing your life.

What’s it saying?

It’s saying something. Listen…

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Is it telling you you’re a strong person who can accomplish your goals?

Is it telling you everyone’s out to get you?

Is it telling you you’re smart, funny, fat, stupid, helpful, bad-ass, invincible, a failure… ???

Here’s the thing. If you don’t like what that voice is saying, you can “change the conversation.” Gag, I know. But seriously, this is important. I didn’t realize until lately this was even a thing, and that I’ve changed my own narrative voice over the years. It was a hard, slow slog though, because I didn’t understand what was going on. Now that I do, it’s much easier to “hear” the voice and if it’s being unhelpful or negative, to switch the channel to something better. Eventually, the nasty, drag-you-down channel will be nothing but white noise, and you’ll listen to the good voice.

I could link to a bunch of articles, but you can find them yourself, if interested. I can’t pinpoint the exact time when this clicked for me, but I think it was within the year. One of the worst things my narrator used to tell me was that I couldn’t possibly be happy alone, and that if I felt happy without a partner, I was only deluding myself. I don’t know where this voice originated from ~ society, my mother, romance novels? But whatever, it was extremely bad for me. Now, I have obliterated it.

Another thing the voice used to say was that I wouldn’t appear successful and smart to other people if I didn’t have an advanced degree and a “professional” career. I’ve shut down that one, too.

This  has been your PSA for the week. 🙂

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8 responses to “Your Narrative Voice

  1. This is what an anxiety disorder is: your inner voice is constantly shrieking, “SOMETHING AWFUL IS ABOUT TO HAPPEN! EMERGENCY! FIRE! HORROR!” and you can’t change the conversation, or even turn down the volume, without drugs.

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  2. I love your gag-worthy posts. 🙂

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  3. I need to work on this!

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  4. I really, really *like* what you’ve written.

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  5. My inner voice is perpetually 22 years of age, but my body protests this.

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  6. I think that sometimes I don’t like what my inner voice is telling me, but . . . it’s right.

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  7. Where’s the like button on this thing? Shutting up one’s inner critic is the most important thing I think anyone should do.

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